Suzanne Venker
Author and Relationship Coach
Dear Suzanne, I’m 29 and don’t feel anywhere close to marriage. Part of my frustration comes from the fact that for a large part of my 20s I haven’t been prioritizing the pursuit of romantic relationships at all, and I’m regretting it now, as I have been feeling more and more over the past few …
I’m at that parenting stage when our adult sons and daughters are knee deep in college, in jobs, and in relationships. As a result, I’m watching many of my friends’ kids, as well as my own, start planning for the future. My husband and I have a son and a daughter. And unlike many modern …
The following article was originally published at The Federalist. Twenty years ago, I wrote my first book about why women can’t “have it all,” or at least all at once, despite what the culture tells them. At the time, the so-called Mommy Wars were raging. Women everywhere who’d been sold a bill of goods by …
You may have heard that divorce rates, particularly among the newly married, have skyrocketed amidst COVID-19. According to divorce attorney Michelle C. Thomas, coronavirus has “brought a lot of issues that may have been swept under the rug to the surface.” Those “issues” may vary from couple to couple, but for many millennials they tend …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. It’s bad enough when Hollywood glorifies divorce, but it’s even worse when it’s promoted by everyday wives as liberation for American women. A recent article in Glamour shines the light not on one woman’s story but on an ethos among the modern generation. Simply put, many millennials have …
The first indication you’re talking to a married member of the modern generation is when the wife or husband says, “We’re pregnant.” Couples in the past would never dream of saying something so silly—because men do not get pregnant. But to the modern generation, there are no distinctions between women and men. They are one …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. Last week, Fox Nation’s Tomi Lahren proved in spades with her “PSA for Boyish Men” why my coaching business is booming. Millennial women may be ’rockin in the marketplace, but they’re shooting blanks when it comes to love. They have no clue how to attract and …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. In the last week alone, I’ve spoken with three millennial women (who reached out for coaching) who are all in the same boat: they’re up to their eyeballs in debt, having gotten degree upon degree due to the pressure they felt from their parents and the culture …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. American culture has done a superlative job of convincing women it’s in their best interest to postpone marriage and family as long as possible and to prioritize education and career instead. This plan, they were told, is better than the way their mothers did things—because women …
Listen, Gentlemen, we need to talk. First of all, obviously as a woman I can’t relate to what it’s like to be a man in the modern world. But I can see, very clearly, what’s happening in modern marriage and relationships—and it’s not pretty. In fact, it’s a downright disaster. I know you want a …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. The other day on my podcast, I spoke with Rose Skeeters, a licensed professional counselor in Philadelphia who used to be a single mother of a son. That son is now 10 years old, and Rose has been married for several years to a great man. …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. I gave an interview the other day about the new FX/Hulu series, Mrs. America, the fictional account of the 1970s fight between feminists and my aunt, Phyllis Schlafly, over the Equal Rights Amendment. Feminists wanted it passed; Phyllis and her supporters didn’t. (If you’re interested, here’s the behind-the-scenes true …
The Equal Rights Amendment (ERA) was a proposed amendment to the United States Constitution. It was advertised as a great benefit to women, something that would rescue them from centuries of second-class citizenship and for the first time put women in the constitution. The argument of those who were for it was that American women …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. I can’t think of anyone whose advice to women is more destructive than Sheryl Sandberg’s. From her considerable perch over the past ten years, Sandberg has told women to “lean in” to their careers at the expense of being with their children. She has insisted men …
It takes a non-feminist mind, or the absence of a knee-jerk response to male guilt, to represent one of the most notorious alleged sexual predators in America. And yet Harvey Weinstein’s lead defense attorney, Donna Rotunno, calls herself “the ultimate feminist.” I understand why. Her argument is that if you want a society in which men and …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. I feel bad for women with really big jobs who make a boatload of money. Somewhere along the line, they got the message (from their mothers, from the culture, etc.) that a high-paying career should be their life’s goal. As a result, from the time these …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. In my day (I’m 51, so an 80s girl), romantic relationships weren’t complicated. You met someone, you were attracted to him or her, you got along great, and you started dating. As in, actual dating: the guy asked the girl to dinner and a movie, and …
This article was originally published at The Federalist. Susan Forray is a 44-year-old divorced actuary who wrote in The New York Times about her relationship with a man unlike all the others she dated in the past, in that he believed in traditional gender roles. This gentleman told Forray flat-out one day, “I’m the man. I should be …
A similar version of this article was published at the Washington Examiner. I have a proudly progressive male friend who married a feminist some years ago who asked him to take her name. They didn’t end up going that route, but my friend seriously considered it. I thought of him when I read this recent …
There was a time, not long ago, when few woman would consider marrying a man who lacked ambition. Not the kind of unbridled ambition that fosters deep pockets—the kind that propels a man to push forward for the sake of his family, as well as for his own mental health. Men need work in a …
Listen to Suzanne talk to Tucker Carlson about her article, “4 Feminist Lies That Are Making Women Miserable.” (Dec. 5, 2019)
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. This month marks the roughly third year in a row we must endure a #MeToo redo of the hit holiday single, Baby It’s Cold Outside. The latest version, sung by John Legend and Kelly Clarkson, is the most extreme. It chucks all references to the man trying to …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. I’m convinced Tucker Carlson is the only television host who understands the fallout of feminism and is willing to discuss it on national TV. During a recent interview with me on his program, Carlson noted the following: “I don’t think anything has changed our society more for the worse” than feminism. …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. Almost exactly seven years ago, I wrote an article headlined “The War on Men” that went viral. The best feedback came not from the legions of angry feminists whose emails flooded my inbox, but from clinical psychiatrist Paul Dobransky, M.D., who wrote a response piece in Psychology …
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