It’s the Collapse of the Family That Results in Father-Absent Homes

This article was originally published at the Washington Examiner.

With Father’s Day upon us, the time has come to address as a nation what Heather Mac Donald noted earlier this year is “the greatest social catastrophe of our time”: fatherlessness. Fatherlessness is the No. 1 cause of nearly all social ills we face. We can’t afford to ignore it any longer.

To be clear, father absence is the more accurate term, since fatherlessness implies that men have become “deadbeat dads” — nothing could be further from the truth. Sure, this faction exists, as do “deadbeat moms.” But the two most significant threats to a father’s presence in the home are divorce and out-of-wedlock births.

It’s the breakdown of marriage, in other words, or the collapse of the family, that results in father-absent homes. Whether you feel its pain directly or not, it affects you.

“Families are the building blocks of civilization,” writes Genevieve Wood at the Daily Signal. “They are personal relationships, but they greatly shape and serve the public good. Family breakdown harms society as a whole.”

Indeed it does. And how, exactly, did the family fall apart? When we stopped valuing men and marriage.

There was a time, believe it or not, when marriage was highly valued. Ergo, the majority of Americans married. They even looked forward to it! It was an honorable mark of adulthood to leave one’s family of origin and build a family of one’s own.

Then came feminism.

“And with it,” notes Dennis Prager in his “Fireside Chat” on marriage and children vs. career, “the notion that ‘a woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.'”

Suzanne Venker

Suzanne Venker is an author, columnist and radio host known as The Feminist Fixer. She helps free women from feminism so they can find lasting love with men. Suzanne's newest book, WOMEN WHO WIN at Love: How to Build a Relationship That Lasts, will be published October 2019.

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  1. Elliott Katz says

    Suzanne
    Blaming feminism and waiting for them to change their ideas means men are powerless. We are not. You are right that when a father is absent, his son may grow up without a strong male role model. But men can still learn on their own what it means to be a strong man who shows leadership and takes responsibility and has a woman in his life who admires him. I went on a journey to learn this and found teachings from many generations of men on being a man. I wrote a book to share what I learned and it’s striking a chord. The book, Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man, has been translated into 24 languages around the world. The messages are: Show leadership, take responsibility, be strong, be manly and make decisions. Men have the ability to change this situation by becoming the change we want to see. By becoming strong men, the world around us –including women around us — will change and respond to men differently. The future will not be bleak.

  2. Jack says

    People think marriage is simple math. 2 parents are twice as good as one, normally. This is materialistic. No, two parents working together are worth FOUR single parents, due to synergy. Child care providers may or may not do a good job. A sane parent, without addictions, does a far better job. They are invested for the long term. You have only to look at other postings, from the fatherlessness project, at this blog. Children without fathers do, on average, far worse than products of 2 parent families. This has been true throughout history. Our culture is in denial about this. Challenge them with the truth, and they get angry, but they don’t move through to depression, bargaining, and acceptance. They simply don’t care. Rich people stay together longer, in marriage, according to the census bureau. The rise in women working has meant flat wage growth. More people are chasing the same jobs. Divorced households need 2 dwellings, not one, which has pushed up house and condo prices, and rents. Many feminists alive today will get to see the disintegration of our society, which is already happening. You want to see the results of fatherless families? Go into the slums of any big city. Look around. This is the feminist paradise. Half of boys, roughly, grow up without fathers. around 80% of schoolteachers are women. WIthout healthy examples of what men are, these boys become toxic. The gangbangers on the streets in Baltimore, Detroit, Oakland, and other cities, are almost all fatherless. Or as one book, Freakonomics, asked, “Why do so many drug dealers live with their mothers?” Larry Elder sees a conscious desire and plan by Democrats to destroy black families, as a slow motion destruction of black communities. Democrats created and ran plantations, and the inner city is the new plantation, where massa gives black people barely enough to live on, in virtual slavery, he says. Watch how black people are treated, because they are the first people the social engineers experiment on, because Democrats see black people as expendable. The Tuskegee studies of gonorrhea in black men were run by Democrats. Daniel Patrick Moynihan was very concerned about black family breakups in the 60’s, and those breakups are much higher now. Women who grow up without fathers choose bad boys, because they don’t have training to be selective. A major risk to teenage girls is divorced mom, with a live-in boyfriend, who gets creepy. I was told by a social worker this is a major problem, but society couldn’t care less about children, any more.

