Suzanne Venker
Author and Relationship Coach
Some time ago, a friend of mine told me about a woman she knows who was dating a man who earned considerably less than she did. To preserve his manhood, when they went out for dinner she would hand this man her debit card under the table so he could “pay” the bill. In what …
The following article was originally published at The Federalist. Twenty years ago, I wrote my first book about why women can’t “have it all,” or at least all at once, despite what the culture tells them. At the time, the so-called Mommy Wars were raging. Women everywhere who’d been sold a bill of goods by …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. Last week, Fox Nation’s Tomi Lahren proved in spades with her “PSA for Boyish Men” why my coaching business is booming. Millennial women may be ’rockin in the marketplace, but they’re shooting blanks when it comes to love. They have no clue how to attract and …
Listen, Gentlemen, we need to talk. First of all, obviously as a woman I can’t relate to what it’s like to be a man in the modern world. But I can see, very clearly, what’s happening in modern marriage and relationships—and it’s not pretty. In fact, it’s a downright disaster. I know you want a …
It takes a non-feminist mind, or the absence of a knee-jerk response to male guilt, to represent one of the most notorious alleged sexual predators in America. And yet Harvey Weinstein’s lead defense attorney, Donna Rotunno, calls herself “the ultimate feminist.” I understand why. Her argument is that if you want a society in which men and …
This article was originally published at The Federalist. Susan Forray is a 44-year-old divorced actuary who wrote in The New York Times about her relationship with a man unlike all the others she dated in the past, in that he believed in traditional gender roles. This gentleman told Forray flat-out one day, “I’m the man. I should be …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. This month marks the roughly third year in a row we must endure a #MeToo redo of the hit holiday single, Baby It’s Cold Outside. The latest version, sung by John Legend and Kelly Clarkson, is the most extreme. It chucks all references to the man trying to …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. I’m convinced Tucker Carlson is the only television host who understands the fallout of feminism and is willing to discuss it on national TV. During a recent interview with me on his program, Carlson noted the following: “I don’t think anything has changed our society more for the worse” than feminism. …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. Dolly Parton is a kindred spirit. I just love that woman. Apparently everyone else does, too. A new podcast about Parton’s life, produced by NPR and entitled Dolly Parton’s America, premiered last month and will feature nine episodes that help explain why Dolly Parton, in this “intensely …
About a week ago The Federalist published an article of mine in which I list 8 dating rules for women that lead to marriage. Here they are, in no particular order: 1. Let him chase you. 2. Don’t offer to pay. 3. Never have more than two drinks. 4. Don’t be the giddy girl in …
One of America’s most recognizable board games, Monopoly, has created a new version celebrating girl power. In Ms. Monopoly, female players start with $1,900, compared to $1500 for each male player. And when girls pass ‘Go,’ they don’t get the standard $200. They get $240. So, just to get this straight: In Hasbro’s lame attempt to …
This article was originally published at Washington Examiner. Millions of single women in America today cannot for the life of them find a “suitable” husband. That’s according to a new study from researchers at Cornell University, who examined data on actual recent marriages and found women’s ideal husband has an average income about 58% higher than the actual unmarried …
A similar version of this article was published at Washington Examiner. What do you imagine would be a logical response to a massive political movement that seeks to destroy not just men in power who take advantage of female coworkers but any man who has any type of sexual interaction with a woman at work …
Not long ago I received an email from a man with a simple question: Is there a way for a guy to be “emasculation-proof”? How can men (even young men) become secure in their identity so as not to become emasculated in their relationships? So we’re clear, to be emasculated means to be made weak …
Last week I wrote an article entitled “Ladies, Stop Trying to Have Sex Like a Man.” In it, I wrote that the birth control pill may keep women from getting pregnant, but it can’t do a thing about female nature. A woman’s unique sexual psychology isn’t designed for hookups. The oxytocin that floods her body …
For years now it has been the norm for Western women to view their twenties as that coveted time in which they’re supposed to “find themselves.” The assumption is that in the past, prior to feminists “freeing” women from their formerly oppressed lives, women tethered themselves to husbands and babies and “lost” themselves in the …
Last week, after an especially long day and an “epic” tantrum from her 3-year-old, Sarah Buckley Friedberg, a Massachusetts mother of three, posted on Facebook a mock ‘to-do list‘ that society expects of mothers today. The ending was inspired: “I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to lean OUT. Thanks for coming to my …
The following post is the third in a series of posts on modern American dating and young people’s inability to form lasting attachments that potentially lead to marriage. In Part 1 and Part 2 of this series, I addressed the modern generation’s inability to find and sustain successful long-term relationships—today, over half of 18-34 year …
The following post is the second in a series of posts on modern American dating and young people’s inability to form lasting attachments that potentially lead to marriage. In Part 1 of this three-part series, I wrote that having a successful long-term relationship is the most pressing issue of our time. Generation Z has no …
A similar version of this article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. If you’re in a traditional(ish) marriage—that is, if you’re part of the majority of married women in America who are either not employed at all or who are employed part-time—you’ve hit the jackpot. Countless modern marriages are struggling today or falling apart …
The following post is the first of a series of posts on modern American dating and young people’s inability to form lasting attachments that potentially lead to marriage. Remember when dating was fun and relatively easy to do? Remember when it was viewed as a step toward a committed relationship or even marriage? Tell that …
I have a 19-year-old daughter in college who, like most young women her age, enjoys an abundance of support and guidance with respect to her professional endeavors—as she should. What she will not receive is any encouragement or direction for what will someday collide with those professional endeavors and, more importantly, what will have the …
Lynn, 38, was unhappy in her marriage. Her husband was a good man and a great father, and he made a good living. But Lynn was bored. She wanted the excitement of something new, and she wanted to be married to a wealthier man. After several affairs, Lynn finally found what she was looking for …
The year 2019 has begun with a bang. A gender bang, you might say. As if the APA’s new guidelines that deem masculinity “harmful” wasn’t bad enough, Gillette subsequently released a patronizing ad that targets masculinity as well. Even worse, it will air during the Super Bowl. I could wax poetic about the egregious cultural …
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