Your marriage is either growing or dying.
Which one is yours doing?
When you got married, things were perfect. You were both "in love," and life was good. Then, somewhere along the line, everything changed. She changed. Or maybe he did. Either which way, now your relationship feels, well, hard.
The wife or husband you once knew seems to have disappeared. She argues with you all the time and is always on edge. He stonewalls or shuts down or retreats to the TV. Your sex life sucks.
What if I told you you have the power to turn it all around? All you're missing are the tools you need to sustain love, the very ones you haven't been encouraged to access. In a culture in which equality reins, the glorious differences between women and men that make love work have vanished. I will help you bring them back.
The secret to lasting love rests in the masculine-feminine dance. Once you master it, your relationship will no longer be difficult. You'll be moving with the biological tide, rather than against it.
When you do, you'll be amazed at the results. You'll feel empowered and motivated. You'll be excited about love again. In fact, you'll think you've hit the marriage jackpot!
Many of my clients find me as a result of reading my 2017 book, The Alpha Female's Guide to Men & Marriage, or my more recent book, Women Who Win at Love. It does help to have read those books before signing up for a session, but it's not a requirement. But if you haven't read my work, I would encourage you to scroll though my blog. It's so important to know who I am and what I believe before working with me.
And for the record, I'm not a passive coach. I offer concrete feedback, as well as practical solutions that work. There will be no "And how does that make you feel?" going on. It's not that I don't care how you feel. It's that I'm passionate about getting to the root of the problem, and talking about your feelings won't accomplish that. Adopting new behaviors will.
One final note: You must be hungry to strengthen (or to save) your marriage and to put in the work that's required. What I teach is countercultural and as a result may make you uncomfortable at first. But that's how you know it's working—because most people in our culture aren't happily married.
Do you want to be like them, or don't you?
For private coaching, here are some common areas of concern.
- Help! My husband won't step up.
- Money is a serious source of tension in our marriage.
- Why does my husband spend so much time in the basement or in front of the TV?
- Our sex life sucks.
- My wife doesn't respect me.
- I feel like my husband is my child instead of my partner.
"I'm on Day 2 of your theory, and you're absolutely right: the problem
vanishes overnight." - Kimberly
"Thanks to your eye-opening advice, my husband and I are moving toward an intimacy and connection we have never known before in our nearly 18 years together. So much of my world is making sense now, thanks to you."
“Counseling was a joke compared to the cut-to-the-chase content of this book. I read it twice and then gave it to my wife, who read it in its entirety. Two days later, she had a plan to stay married. She said she found it ironic that she had to hear the truth from someone like her and she really didn't like it; however, she would keep the book very close to her for reference. Married life has been good since then and getting better every day. I am so happy I came across this book. It saved my marriage! Suzanne Venker, you're my hero!”