  3. John says

    Fathers? men? Sorry, ain’t nobody here but us fish bicycles. And we went MGTOW, because finding a decent woman for marriage is about like hunting for unicorns. They must exist, but we haven’t found them.

  4. David says

    The funniest thing I’ve ever seen in my life, is a feminist who has hated on men for say twenty years, and she hits her late thirties. She realizes that women can be really nasty, and that lesbian domestic violence is really, really scary. She realizes that if she wants kids, being with a woman may not work out. Being by herself is really hard. Now she realizes it’s kind of nice to have a supportive male partner. Only she’s moved beyond her window of opportunity, and has hit the wall. Twenty years of visceral hatred is not easily deleted. It exists as ghost programs in her neurology. For a man, being around such a woman is like being around a psychopath, because, well, that’s what she is. She spouts feminist ideology, which is about as exciting to a man as hearing Nazi ideology would be, for a Jewish person. She has no idea what cooperation is, no idea what working together towards a common goal is, all she knows to do is demand more, and more, and give as little as possible. It would be uproariously funny, if it weren’t so pathetic. I know of only one man who doesn’t completely avoid feminists. All but that one guy want to be invisible to them, outside of their awareness, living in stealth to avoid the feminist predators. That one guy took women’s studies courses, in college, and with all those sexually deprived women, well, let’s say he never lacked. And he could always break up in a way that they didn’t get upset with. Smart guy.

  5. Avraham says

    “It has been 50 years since feminists first began to make the claim that women don’t need men, and by every statistical measure we are worse off because of it.”

    It’s true. They don’t need men. They can live by themselves, with their cats, and do whatever it is that they do. Probably watch reruns of Marlo Thomas. And Sex and the City. And soaps. But statistically, women over say 30 want more and more to get married, as they grow older. As men grow older, they want less and less to get married. It’s all about the benefits. Men get no benefits from marriage to American women. Women get astounding benefits. Talk to the owner of dating services, about how hard it is to find matches for women above 40. You’ll get an education.

    • Mark says

      Yes. People get smarter as they get older. And as you say: “women over say 30 want more and more to get married, as they grow older. As men grow older, they want less and less to get married.”

      This is directly due to the major benefits that flow to women from marriage, and the major risk, and lack of benefits, that accrue to men from marriage. Men make decisions based on risk and reward. There is little reward in marriage, for men, and massive, pervasive, ongoing risk.

  6. Harold says

    The male initiation ritual in parts of New Guinea was abandoned in 1977. Within 2 years, youth gangs formed. The youths were trying to initiate each other. Which doesn’t work. The male initiation ritual in most cultures is a way to say to boys, “You are now a man. We expect you to act like a mature man.” We don’t have that any more, so we have little boys like Bill Clinton, and George Bush. And little girls like Hillary, who throw tantrums, when they don’t get what they want. Our leaders are basically little boys and girls. Hillary and Trump are two sides of the same coin. We haven’t had a good president since Eisenhower.

