Let’s create a future where love and family come first.
At heart, I'm a rebel with a cause—and a boatload of conviction.
I was born in 1968.
My mother used to tell me that I could never sit still, that it was like I had a "genie" inside me that just had to come out.
I was a bit of problem for the nuns in my all-girls' high school; but they loved me, they said, because no matter how much trouble I caused I was always respectful about it.
I'm originally from the Midwest, and I currently live in the Midwest. But I spent ten years on the East Coast—first for college, and then afterward when I married my college boyfriend, who was a New Yorker. We were married four years, and then we divorced. We did not have children. It was a very painful time in my life.
I've since been married for 23 years to a Renaissance man who grew up not far from where I lived as a child, and we have two college-age kids. A son and a daughter. We think they rock; but of course they're our kids so who wouldn't say that. But, really, they do rock.
I'm obsessed with the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
I have the greatest assistant a girl could ever have. Without her, I am nothing.
I love to bake, but I rarely do anymore because then it sits around with no kids at home, and I'll end up eating all of it.
I miss my kids terribly and want them to come home. But they're doing what they should be doing, and I'm excited to be an empty-nester.
I have a lot more to accomplish in life. Pretty sure I'm just getting started.
In this section used to be all the stuff about how I'm the author of five books and a columnist and contributor for various publications. It said that my 2012 article at Fox News, "The War on Men," remains one of Fox's most read op-eds in history and that I've made appearances on Tucker Carlson Tonight as well as on The View. If you're looking for that formal bio, you can access it here.
And if you want to see my portfolio, click here.
But none of that gets to the heart of why I do what I do.
I come from a long line of strong and independent-minded women who viewed their role as wives and mothers to be their most important. The women in my family loved men and loved being married. I was never taught that women are victims of the patriarchy or that women should "never depend on a man."
On the contrary, marriage and family was valued and prioritized above all else.
Still, that didn't translate to not getting an education or pursuing a career. The women in my family all have degrees—even Masters' degrees—and pursued careers. But they did it in piecemeal fashion, with the needs of their families taking center stage.
Like most women today, I was raised to believe the world was my oyster. But I was also taught that choices have trade-offs. Women can't 'have it all' at once, but they can get most of what they want over the course of a lifetime.
This empowering mindset toward men and marriage, along with the sound advice I received about life and love, is what allowed me to avoid the pitfalls that plague so many women when it comes to sex & dating, marriage & motherhood, and work-family balance.
American women are in desperate need of a new life and relationship roadmap, and I'm thrilled to be able to provide one!
What happened to chivalry?
By Suzanne Venker
A friend of mine whose mother died recently was going through her parents’ memorabilia and unearthed a Western Union telegram from 1954 that her father sent her mother just before they married. Here’s what it said: