Suzanne Venker
Author and Relationship Coach
Dear Men, Believe me, I know how confusing it is to be a man in 2022, and I suspect it’s twice as hard to understand what it is, exactly, that women want. For decades, women have been clamoring for “equality,” which as far as you can tell means they want to live traditionally male lives …
The average woman in the West today has been raised to believe she should “never depend on a man.” Sadly, this goes way beyond finances and ultimately shatters the trust that’s required to build a relationship that lasts. She usually internalized this for one of the following reasons: She was a product of divorce and …
A new study of 5,000 single Americans age 18 and older who aren’t in a committed relationship has found that nearly three-quarters of the participants say they want to find a spouse. These “post-pandemic singles” are now dating more deliberately. The question is, do they know how to date deliberately? Or more specifically, do women? …
Did you know that 72% of entrepreneurs suffer from mental-health issues? “No one said building a company is easy. But it’s time to be honest about how brutal it really is — and the price so many founders secretly pay,” notes Jessica Bruder at Inc. And yet, scroll through Instagram or TikTok, and you’ll soon …
It’s not a matter of whether or not women can do anything men can do. It’s a matter of whether or not they want to. And the data is clear: They don’t. New research (not the first of its kind) shows that roughly 43% of women leaders are burned out compared to only 31% of …
According to a new article from the BBC (and it isn’t the first on this subject), more and more millennials around the world are in sexless marriages. The question is why. As is often the case the case, the answers are varied. But at the core of it lies an overarching theme. Millennials are facing …
Dear Suzanne, I hope you’re well. I’ve listened to many of your videos searching for answers, but I am stuck for what to do in my current situation. I’m 31, and my partner is 33. We’ve been together for three years and have deeply struggled with the gender roles and cultural conditioning that has been …
“I can’t win with my wife.” “I’ve tried everything to make my wife happy, and nothing works.” “I feel like my wife has sex just to appease me.” Do any of these sound familiar? If so, you’re likely a great husband and father but a frustrated man whose marriage has lost its luster. Maybe you …
There isn’t a married couple on the planet who doesn’t have to deal with money—and for many couples, it’s a major source of conflict. Indeed, money is the #1 cause of divorce and marital strife. But money isn’t really the problem. The problem is all the emotions that surround it. Each of us bring a …
Don’t marry the first person you fall in love with. The more relationship experience you have before getting married, the better. That way you’ll know yourself better when you say, ‘I do.’ For decades this has been the relationship narrative passed on to the young and unattached. But my experience as a relationship coach suggests …
No woman is able to return to life as she knew it pre-baby. ~ So I had an interview scheduled with London author Louise Perry, whose new book, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution, was just released this week (although it’s been available in the UK for several months). Perry, who’s thirty years old, married, …
So my 22-year-old daughter, who graduates from college next month, recently received a wedding invitation from her freshman year roommate. At their university, like many others in the South, finding one’s spouse via fraternities and sororities isn’t that uncommon. Needless to say, my own college experience was decidedly different in that I graduated from a …
Never in the history of time have women been more lost when it comes to love. Raised to rule the world, rather than to become wives, women are shooting blanks when it comes to men and marriage. That so many women (and for that matter, men) are products of divorce doesn’t help matters. Neither does growing …
In the 2010 film Leap Year, the main character Anna (played by Amy Adams) is the quintessential modern woman: career focused and take charge. Toward the end of the film, Declan, her love interest, says to Anna, “Why don’t you stop trying to control everything in the known universe? It’s dinner. Have a little faith …
Only about a quarter of millennials are currently married. Ergo, it may seem that marriage is on the way out. But is it? According to Jeffrey M. Jones at Gallup, “The desire of those who have never been married to get married someday remains high, with more than eight in 10 singles hoping to marry.” Problem …
*This post is in response to last week’s article in the feminist publication Jezebel, entitled “Here Are Some Good Reasons to Divorce Your Husband This Fall.”* Let’s begin with the first thought that popped into my head when I read the title: There would never in a million years be an article entitled “Here Are …
When it comes to the balancing act, women are failing. That’s the message of this week’s edition of 60 Minutes Australia, a segment about the life of the 21st century wife and mother, who’s realizing what I’ve been preaching for two decades: Yes, women can ‘have it all.’ But not all at once. The subject …
Hey Friend! I know you may be thinking: How is my daughter ever going to find a man who’s as smart and as capable as she is? How is my son going to find a girl who’s worthy of him? Are my adult children ever going to get married and have kids? Well, you’re certainly not going …
Some time ago, a friend of mine told me about a woman she knows who was dating a man who earned considerably less than she did. To preserve his manhood, when they went out for dinner she would hand this man her debit card under the table so he could “pay” the bill. In what …
*VIDEO BELOW* It’s HERE! How to Get Hitched (and Stay Hitched): A 12-Step Program for Marriage-Minded Women has officially on the market! (Aug 31, 2021) You can now purchase a copy for yourself or for your adult daughter or for any single woman you know! ~ To the casual observer, marriage in America may appear …
NOTE: The title of this post is clickbait because I believe it’s critical for people to read. Someone who earns less than someone else or who doesn’t have a college degree is not “below” anyone. He or she simply took a different path, often a better one. Just wanted to make that clear first. ~ …
Hello Suzanne, I just wanted to thank you for the work that you do. Here is a little testimony on why I’m glad I found your content: I was born and raised in an African country. I had a good childhood and moved to the West when I was about 9 years old. I was …
I had a conversation with my daughter about dating back when she was 18, whereupon I (sadly) learned that she was uncomfortable with the expectation that a man should pay on a date. Whaaat? I asked. That’s what men are supposed to do! I know, she said, but you don’t understand how things are today, Mom. …
How are men and women supposed to relate to each other in today’s culture? Despite societal questions concerning gender and masculine/feminine roles, most women still hope for marriage and motherhood sometime in their lives. But too many of them follow the cultural narrative that tells them to put off marriage until they've achieved career success. …
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