    My father was of the WW II generation. I asked him once about fathers, when he was young. He said it really meant something to be a father. People looked up to them. They were respected, greatly. Respect is a currency, a reward. People tend to go for roles where they will get respect. Which is why men will work in crummy office jobs, that don’t pay so well, instead of say as plumbers, who can make very good money. The gross disrespect for fathers also rubs off on women. Mothers are nowhere near as respected as they used to be, either. My grandmother was mortified to see panty ads on TV.
    Respect is the heart of community. What kind of men get respect, nowadays? Watch rap videos. Gangstas. Bad boys. Players. They get the respect, and they get the sex. Married men? They’re all chumps, idiots. Women at the Lac du Flambeau Ojibwa reservation understood this, and were very concerned about their men drinking, and engaging in self-destructive behavior. So they revived traditional recognition ceremonies, for men who served the community, and their families, well.
    What you put your attention on grows. Respect for a behavior means you get more of it.
    The human is not the animal, any more than the bee is an animal. No, the human creature is the community, as the bee creature is the hive. Humans survive through cooperation. Respect is the heart of cooperation. If fathers get no respect, if they aren’t seen as important, if they are simply a blood donor for the divorce courts, young men stay away from it. Every father who gets reamed out and drained of his blood in divorce court becomes a walking warning to young men, about the dangers of committing to women. Single parent families, and no parent families, produce psychopaths. Get a young black man, in the feminist ghetto, talking about how he feels, about not having a dad around. he is not happy about it.

  7. M. Andrade says

    Girls need good father figures as fathers show what kind of men they feel comfortable with – which men are good choices for a future marriage and which ones are bad…and refusable. Without fathers, girls tend to pick “gangstas” and junkies as companions and they end up becoming man-hating single mothers that could even get involved with criminals.

    Boys need fathers who can teach them how to be men of honor. Without such role models, they may become thugs or even emasculated homosexuals – no wonder such types of men have been on the rise (if you may call them grown up men). Besides, fathers do not let their children (both boys and girls) become the dysfunctional, spoiled, entitled little princes and princesses who are unable to be good members of any community at all.

    I wonder if the crime rise in England during the Industrial Revolution (when fathers became absent due to long working hours) was caused by the absence of fathers in their households.

    Then, bad boys become players (PUAs), the good ones become MGTOWs, women become feminists and children are left adrift to be indoctrinated by dishonest politicians in order to shape this brave new world into a shit hole. Meanwhile, peace, prosperity and freedom are reserved for single men (I do not think single women have peace, although they are even more prosperous and free than men).

    Men, go MGTOW, and go ghost! As we say down here in Brazil (yes, our women are also very toxic), I will pick up my popcorn to watch the collapse of our once great western society…some kind of Titanic 2 (we are in the life-boats already).

  8. Torin says

    The biggest lie that today’s society perpetually propagate is:
    “For single mothers, her kids come first”.
    WRONG!
    Nothing could be further from the truth.
    If they really prioritized their children, none of these single mothers would ever dump the father of her children for such nebulous reasons like:
    “I am not happy with you”.
    “Its not for me”
    “I want to explore myself”
    “I’m not happy”
    “you don’t excite me any more”

    If they really cared, none of them would be busy dating trying to hook up with a man to dump her and her children’s responsibility on a man who was not her children’s biological father. If she tried half as hard, she could get back with the biological father of her children. But she doesn’t want to do that. She wants a new man- grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Till you get there.
    IF you are a parent who truly cares for your children, then you know that you don’t allow another man into your life because that would mean your children would be exposed to a man who is not their biological father, and because that man will take a big chunk of your time and effort that are meant to be for your own children only.
    You dont do any of that when you truly mean “Kids come First!”
    And I cant even imagine how can someone having and caring for kids could even find time to do Any of it. You just dont have time. As a single father I can tell you that i can never even begin to imagine allowing a woman into my life because I simply dont have time to spare to fulfill my own personal needs. My children’s need are the priority, not me.
    That is why I can never even think of allowing another woman into my life BECAUSE — wait for it— MY CHILDREN COME FIRST.

  9. Bob says

    Since this narrative first took hold, America has undergone a sea change with respect to men and marriage. Marriage began to be viewed not as a given but as a possible accompaniment to a woman’s otherwise more important and exciting independent life…

    Ken always was just another accessory for Barbie.

  10. Jayson Gaddis says

    For men: When did you become a man? How did you know? What happened when you realized “I’m a man now!?” Do you think that most men are amazing leaders? Husbands? Dads? Do you believe men are being honest with themselves?

    What if each man out there had a mentor? What if all men were connected to their purpose, their heart and their own inner authority? What if men went through an intense rite of passage somewhere in their late teens or early 20’s that tested every cell in them, where perhaps they faced death and found their life’s calling and became the man they are meant to be? The way many traditional people did?

