How to Build a Better Life implodes the narrative that women should prioritize career over family and provides a new path forward for single women who want to find a husband and for married mothers who want to work less so they can be home more.
Are you a single woman who's convinced you’ll never find a marriageable man? Or are you a married mother who wants to stay home with your children for a season, but your husband and family think you shouldn't?
If so, I'm guessing that it feels like everyone around you wants you to be a workhorse, while you just want to slow down.
You want to live a simpler life that’s centered on family, not on career. You want to raise your own babies, not put them in daycare. You want to live in your home, not use it as a place to sleep and shower.
In How to Build a Better Life, relationship and life coach Suzanne Venker charts a new course for women who want to prioritize love and family and build strong relationships at home.
You will learn:
- How to date for marriage, rather than for fun
- How to think differently about work-life balance
- How to live on less you can stay home with the littles
- The truth about daycare that no one told you
For years, women have been groomed to map out a career-focused life and to “worry about marriage later,” only to discover around the age of thirty that their priorities have changed. Problem is, they made professional, financial, and relational decisions based on a different set of priorities. Now they feel stuck.
The women who are most successful in life and in love play the long game throughout their twenties. But those who didn’t plan ahead aren’t doomed.
With the right support, encouragement, and education—about (among other things) the vast differences between women and men and about the irreducible needs of children—a woman at any stage of life can decide to change course and start prioritizing her relationships at home.
Whether you’re still single and looking for your person, or you’ve already found him and want to build a more balanced life, How to Build a Better Life is the reality check you need to counter the lies you’ve been fed about men, marriage, work and family—and about what it really means to build a happy life.
Table of Contents
Introduction: A Fatal Trade
Chapter 1: Live an examined life
Chapter 2: Prioritize marriage and family over career
Chapter 3: Unleash your feminine power
Chapter 4: Date with purpose
Chapter 5: Don’t not have babies or not stay home with them just because you have debt
Chapter 6: Change your definition of work-life balance
Chapter 7: Learn the truth about daycare (that no one ever told you)
Chapter 8: Love your life, not theirs
“Great book!! Thank you, Suzanne! I am a big fan. I found you a few weeks ago and can’t stop listening to your podcast! I began detoxing a few years ago from all the brainwashing I received at my liberal arts college. I recently turned 29 and although I began wanting a family a couple of years ago, it’s increasingly become a deep desire of mine that consumes my thoughts on a daily basis. The biological clock is real, and it’s ticking so hard right now for me. Thanks again for all your insights and wisdom! —Marie
“Omg! You are changing my life. You are saying out loud what every woman is thinking. I was raised by a strong, independent, feminist mother—very loving, I might add, but she didn’t believe in monogamy. I was a mess. For a long time. You are giving me hope and guidance, and I couldn’t be any happier in my marriage. THANK YOU. I’m so happy I found you!” – Kerri
“Suzanne, you’re changing lives. All the best from your little fan club here in Warsaw, Poland. I’m an ex-corporate successful STEM girl on her way to getting married and building a family…Never before have I felt so empowered.” – Zofia
“You’ve changed my life, and I couldn’t be more grateful! Our family is so much happier with my son out of daycare. Can’t believe how much better my life is in just the six months since I started applying your advice and all I’ve learned from your books and podcasts. Thank you, thank you!” – Chelsea
"I was always proud to be a strong independent women who didn’t need a man. My mom would say to me, 'You’re the CEO of your life; don’t depend on a man.' She had a list of things for me to accomplish before I settled down: get an education, have a career, travel the world, have money in the bank, buy real estate, and then consider finding a husband. I had a massive awakening at how society and my mother/parents programmed me to think and act…I did the work, found my amazing partner, and am now teaching my girlfriends how to rethink what we have been taught. I am SO grateful for your work, Suzanne."
Suzanne Venker is a relationship and life coach, and host of The Suzanne Venker Show. Most importantly, she is a wife of 26 years and a mother of two young adults.
“You have massively impacted the way I see and deal with men. Thank you from the bottom of my soul for the enlightening and truthful work that you share with the world!”
“The world and my own mother haven't spoken to be about any of this...I thought what I was feeling wasn't quite normal until I found your work. Thank you sooo much, Suzanne!”
Lily from Australia
“I love sharing Suzanne with jaded lonely girlfriends, lol.”
"Where the hell were you when I was a twenty-something?"
"This book does something that I had not thought possible: it synthesizes exactly how young women are thinking and acting in relationships and then gives them useful, practical solutions."