Suzanne Venker
Author and Relationship Coach
The following article was originally published at The Federalist. Twenty years ago, I wrote my first book about why women can’t “have it all,” or at least all at once, despite what the culture tells them. At the time, the so-called Mommy Wars were raging. Women everywhere who’d been sold a bill of goods by …
You may have heard that divorce rates, particularly among the newly married, have skyrocketed amidst COVID-19. According to divorce attorney Michelle C. Thomas, coronavirus has “brought a lot of issues that may have been swept under the rug to the surface.” Those “issues” may vary from couple to couple, but for many millennials they tend …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. It’s bad enough when Hollywood glorifies divorce, but it’s even worse when it’s promoted by everyday wives as liberation for American women. A recent article in Glamour shines the light not on one woman’s story but on an ethos among the modern generation. Simply put, many millennials have …
The first indication you’re talking to a married member of the modern generation is when the wife or husband says, “We’re pregnant.” Couples in the past would never dream of saying something so silly—because men do not get pregnant. But to the modern generation, there are no distinctions between women and men. They are one …
A podcast is simply a program made available in digital format for automatic download over the Internet. What makes a podcast so great is that all of its content resides on one website called a host site. When you subscribe to a podcast with a podcast app like Apple Podcasts or Spotify, the app goes …
A coaching client (and podcast listener) of mine recently sent an email with the following question: How did your husband, a product of divorce, learn to stop fearing divorce or abandonment every time you two had an argument or problem? I listened to your latest podcast where he mentions that, but I would like to …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. Last week, Fox Nation’s Tomi Lahren proved in spades with her “PSA for Boyish Men” why my coaching business is booming. Millennial women may be ’rockin in the marketplace, but they’re shooting blanks when it comes to love. They have no clue how to attract and …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. I can personally vouch for the groundbreaking new study about relationship satisfaction that finds it’s not who you’re with that determines a successful relationship but the dynamic that exists between you. Samantha Joel, the study’s lead author, told CNN that she and her colleagues analyzed information on more than …
So my daughter is a Two. Known as the Helper, this Enneagram personality profile lends itself well to marriage. She couldn’t care less about being right; she has no desire to compete with anyone; and she’s naturally soft, patient, and kind. She’ll make some lucky man a fabulous wife. I’m not suggesting my daughter is …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. For the past several months, I’ve been an avid Dave Ramsey fan. If you know who he is, you either like him or hate him. If you don’t know who he is, he essentially teaches people how to get rid of debt and build wealth—something he …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. In the last week alone, I’ve spoken with three millennial women (who reached out for coaching) who are all in the same boat: they’re up to their eyeballs in debt, having gotten degree upon degree due to the pressure they felt from their parents and the culture …
Dear Husband, You may or many not know that the majority of my time is spent helping women be successful in love. That’s because I firmly believe women are the relationship navigators and thus have the ability to steer the marriage ship in the direction they want it to go. Once they embrace their femininity, …
If you and your spouse have been to marriage counseling to no avail, you’re not alone. It happens more often than you’d think. It’s not that there aren’t good marriage counselors “out there”—there are. But all too often, going to a marriage counselor can hurt, rather than help, a marriage. Here’s an excellent article—written by …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. American culture has done a superlative job of convincing women it’s in their best interest to postpone marriage and family as long as possible and to prioritize education and career instead. This plan, they were told, is better than the way their mothers did things—because women …
More than half of young people in America are single. That may not seem like a social crisis, but its ramifications are profound. Not to mention the fact that the majority of those who are single do not wish to remain so. Millennials, aka Generation Y, have been hit hardest when it comes to this …
In my last post, I wrote about 7 ways men can unleash their masculine core. I wrote it because the relationship between women and men is dying as a result of a complete sex role reversal—in which women have become more like men, and men have become more like women. The result is that both …
The following post is Part 2 of my last post, “The Other Problem That Has No Name.” It’s probably unseemly for a woman to tell a man how to unleash his masculine core. For a long time I didn’t want to write this; I kept telling people that men would rather hear about this subject …
On February 19, 1963, W.W. Norton published Betty Friedan’s The Feminine Mystique, the book that helped launch the 1970s feminist revolution. In it, Friedan identified what she believed was the widespread unhappiness of housewives in the mid-20th century and labeled this malaise the “feminine mystique.” Her underlying argument was that women’s lives were narrowed into …
I don’t know about you, but I used to never collect my thoughts. Rather, I shared them. If I didn’t like something, I’d say so. If I felt frustrated or tired, I’d announce it. If I had an opinion (and I almost always have an opinion), I’d share it. Basically, every thought and feeling I …
Listen, Gentlemen, we need to talk. First of all, obviously as a woman I can’t relate to what it’s like to be a man in the modern world. But I can see, very clearly, what’s happening in modern marriage and relationships—and it’s not pretty. In fact, it’s a downright disaster. I know you want a …
I had a coaching session recently in which a married couple kept referring to their money as “his” money and “her” money. It made me think of the number of married couples I’ve heard call in to The Dave Ramsey Show — a great podcast I highly recommend about how to take control of your …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. The other day on my podcast, I spoke with Rose Skeeters, a licensed professional counselor in Philadelphia who used to be a single mother of a son. That son is now 10 years old, and Rose has been married for several years to a great man. …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. I gave an interview the other day about the new FX/Hulu series, Mrs. America, the fictional account of the 1970s fight between feminists and my aunt, Phyllis Schlafly, over the Equal Rights Amendment. Feminists wanted it passed; Phyllis and her supporters didn’t. (If you’re interested, here’s the behind-the-scenes true …
Let me guess: When you first met your wife, you pulled out all the stops to “get” her. You put 100% effort into your appearance; you listened intently when she talked; and you told her how fabulous she was. Then, sometime down the road, you had sex. And when you did, it involved a lot of …
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