    What is possible when men get really honest with themselves?

    Many men today are completely cut off from themselves, their heart and their compassion toward others. Many men have never received any true guidance about how to be a man, nor did they receive a formal initiation into what I call “conscious manhood.”
    This problem affects all men, no matter their race, religious point of view, or socio-economic status.

    Sociologist Michael Kimmel suggest that many men between 16-26 are trapped in what he calls “guyland.” It is a holding ground where young men can remain boys and never really grow up and when they need to, they can act like grown men. As a result of men not receiving formal initiation or training in manhood, these men stay stuck in guyland, where most of what they do is work a job with that is not fulfilling, become bystanders to their own life, and safely avoid the discomfort and truth of their own life.

    When you look around, you can find many examples of grown men who act like boys or make incredibly self-centered decisions and abuse their power on a regular basis. Or other men, who are just asleep to the possibilities in their life. It’s like they are waiting for someone with more authority to tell them what to do. Men are very confused and have an endless barrage of confusing messages about what it means to be a man and how to go about being one.

    Later in life, many of these men will experience heart disease, (the number 1 leading cause of death in men for the last many years in the United States), addictions, obesity, depression, divorce, and other chronic mental, emotional, and physical health problems.

    As a result of no initiation and no guidance, men in this culture unconsciously seek out initiatory experiences that come from deep within their psyche. They “act out” by actively engaging in high-risk behaviors to meet this end, or they remain numb to their life. Look at gangs, sports culture, college fraternities, and cults. With no formal initiation process when a man is young, and no mentorship, there is little guidance about where to go and what to do.

    So, what would be possible if men were deeply connected to themselves and their own inner knowing? What if men had conscious male role models outside of movie stars, politicians and rock stars?

    What kind of world might we live in?

    If men actually followed their heart (their own inner wisdom) and were taught how to be more conscious, there would be less violence, greed, corruption and bloodshed among one another. How do men get in touch with their deeper nature and truth?

    But how does a man get more in touch with himself and his own wisdom?

    Three main ways:

    Initiation into manhood
    Mentorship
    A Men’s Circle
    Initiation

    Enter Joseph Campbell, a mythologist who did a renowned series of interviews with Bill Moyers on The Power of Myth. Campbell outlines what he calls “The hero’s journey.” George Lucas drew from this model when he made the Star Wars epic. The Lion King and the Matrix series were also modeled from the hero’s journey. The hero’s journey has three basic stages: severance, initiation, and the return. Campbell asserts that in order to successfully move on to the next developmental stage in our life, we have to go through a rite of passage. Campbell also purports that the all hero’s journeys have one thing in common—the ordeal.

    The ordeal is something challenging we must face and on the other side is the reward that we must bring back to our community. For thousands of years, tribal and indigenous cultures initiate young boys into manhood through formal rites and rituals. The entire intiation process leads a man toward deeper and deeper self-knowledge, the key to fulfillment and realizing one’s potential in life.

    Let’s look at the popular film The Matrix. In the Matrix, the main character Neo (Keanu Reeves) was just a computer geek who worked for a lame firm and hated his job. Without “the call” toward something else, he would have been like many men—shut down, unhappy, bitter about life and stuck on the hamster wheel at a job he hates, growing increasingly bitter and resentful toward others and life in general.

    Ironically men love the movie the Matrix. Men also love other guy flicks with the hero’s journey theme such as Star Wars, The Lord of the Rings, and Braveheart. Granted, these films tend to romanticize the hero’s journey to a adolescent degree where the hero saves the day. In a true hero’s journey, there’s not always a happy Hollywood ending.

    And if we look to indigenous and traditional cultures, a formal initiation into manhood (the hero’s journey) is the one common thread in all of them. Within this, a boy must, and does, come face to face with himself, his mortality and his life’s calling.

    In being initiated, the boy will receive some kind of training or transmission from the elders of the community about how to be a man in their village or tribe. Not only is the elders’ role pivotal, the separation from the mother is poignant and a necessary moment in a boy’s life. It’s not just left to fathers, teachers or coaches in the community, where in this culture these men often fall short.

