Suzanne Venker
Author and Relationship Coach
I’ve been a Dave Ramsey fan since I first discovered him during COVID. Anyone who listens to my podcast knows I reference his work often and very much agree with his money advice. Wanna get out of debt? I highly recommend Dave’s 7 Baby Steps. Need a great online budgeting tool? You can’t go wrong …
This article originally appeared in Evie Magazine. Husbands are still the primary earner in 55% of married households, but almost 30% of married couples are now “egalitarian,” meaning they earn between 40% and 60% of the total household income, and 16% of wives earn more than their husbands. Put another way: The share of women who earn as …
Do young people today know what they’re getting into when they say “I do”? From what I can see, the answer is a resounding No. And honestly, why would they? As products of divorce, they have no role models. The culture in which they live praises the single life, as though marriage holds people back …
A young woman I know sent me a TikTok recently, one of those short POV clips, showing a stay-at-home mom explaining to her husband why she isn’t bringing in an income—despite having a Masters degree. I’m hearing this same theme over and over again: Millennial and Gen Y wives having to justify to their husbands …
We hear plenty in America about whether or not a man is “marriage material.” But no one ever asks what makes a woman marriage material. Seems to me that’s the more pertinent question since women are the ones who bow out of marriage the most. Indeed, the overwhelming majority of divorce is filed by wives …
Dear Men, Believe me, I know how confusing it is to be a man in 2022, and I suspect it’s twice as hard to understand what it is, exactly, that women want. For decades, women have been clamoring for “equality,” which as far as you can tell means they want to live traditionally male lives …
The average woman in the West today has been raised to believe she should “never depend on a man.” Sadly, this goes way beyond finances and ultimately shatters the trust that’s required to build a relationship that lasts. She usually internalized this for one of the following reasons: She was a product of divorce and …
A new study of 5,000 single Americans age 18 and older who aren’t in a committed relationship has found that nearly three-quarters of the participants say they want to find a spouse. These “post-pandemic singles” are now dating more deliberately. The question is, do they know how to date deliberately? Or more specifically, do women? …
Did you know that 72% of entrepreneurs suffer from mental-health issues? “No one said building a company is easy. But it’s time to be honest about how brutal it really is — and the price so many founders secretly pay,” notes Jessica Bruder at Inc. And yet, scroll through Instagram or TikTok, and you’ll soon …
It’s not a matter of whether or not women can do anything men can do. It’s a matter of whether or not they want to. And the data is clear: They don’t. New research (not the first of its kind) shows that roughly 43% of women leaders are burned out compared to only 31% of …
Dear Suzanne, I hope you’re well. I’ve listened to many of your videos searching for answers, but I am stuck for what to do in my current situation. I’m 31, and my partner is 33. We’ve been together for three years and have deeply struggled with the gender roles and cultural conditioning that has been …
“I can’t win with my wife.” “I’ve tried everything to make my wife happy, and nothing works.” “I feel like my wife has sex just to appease me.” Do any of these sound familiar? If so, you’re likely a great husband and father but a frustrated man whose marriage has lost its luster. Maybe you …
There isn’t a married couple on the planet who doesn’t have to deal with money—and for many couples, it’s a major source of conflict. Indeed, money is the #1 cause of divorce and marital strife. But money isn’t really the problem. The problem is all the emotions that surround it. Each of us bring a …
No woman is able to return to life as she knew it pre-baby. ~ So I had an interview scheduled with London author Louise Perry, whose new book, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution, was just released this week (although it’s been available in the UK for several months). Perry, who’s thirty years old, married, …
So my 22-year-old daughter, who graduates from college next month, recently received a wedding invitation from her freshman year roommate. At their university, like many others in the South, finding one’s spouse via fraternities and sororities isn’t that uncommon. Needless to say, my own college experience was decidedly different in that I graduated from a …
Never in the history of time have women been more lost when it comes to love. Raised to rule the world, rather than to become wives, women are shooting blanks when it comes to men and marriage. That so many women (and for that matter, men) are products of divorce doesn’t help matters. Neither does growing …
In the 2010 film Leap Year, the main character Anna (played by Amy Adams) is the quintessential modern woman: career focused and take charge. Toward the end of the film, Declan, her love interest, says to Anna, “Why don’t you stop trying to control everything in the known universe? It’s dinner. Have a little faith …
Only about a quarter of millennials are currently married. Ergo, it may seem that marriage is on the way out. But is it? According to Jeffrey M. Jones at Gallup, “The desire of those who have never been married to get married someday remains high, with more than eight in 10 singles hoping to marry.” Problem …
*This post is in response to last week’s article in the feminist publication Jezebel, entitled “Here Are Some Good Reasons to Divorce Your Husband This Fall.”* Let’s begin with the first thought that popped into my head when I read the title: There would never in a million years be an article entitled “Here Are …
When it comes to the balancing act, women are failing. That’s the message of this week’s edition of 60 Minutes Australia, a segment about the life of the 21st century wife and mother, who’s realizing what I’ve been preaching for two decades: Yes, women can ‘have it all.’ But not all at once. The subject …
Hey Friend! I know you may be thinking: How is my daughter ever going to find a man who’s as smart and as capable as she is? How is my son going to find a girl who’s worthy of him? Are my adult children ever going to get married and have kids? Well, you’re certainly not going …
Some time ago, a friend of mine told me about a woman she knows who was dating a man who earned considerably less than she did. To preserve his manhood, when they went out for dinner she would hand this man her debit card under the table so he could “pay” the bill. In what …
*VIDEO BELOW* It’s HERE! How to Get Hitched (and Stay Hitched): A 12-Step Program for Marriage-Minded Women has officially on the market! (Aug 31, 2021) You can now purchase a copy for yourself or for your adult daughter or for any single woman you know! ~ To the casual observer, marriage in America may appear …
NOTE: The title of this post is clickbait because I believe it’s critical for people to read. Someone who earns less than someone else or who doesn’t have a college degree is not “below” anyone. He or she simply took a different path, often a better one. Just wanted to make that clear first. ~ …
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