Suzanne Venker
Author and Relationship Coach
Referring to an article in the Wall Street Journal entitled “Women Still Do More of the Housework. Here’s How to Share the Load,” Suzanne discusses why the mental load of motherhood is not a social construct but a matter of sheer biology. IN THIS EPISODE: 3:50 The “50/50” marriage does not take …
Some time ago, a friend of mine told me about a woman she knows who was dating a man who earned considerably less than she did. To preserve his manhood, when they went out for dinner she would hand this man her debit card under the table so he could “pay” the bill. In what …
If I had a dime for every breadwinning wife and mother I’ve heard from who’s angry and resentful for having to keep the family afloat financially and who wishes she and her husband hadn’t reversed roles, I’d be rich. Yes, some wives are content in this role. But they’re the exception, not the rule. It …
President Biden’s train wreck of a press conference last week overshadowed an equally disturbing event the day before. We would be wise not to forget the words he used on that day. March 24 was Equal Pay Day, a day that means absolutely nothing to the vast majority of Americans who are too savvy to …
The following article was originally published at The Federalist. Twenty years ago, I wrote my first book about why women can’t “have it all,” or at least all at once, despite what the culture tells them. At the time, the so-called Mommy Wars were raging. Women everywhere who’d been sold a bill of goods by …
The breakdown of the family, in all its many forms, has been and continues to be the single greatest travesty this country faces. When you look at almost every other issue—whether it’s violence, promiscuity, truancy, drugs, divorce, even anxiety—it almost always goes back to the beginning: how our children are raised. This is a very …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. Last week, Fox Nation’s Tomi Lahren proved in spades with her “PSA for Boyish Men” why my coaching business is booming. Millennial women may be ’rockin in the marketplace, but they’re shooting blanks when it comes to love. They have no clue how to attract and …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. In the last week alone, I’ve spoken with three millennial women (who reached out for coaching) who are all in the same boat: they’re up to their eyeballs in debt, having gotten degree upon degree due to the pressure they felt from their parents and the culture …
On February 19, 1963, W.W. Norton published Betty Friedan’s The Feminine Mystique, the book that helped launch the 1970s feminist revolution. In it, Friedan identified what she believed was the widespread unhappiness of housewives in the mid-20th century and labeled this malaise the “feminine mystique.” Her underlying argument was that women’s lives were narrowed into …
Listen, Gentlemen, we need to talk. First of all, obviously as a woman I can’t relate to what it’s like to be a man in the modern world. But I can see, very clearly, what’s happening in modern marriage and relationships—and it’s not pretty. In fact, it’s a downright disaster. I know you want a …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. I can’t think of anyone whose advice to women is more destructive than Sheryl Sandberg’s. From her considerable perch over the past ten years, Sandberg has told women to “lean in” to their careers at the expense of being with their children. She has insisted men …
It takes a non-feminist mind, or the absence of a knee-jerk response to male guilt, to represent one of the most notorious alleged sexual predators in America. And yet Harvey Weinstein’s lead defense attorney, Donna Rotunno, calls herself “the ultimate feminist.” I understand why. Her argument is that if you want a society in which men and …
This article was originally published at The Federalist. Susan Forray is a 44-year-old divorced actuary who wrote in The New York Times about her relationship with a man unlike all the others she dated in the past, in that he believed in traditional gender roles. This gentleman told Forray flat-out one day, “I’m the man. I should be …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. A new study by the University of Queensland in Australia found that women are more attracted to men with beards — which is very good to know, since bearded men are a dime a dozen these days. But it’s the reason women gave for why they’re attracted …
Listen to Suzanne talk to Tucker Carlson about her article, “4 Feminist Lies That Are Making Women Miserable.” (Dec. 5, 2019)
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. This month marks the roughly third year in a row we must endure a #MeToo redo of the hit holiday single, Baby It’s Cold Outside. The latest version, sung by John Legend and Kelly Clarkson, is the most extreme. It chucks all references to the man trying to …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. I’m convinced Tucker Carlson is the only television host who understands the fallout of feminism and is willing to discuss it on national TV. During a recent interview with me on his program, Carlson noted the following: “I don’t think anything has changed our society more for the worse” than feminism. …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. Almost exactly seven years ago, I wrote an article headlined “The War on Men” that went viral. The best feedback came not from the legions of angry feminists whose emails flooded my inbox, but from clinical psychiatrist Paul Dobransky, M.D., who wrote a response piece in Psychology …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. Read carefully, and you’ll notice that almost every article on the struggles couples face with respect to the work-family battle blames men. The cultural narrative is that women do it all, while the men in their lives are Neanderthals who need to get with the program. …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. Dolly Parton is a kindred spirit. I just love that woman. Apparently everyone else does, too. A new podcast about Parton’s life, produced by NPR and entitled Dolly Parton’s America, premiered last month and will feature nine episodes that help explain why Dolly Parton, in this “intensely …
About a week ago The Federalist published an article of mine in which I list 8 dating rules for women that lead to marriage. Here they are, in no particular order: 1. Let him chase you. 2. Don’t offer to pay. 3. Never have more than two drinks. 4. Don’t be the giddy girl in …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. Last week, Gerard Baker, editor at large for The Wall Street Journal, committed the unpardonable sin of writing an uncomfortable truth: that women outpacing men in the educational sphere may have positive economic consequences, but it comes at a price. “In the much larger game of life, love and …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. Perhaps, like me, you’ve read a lot lately about husband and wives and housework — such as here, and here, and here. Naturally, all the articles are written by women. Naturally, they all lament the same thing: Wives do more housework than husbands do. This is true, apparently, even for …
This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner. A new book, For the Love of Men: A New Vision of Mindful Masculinity, begins like this: “There is no greater threat to humankind than our current definitions of masculinity.” [Note use of the word “humankind,” rather than “mankind.” That’s the first indication you’re about to read …
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