    The boy leaves the safety of the protective womb, his mother and village, and must be tested by the wilderness and the men in the community. As long as humans have existed, boys have been cast into a ritual in order to become a man. It was not uncommon for some boys to die and never come back. Without these trials and rituals, men are less likely to access the unique gifts inside them.

    Do men in our culture have this opportunity? How does this all fit into our modern situation? Is it really necessary to face death and go through such ordeals? If it is true that initiation is a necessary step along a man’s journey, what happens if he does not receive an initiation?

    It’s no wonder why so many men push themselves with extreme sports, workaholism, and high risk behavior. This was true for me, before I went through a long arduous initiation process. I was constantly seeking, searching, and questioning everything. By occupying their life with “filler” (stuff that doesn’t matter at the end of the day) me can safely avoid knowing who they are.

    What could be possible if we start initiating men consciously through more formal rites and rituals? What kind of man would lead the way in corporations? How would men treat each other and women differently?

    Mentorship

    Read about mentorship here

    Men’s Circles

    Read more about men’s groups here and listen to the New Man Podcast for a fun conversation with Tripp Lanier and me about what a men’s group is and how it might serve you. Click here to listen.

    My mission then, is to serve it up to men everywhere, particularly men in their 20’s and 30’s as they are most ready and willing for mentorship and a rite of passage.

    It’s time to train each other to be conscious leaders, compassionate neighbors, and work through the lack of knowing oneself.

    It’s time to put men through some conscious ordeal and invite the best out of men, instead of instilling the worst. Behind the ego of the confused or narcissistic “guyland man” lies a scared little boy, waiting for mentorship and guidance.

    What is it that you need to be the kind of man the world needs? When you look around, do you see grown men who basically act like boys? How committed are you to giving your greatest gift before you die?

  11. Reshawn says

    Ain’t nobody here but us fish bicycles. And a lot of women, over 30, discover that fish bicycles can be kind of handy. But they aren’t as easy to find.

  12. Doug says

    It is so much fun to go to high school reunions, for a guy. You see all those women who wouldn’t give you the time of day, in the day, and now they are all looking for a guy. And they aren’t worth it. Because the really nice ones do have a good guy. It was so much fun to go, and have them hitting on me. I am married, and don’t play around, but gosh it felt so good. There are actually videos on youtube of women talking sadly of freezing their eggs, as they put off finding the good spouse, until after their sell-by date. They didn’t understand that. Nobody told them. So, thanks for telling them, Suzanne. Wisdom acquired late is still wisdom.

  13. Elaine says

    The people that are most hurt are children. Somewhere on this blog, is a listing of the extreme damage done to children of single parents. As you look at this, Suzanne, there is another side to this. I spoke with the Director of the state’s department of children and families. She noted that the most significant risk to girls under 18 is a divorced mother, living with a boyfriend, with her daughters around. Sure, it’s punished by law, but that is closing the barn door after the horse ran away. So, mom’s boyfriend is taken away, to be broken on the rack, so now mom doesn’t have a boyfriend any more. Few men want to be a boyfriend to a divorced woman with children. And she is stressed out even more. Feminism has hurt more children than any other social movement in the last 100 years.

  14. Genevieve says

    Despite what you have been told, in the western world today almost all legal and lethal sexual discrimination is against men.

    Men are 97% of combat fatalities.

    Men pay 97% of Alimony

    Men make 94% of work suicides.

    Men make up 93% of work fatalities.

    Men make up 81% of all war deaths.

    Men lose custody in 84% of divorces.

    80% of all suicides are men.

    77% of homicide victims are men.

    89% of men will be the victim of at least one violent crime.

    Men are over twice as victimised by strangers as women.

    Men are 165% more likely to be convicted than women.

    Men get 63% longer sentences than women for the same crime.

    Court bias against men is at least 6 times bigger than racial bias.

    Males are discriminated against in school and University.

    Boys face vastly more corporal punishment than girls.

