Suzanne Venker
Author and Relationship Coach
A young woman I know sent me a TikTok recently, one of those short POV clips, showing a stay-at-home mom explaining to her husband why she isn’t bringing in an income—despite having a Masters degree. I’m hearing this same theme over and over again: Millennial and Gen Y wives having to justify to their husbands …
Do young people today know what they’re getting into when they say “I do”? From what I can see, the answer is a resounding No. And honestly, why would they? As products of divorce, they have no role models. The culture in which they live praises the single life, as though marriage holds people back …
We hear plenty in America about whether or not a man is “marriage material.” But no one ever asks what makes a woman marriage material. Seems to me that’s the more pertinent question since women are the ones who bow out of marriage the most. Indeed, the overwhelming majority of divorce is filed by wives …
The average woman in the West today has been raised to believe she should “never depend on a man.” Sadly, this goes way beyond finances and ultimately shatters the trust that’s required to build a relationship that lasts. She usually internalized this for one of the following reasons: She was a product of divorce and …
A new study of 5,000 single Americans age 18 and older who aren’t in a committed relationship has found that nearly three-quarters of the participants say they want to find a spouse. These “post-pandemic singles” are now dating more deliberately. The question is, do they know how to date deliberately? Or more specifically, do women? …
It’s not a matter of whether or not women can do anything men can do. It’s a matter of whether or not they want to. And the data is clear: They don’t. New research (not the first of its kind) shows that roughly 43% of women leaders are burned out compared to only 31% of …
According to a new article from the BBC (and it isn’t the first on this subject), more and more millennials around the world are in sexless marriages. The question is why. As is often the case the case, the answers are varied. But at the core of it lies an overarching theme. Millennials are facing …
Dear Suzanne, I hope you’re well. I’ve listened to many of your videos searching for answers, but I am stuck for what to do in my current situation. I’m 31, and my partner is 33. We’ve been together for three years and have deeply struggled with the gender roles and cultural conditioning that has been …
“I can’t win with my wife.” “I’ve tried everything to make my wife happy, and nothing works.” “I feel like my wife has sex just to appease me.” Do any of these sound familiar? If so, you’re likely a great husband and father but a frustrated man whose marriage has lost its luster. Maybe you …
There isn’t a married couple on the planet who doesn’t have to deal with money—and for many couples, it’s a major source of conflict. Indeed, money is the #1 cause of divorce and marital strife. But money isn’t really the problem. The problem is all the emotions that surround it. Each of us bring a …
Don’t marry the first person you fall in love with. The more relationship experience you have before getting married, the better. That way you’ll know yourself better when you say, ‘I do.’ For decades this has been the relationship narrative passed on to the young and unattached. But my experience as a relationship coach suggests …
No woman is able to return to life as she knew it pre-baby. ~ So I had an interview scheduled with London author Louise Perry, whose new book, The Case Against the Sexual Revolution, was just released this week (although it’s been available in the UK for several months). Perry, who’s thirty years old, married, …
So my 22-year-old daughter, who graduates from college next month, recently received a wedding invitation from her freshman year roommate. At their university, like many others in the South, finding one’s spouse via fraternities and sororities isn’t that uncommon. Needless to say, my own college experience was decidedly different in that I graduated from a …
Referring to an article in the Wall Street Journal entitled “Women Still Do More of the Housework. Here’s How to Share the Load,” Suzanne discusses why the mental load of motherhood is not a social construct but a matter of sheer biology. IN THIS EPISODE: 3:50 The “50/50” marriage does not take …
In the 2010 film Leap Year, the main character Anna (played by Amy Adams) is the quintessential modern woman: career focused and take charge. Toward the end of the film, Declan, her love interest, says to Anna, “Why don’t you stop trying to control everything in the known universe? It’s dinner. Have a little faith …
*This post is in response to last week’s article in the feminist publication Jezebel, entitled “Here Are Some Good Reasons to Divorce Your Husband This Fall.”* Let’s begin with the first thought that popped into my head when I read the title: There would never in a million years be an article entitled “Here Are …
When it comes to the balancing act, women are failing. That’s the message of this week’s edition of 60 Minutes Australia, a segment about the life of the 21st century wife and mother, who’s realizing what I’ve been preaching for two decades: Yes, women can ‘have it all.’ But not all at once. The subject …
Some time ago, a friend of mine told me about a woman she knows who was dating a man who earned considerably less than she did. To preserve his manhood, when they went out for dinner she would hand this man her debit card under the table so he could “pay” the bill. In what …
*VIDEO BELOW* It’s HERE! How to Get Hitched (and Stay Hitched): A 12-Step Program for Marriage-Minded Women has officially on the market! (Aug 31, 2021) You can now purchase a copy for yourself or for your adult daughter or for any single woman you know! ~ To the casual observer, marriage in America may appear …
NOTE: The title of this post is clickbait because I believe it’s critical for people to read. Someone who earns less than someone else or who doesn’t have a college degree is not “below” anyone. He or she simply took a different path, often a better one. Just wanted to make that clear first. ~ …
Hello Suzanne, I just wanted to thank you for the work that you do. Here is a little testimony on why I’m glad I found your content: I was born and raised in an African country. I had a good childhood and moved to the West when I was about 9 years old. I was …
How are men and women supposed to relate to each other in today’s culture? Despite societal questions concerning gender and masculine/feminine roles, most women still hope for marriage and motherhood sometime in their lives. But too many of them follow the cultural narrative that tells them to put off marriage until they've achieved career success. …
Did you know that just being nice to your husband can save your marriage? It’s true. And yet the number of women who’ve been groomed to think being nice to their husbands is beneath them is off the charts. (Thanks, feminism.) Women who win at love reject this bogus narrative because they love and understand, rather …
I had a coaching session the other day with a young woman who’s not engaged but who’s wisely assessing whether or not to continue a relationship with her boyfriend. Apparently this young man is very good to her and loves her very much, but she has legitimate concerns about whether or not their relationship will …
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