Suzanne Venker
Author and Relationship Coach
Dear Husband, You may or many not know that the majority of my time is spent helping women be successful in love. That’s because I firmly believe women are the relationship navigators and thus have the ability to steer the marriage ship in the direction they want it to go. Once they embrace their femininity, …
If you and your spouse have been to marriage counseling to no avail, you’re not alone. It happens more often than you’d think. It’s not that there aren’t good marriage counselors “out there”—there are. But all too often, going to a marriage counselor can hurt, rather than help, a marriage. Here’s an excellent article—written by …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. American culture has done a superlative job of convincing women it’s in their best interest to postpone marriage and family as long as possible and to prioritize education and career instead. This plan, they were told, is better than the way their mothers did things—because women …
More than half of young people in America are single. That may not seem like a social crisis, but its ramifications are profound. Not to mention the fact that the majority of those who are single do not wish to remain so. Millennials, aka Generation Y, have been hit hardest when it comes to this …
In my last post, I wrote about 7 ways men can unleash their masculine core. I wrote it because the relationship between women and men is dying as a result of a complete sex role reversal—in which women have become more like men, and men have become more like women. The result is that both …
The following post is Part 2 of my last post, “The Other Problem That Has No Name.” It’s probably unseemly for a woman to tell a man how to unleash his masculine core. For a long time I didn’t want to write this; I kept telling people that men would rather hear about this subject …
On February 19, 1963, W.W. Norton published Betty Friedan’s The Feminine Mystique, the book that helped launch the 1970s feminist revolution. In it, Friedan identified what she believed was the widespread unhappiness of housewives in the mid-20th century and labeled this malaise the “feminine mystique.” Her underlying argument was that women’s lives were narrowed into …
I don’t know about you, but I used to never collect my thoughts. Rather, I shared them. If I didn’t like something, I’d say so. If I felt frustrated or tired, I’d announce it. If I had an opinion (and I almost always have an opinion), I’d share it. Basically, every thought and feeling I …
Listen, Gentlemen, we need to talk. First of all, obviously as a woman I can’t relate to what it’s like to be a man in the modern world. But I can see, very clearly, what’s happening in modern marriage and relationships—and it’s not pretty. In fact, it’s a downright disaster. I know you want a …
I had a coaching session recently in which a married couple kept referring to their money as “his” money and “her” money. It made me think of the number of married couples I’ve heard call in to The Dave Ramsey Show — a great podcast I highly recommend about how to take control of your …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. The other day on my podcast, I spoke with Rose Skeeters, a licensed professional counselor in Philadelphia who used to be a single mother of a son. That son is now 10 years old, and Rose has been married for several years to a great man. …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. I gave an interview the other day about the new FX/Hulu series, Mrs. America, the fictional account of the 1970s fight between feminists and my aunt, Phyllis Schlafly, over the Equal Rights Amendment. Feminists wanted it passed; Phyllis and her supporters didn’t. (If you’re interested, here’s the behind-the-scenes true …
Let me guess: When you first met your wife, you pulled out all the stops to “get” her. You put 100% effort into your appearance; you listened intently when she talked; and you told her how fabulous she was. Then, sometime down the road, you had sex. And when you did, it involved a lot of …
The first time I took to the computer to write a book, or to attempt to write a book, I’d quit teaching. I was so disturbed by what I’d witnessed in public schools I started reading voraciously about education. That research, along with my personal experience, ignited a fire that never went out. Though I …
The Equal Rights Amendment (ERA) was a proposed amendment to the United States Constitution. It was advertised as a great benefit to women, something that would rescue them from centuries of second-class citizenship and for the first time put women in the constitution. The argument of those who were for it was that American women …
Are you one of those wives? You know which kind I mean: the kind who nags her husband (i.e. pleads, cajoles, yells, etc.) to try and get him to do something. I know, I know: How else will anything get done if you don’t nag? I get it. But I have one question. How’s that workin for ya? The problem …
For more than twenty years I’ve been fighting back against feminism, waking people up to the cult-like nature of a movement that claims to be empowering but in reality is the exact opposite. Feminism is a failure is because it is rooted in victimhood and deliberately drives a wedge between women and men. Its entire …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. I know it’s not trendy to suggest women marry earlier rather than later. But just because something’s unpopular doesn’t mean it’s wrong or even a bad idea. Smoking was at one time hugely popular, and look how dumb that was. This also isn’t an argument for …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. I can’t think of anyone whose advice to women is more destructive than Sheryl Sandberg’s. From her considerable perch over the past ten years, Sandberg has told women to “lean in” to their careers at the expense of being with their children. She has insisted men …
It takes a non-feminist mind, or the absence of a knee-jerk response to male guilt, to represent one of the most notorious alleged sexual predators in America. And yet Harvey Weinstein’s lead defense attorney, Donna Rotunno, calls herself “the ultimate feminist.” I understand why. Her argument is that if you want a society in which men and …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. I feel bad for women with really big jobs who make a boatload of money. Somewhere along the line, they got the message (from their mothers, from the culture, etc.) that a high-paying career should be their life’s goal. As a result, from the time these …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. In my day (I’m 51, so an 80s girl), romantic relationships weren’t complicated. You met someone, you were attracted to him or her, you got along great, and you started dating. As in, actual dating: the guy asked the girl to dinner and a movie, and …
This article was originally published at The Federalist. Susan Forray is a 44-year-old divorced actuary who wrote in The New York Times about her relationship with a man unlike all the others she dated in the past, in that he believed in traditional gender roles. This gentleman told Forray flat-out one day, “I’m the man. I should be …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. A new study by the University of Queensland in Australia found that women are more attracted to men with beards — which is very good to know, since bearded men are a dime a dozen these days. But it’s the reason women gave for why they’re attracted …
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