    60-80% of the homeless are men.

    Women’s Cancers receive 15 times more funding than men’s

    At least 10% of fathers are victims of paternity fraud.

    One third of all fathers in the USA have lost custody of children, most are expected to pay for this.

    40-70% of domestic violence is against men however less than 1% of domestic violence shelter spaces are for men.

    Male fatality rates are vastly higher than women’s

    Worldwide there are 107 men born for every 100 women, by age 65 there are 78 men for every 100 women, in countries like the USA & UK, its even worse, with 75/76 men for every 100 women. Despite the fact that health care spending for men is nearly twice as effective. In the few countries that have a majority male population and a preference for male children like China, Sons are legally obliged to care for parents when they are older, where as daughters are not. Many other countries like India have this as a social obligation. goo.gl/iZUcJJ

    Despite all the pressures and risks facing men today support services for men are almost non existent compared to services for women. There are departments for women’s issues in the White House and the UN, but none for men. The UN promotes genital mutilation of male children but condems female genital mutilation. This is Real Sexism.

    THE REAL MONEY GAP.

    Men earn 61.5% of all income but only account for 25% of domestic spending. Men only spend 40% of what they earn after tax. In contrast women make up 38.5% of all income but control 75% of domestic spending, women on average spend 90% MORE MONEY THAN THEY EARN. Men are exploited as cash machines and even with spending on children accounted for women still spend more money on themselves than the combined spending for men and children. This can even be observed in the floor space allocated to women’s products in most shopping centres.

    TAX & HEALTHCARE DISCRIMINATION

    Men pay over 70% of income tax but the vast majority of public spending is on services for women. There is more money spent on breast cancer than lung cancer and prostate cancer combined, despite the fact that lung cancer alone has 3-4 times more fatalities than breast cancer. A man’s chance of getting cancer is 44% and 23% of men will die from cancer, 38% of women get cancer and 19% die. Yet there is vastly more money spent on cancer for women, this is lethal discrimination. Women pay 60% less tax despite spending 300% more in domestic spending than men. Women also consume two third of public spending, there are 3 times the amount of gender specific health services for women than men despite the fact that for equal increases in health spending a man’s life expectancy rate increases nearly twice as much as a woman’s.

    DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

    There are hundreds of surveys which shows women are as violent if not more violent than men in domestic violence cases. Men get arrested in 85% of all arrests but its estimated that Women are the perpetrators in most Domestic Violence cases. Most reciprocal violence is started by women and 70% of non reciprocal violence is perpetrated by women. Women however only get arrested in 15% of all DV arrests. This example of 572 different studies covering 371,600 people demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners. http://www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm

    More men than women were victims of intimate partner physical violence and over 40% of severe physical violence was directed at men. http://www.batteredmen.com/NISVS.htm

    Despite this though,99.3% of DV shelter spaces are for women and even men who report violence against them by women are arrested far more often than the woman who is attacking them.

    Gynocentric Sexism

    Gynocentricism is the scientifically proven fact that almost every man, woman and child has been raised and instilled with a woman’s point of view. Men are taught to give women special treatment from birth and women are taught to expect preferential treatment from from men.

    Gynocentricism is by definition sexist however it has become the default social model for most of the planet. Men are trained to suppress emotions and always be considerate of a woman’s feelings, men are trained to sacrifice, work and die to provide for women’s happiness.

    Men and women are trained to always take the woman’s side over a man. Women are taught to support each other and view men’s pain and suffering as less important. Men are taught that fighting, dying and sacrificing themselves is noble but women experiencing any emotional distress is terrible.

    This sexist attitude and maternal brainwashing has seen men literally dying to protect women who quite often take the sacrifices men make completely for granted. This is real sexism and it is taught at a very early age and reinforced in our society through society, the media, education and legal system.

  15. Henry says

    Fathers are relevant. And, despite what you have been told, in the western world today almost all legal and lethal sexual discrimination is against men.

    Men are 97% of combat fatalities.

    Men pay 97% of Alimony

    Men make 94% of work suicides.

