Do you ever ask yourself why marriage and relationships are so much harder than they used to be?
There are three main reasons.
One, the modern generation is largely a product of divorce. How can we expect them to know how to build a relationship that lasts when they've never seen it modeled?
Two, the culture sets men and women up to fail by preaching two narratives that undermine their success in love: that women should be independent at all costs and should "never depend on a man," and that men are Neanderthals. On what planet can this lead to relationship success?
Three, we're continually told that sex differences (and thus, sex roles) are social constructs rooted in backward thinking—as though biology is bogus. This is a profound lie that drives a massive wedge between the sexes.
It should come as no surprise, then, that marriages and relationships fail.
If you want to succeed in love, you must reject cultural narratives that undermine your success in this domain and adopt an entirely new mindset. You need to throw out everything you've learned since the day you were born and start over from scratch. Are you ready?
In this section used to be all the stuff about how I'm the author of five books and a columnist and contributor for various publications. It said that my 2012 article at Fox News, "The War on Men," remains one of Fox's most read op-eds in history and that I've made appearances on Tucker Carlson Tonight as well as on The View. There were lots of other accolades, too.
If you're looking for a formal bio, you can access that here.
But none of it gets to the heart of why I do what I do.
I come from a long line of strong and independent-minded women who viewed their role as wives and mothers to be their most important. The women in my family loved men and loved being married. I was never taught that women are victims of the patriarchy or that women should "never depend on a man." On the contrary, marriage and family was valued and prioritized above all else.
But that didn't translate to not getting an education or pursuing a career. The women in my family all have degrees—even Masters' degrees—and pursued careers. But they did it in piecemeal fashion, with the needs of their families taking center stage.
Like most women today, I was raised to believe the world was my oyster. But I was also taught that choices have trade-offs. Women can't 'have it all' at once, but they can get most of what they want over the course of a lifetime.
This empowering mindset toward men and marriage, along with the sound advice I received about life and love, is what allowed me to avoid the pitfalls that plague so many women when it comes to sex & dating, marriage & motherhood, and work-family balance.
American women are in desperate need of a new life and relationship roadmap, and I'm thrilled to be able to provide it.
What happened to chivalry?
By Suzanne Venker
A friend of mine whose mother died recently was going through her parents’ memorabilia and unearthed a Western Union telegram from 1954 that her father sent her mother just before they married. Here’s what it said: