Suzanne Venker

What to Tell Our Sons about Women, Work, Sex and #Metoo

January 15, 2018 by Suzanne Venker

Each and every day for the past several months, after my almost 15-year old son showers and dresses for school, he walks into our kitchen to hear NPR talking about yet another man who’s been accused of sexual harassment.About 20 minutes later, he and I get into our car, turn on Fox radio (Did you hear that, Obama? Some of us listen to Fox and NPR—you should try it!) and land on the same topic. Later that day, when I pick my son up from school, he gets in the car and what do you know: more of the

How can highly educated successful women find lasting love?

December 18, 2017 by Suzanne Venker

In my last post, I offered 6 reasons why gender role reversal—in which the wife makes the money while the husband stays home—typically doesn’t work. As I was working on the article, I received an email from a woman who asked this question:What practical advice vis a vis finding a suitable mate do you have for women who have already completed a high degree of education and command large salaries? I sometimes feel (perhaps inaccurately) that there is a dearth of educated successful men relative to

What we can all learn from Matt Lauer’s fall from grace

November 30, 2017 by Suzanne Venker

Personally, I’ve never been more proud of having made my family, my relationships, the focus of my life instead of my career. It wasn’t easy going against the grain all those years, but it has made all the difference.That’s what I thought of when I heard the news of Matt Lauer’s firing. I didn’t think, “Oh, that scumbag.” Or, “There goes another sexual predator.” No, what I thought was that “inappropriate sexual behavior” can mean anything. Literally, anything.I’m not suggesting Lauer is

What It Means to Marry Smart

November 22, 2017 by Suzanne Venker

Last week I wrote an article for Fox News entitled entitled “Women Marrying ‘Down’ Is Nothing to Celebrate.” It’s essentially an explanation of hypergamy, or the desire of most women to marry a man who’s either more educated or successful than they.This phenomenon is still very much alive and is grounded is evolutionary biology, for two reasons. One, respect is the underpinning of any good marriage; and women who rise above their husbands tend to lose respect for them—which then rears its ugly

Smart Men Don’t Marry Feminists

October 10, 2017 by Suzanne Venker

Have you ever made your husband a sandwich? If so, you should be ashamed of yourself. Don’t you realize such behavior sets women back decades?That’s the message of a new article in The Daily Telegraph, entitled “When making a sandwich is a crime against feminism,” about an Australian woman named Maddie who asked a Facebook group of 26,186 mothers whether anyone had some yummy alternatives for her husband’s lunches, which she said she makes for him every day.Now that’s what anyone I know would

What Ivanka Trump’s Confession Reveals About Modern Motherhood

September 22, 2017 by Suzanne Venker

Whenever the media compare the lives of women today with the lives of women ‘back in the day,’ it’s almost always framed as net gain for us. But as Ivanka Trump’s explanation for why she suffered from postpartum depression demonstrates, the losses modern women have incurred are huge. According to BabyCenter.com, postpartum depression “results from a combination of hormonal, environmental, emotional, and genetic factors that are beyond your control. Other factors include the physical exhaustion

7 Reasons Why I’m Not a Feminist

September 19, 2017 by Suzanne Venker

Over the years I’ve spoken out against feminism, I’ve had to explain ad nauseam that feminism is not what it claims to be. I’ve said from the beginning that its ultimate goal is the destruction of the family. Or more specifically, the destruction of motherhood. Here’s a perfect example. I’m in the middle of reading a memoir called At Home in the World, by Joyce Maynard, who coincidentally came of age in the heyday of feminism. In one of the letters Maynard wrote in the 1960s to the writer J.D.