Suzanne Venker
Author and Relationship Coach
Not long ago I received an email from a man with a simple question: Is there a way for a guy to be “emasculation-proof”? How can men (even young men) become secure in their identity so as not to become emasculated in their relationships? So we’re clear, to be emasculated means to be made weak …
The basics of love are honestly so simple. Unfortunately, the main reason modern women struggle in their relationships is that they harbor erroneous beliefs about love. They’re moving through the world with scripts they learned from their parents and from the culture. And these scripts predict whether or not you’ll be successful in love. All …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. Kudos to Dr. Gillian Lockwood, medical director at the Midland Fertility Clinic in the U.K., for telling women what they need to know rather than what many want to hear. The ideal age to get pregnant, she said, is 25. Recognizing this fact doesn’t mean every woman …
So, BIG news. And I’m so excited to finally be able to share it. As of July 13, I will be on the radio. The Suzanne Venker Show will air every Saturday at noon and will also be available as a podcast, so anyone can listen from anywhere in the world at anytime. We will …
This article was published at the Washington Examiner. When it comes to the problems millennials face, we’re just not getting it. As I mentioned in my last post about the debt millennials have incurred, their predicament isn’t their fault. It is baby boomers who led millennials astray. “We suffered from the educational debt phenomenon because when …
Last week I wrote an article entitled “Ladies, Stop Trying to Have Sex Like a Man.” In it, I wrote that the birth control pill may keep women from getting pregnant, but it can’t do a thing about female nature. A woman’s unique sexual psychology isn’t designed for hookups. The oxytocin that floods her body …
For years now it has been the norm for Western women to view their twenties as that coveted time in which they’re supposed to “find themselves.” The assumption is that in the past, prior to feminists “freeing” women from their formerly oppressed lives, women tethered themselves to husbands and babies and “lost” themselves in the …
Last week, after an especially long day and an “epic” tantrum from her 3-year-old, Sarah Buckley Friedberg, a Massachusetts mother of three, posted on Facebook a mock ‘to-do list‘ that society expects of mothers today. The ending was inspired: “I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to lean OUT. Thanks for coming to my …
This article was originally published at Washington Examiner. A new finding at Pew Research Center claims that gender equality—worldwide, although a distinction must be made between its goals in the West and its goals in undeveloped nations—has risen exponentially at the same time family ties have weakened considerably. And here’s the frustrating part: While “roughly half or more” …
The following post is the third in a series of posts on modern American dating and young people’s inability to form lasting attachments that potentially lead to marriage. In Part 1 and Part 2 of this series, I addressed the modern generation’s inability to find and sustain successful long-term relationships—today, over half of 18-34 year …
I recently began a new series I’m doing called ‘Ask Suzanne,’ where I take questions and post them on my new You Tube page. For my first installment, I answered a mom’s question about what to tell her sons about navigating a culture steeped in female entitlement. Apparently her son had begun dating a girl who’s …
The following post is the second in a series of posts on modern American dating and young people’s inability to form lasting attachments that potentially lead to marriage. In Part 1 of this three-part series, I wrote that having a successful long-term relationship is the most pressing issue of our time. Generation Z has no …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. If you google “Notre Dame leggings,” you’ll quickly learn about Maryann White, the concerned mother of four boys who wrote a letter to the editor for the school’s newspaper about the leggings young women wear today, particularly at mass. Here’s a portion of what she wrote: “I …
A similar version of this article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. If you’re in a traditional(ish) marriage—that is, if you’re part of the majority of married women in America who are either not employed at all or who are employed part-time—you’ve hit the jackpot. Countless modern marriages are struggling today or falling apart …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. What if all you need to be successfully married is a change of attitude? Sound too good to be true? It isn’t. You’d be surprised what a simple shift in thinking can do. Your attitude is the single most important determinant of your success in life. …
The following post is the first of a series of posts on modern American dating and young people’s inability to form lasting attachments that potentially lead to marriage. Remember when dating was fun and relatively easy to do? Remember when it was viewed as a step toward a committed relationship or even marriage? Tell that …
The following article was written by “The Renaissance Woman,” a 30-year-old Millennial who’s going through a transformation of sorts and wants to caution other women her age to take dating and relationships more seriously. She has asked to write a few posts for my readers. This is her first. New York City is a thrilling …
I have a 19-year-old daughter in college who, like most young women her age, enjoys an abundance of support and guidance with respect to her professional endeavors—as she should. What she will not receive is any encouragement or direction for what will someday collide with those professional endeavors and, more importantly, what will have the …
Lynn, 38, was unhappy in her marriage. Her husband was a good man and a great father, and he made a good living. But Lynn was bored. She wanted the excitement of something new, and she wanted to be married to a wealthier man. After several affairs, Lynn finally found what she was looking for …
The year 2019 has begun with a bang. A gender bang, you might say. As if the APA’s new guidelines that deem masculinity “harmful” wasn’t bad enough, Gillette subsequently released a patronizing ad that targets masculinity as well. Even worse, it will air during the Super Bowl. I could wax poetic about the egregious cultural …
This article was first published at the Washington Examiner. As many of you know, I‘m finishing up a manuscript for a new book that helps women find Mr. Right and keep him by embracing sexual inequality, aka the innate differences between women and men. So-called gender equality presumes the sexes are interchangeable when they are not. …
This past week Tucker Carlson announced in a monologue that everyone’s goal should be “strong American families.” Sounds innocuous, right? Yet it isn’t, for precisely the reason Carlson gives: America’s elite refuse to address the greatest impediment to reaching this goal: The dearth of employed men and the subsequent disintegration of marriage. For pointing out …
Note: The following article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. Just because something’s not supposed to be said doesn’t mean it isn’t true. It just means you’re not supposed to say it. In a segment Wednesday about men in decline and what it means for the country, Tucker Carlson pointed out “study after study has …
I have a saying I keep on prominent display in my office. It reads: “Happiness is something you decide ahead of time.” I also keep those Seeds of Happiness lying around. Both help train my brain to be happy. I admit it’s not the most romantic route to happiness. It might even sound like I’m …
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