    Men make up 93% of work fatalities.

    Men make up 81% of all war deaths.

    Men lose custody in 84% of divorces.

    80% of all suicides are men.

    77% of homicide victims are men.

    89% of men will be the victim of at least one violent crime.

    Men are over twice as victimised by strangers as women.

    Men are 165% more likely to be convicted than women.

    Men get 63% longer sentences than women for the same crime.

    Court bias against men is at least 6 times bigger than racial bias.

    Males are discriminated against in school and University.

    Boys face vastly more corporal punishment than girls.

    60-80% of the homeless are men.

    Women’s Cancers receive 15 times more funding than men’s

    At least 10% of fathers are victims of paternity fraud.

    One third of all fathers in the USA have lost custody of children, most are expected to pay for this.

    40-70% of domestic violence is against men however less than 1% of domestic violence shelter spaces are for men.

    Male fatality rates are vastly higher than women’s

    Worldwide there are 107 men born for every 100 women, by age 65 there are 78 men for every 100 women, in countries like the USA & UK, its even worse, with 75/76 men for every 100 women. Despite the fact that health care spending for men is nearly twice as effective. In the few countries that have a majority male population and a preference for male children like China, Sons are legally obliged to care for parents when they are older, where as daughters are not. Many other countries like India have this as a social obligation. goo.gl/iZUcJJ

    Despite all the pressures and risks facing men today support services for men are almost non existent compared to services for women. There are departments for women’s issues in the White House and the UN, but none for men. The UN promotes genital mutilation of male children but condems female genital mutilation. This is Real Sexism.

    THE REAL MONEY GAP.

    Men earn 61.5% of all income but only account for 25% of domestic spending. Men only spend 40% of what they earn after tax. In contrast women make up 38.5% of all income but control 75% of domestic spending, women on average spend 90% MORE MONEY THAN THEY EARN. Men are exploited as cash machines and even with spending on children accounted for women still spend more money on themselves than the combined spending for men and children. This can even be observed in the floor space allocated to women’s products in most shopping centres.

    TAX & HEALTHCARE DISCRIMINATION

    Men pay over 70% of income tax but the vast majority of public spending is on services for women. There is more money spent on breast cancer than lung cancer and prostate cancer combined, despite the fact that lung cancer alone has 3-4 times more fatalities than breast cancer. A man’s chance of getting cancer is 44% and 23% of men will die from cancer, 38% of women get cancer and 19% die. Yet there is vastly more money spent on cancer for women, this is lethal discrimination. Women pay 60% less tax despite spending 300% more in domestic spending than men. Women also consume two third of public spending, there are 3 times the amount of gender specific health services for women than men despite the fact that for equal increases in health spending a man’s life expectancy rate increases nearly twice as much as a woman’s.

    DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

    There are hundreds of surveys which shows women are as violent if not more violent than men in domestic violence cases. Men get arrested in 85% of all arrests but its estimated that Women are the perpetrators in most Domestic Violence cases. Most reciprocal violence is started by women and 70% of non reciprocal violence is perpetrated by women. Women however only get arrested in 15% of all DV arrests. This example of 572 different studies covering 371,600 people demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners. http://www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm

    More men than women were victims of intimate partner physical violence and over 40% of severe physical violence was directed at men. http://www.batteredmen.com/NISVS.htm

    Despite this though,99.3% of DV shelter spaces are for women and even men who report violence against them by women are arrested far more often than the woman who is attacking them.

    Gynocentric Sexism

    Gynocentricism is the scientifically proven fact that almost every man, woman and child has been raised and instilled with a woman’s point of view. Men are taught to give women special treatment from birth and women are taught to expect preferential treatment from from men.

    Gynocentricism is by definition sexist however it has become the default social model for most of the planet. Men are trained to suppress emotions and always be considerate of a woman’s feelings, men are trained to sacrifice, work and die to provide for women’s happiness.

    Men and women are trained to always take the woman’s side over a man. Women are taught to support each other and view men’s pain and suffering as less important. Men are taught that fighting, dying and sacrificing themselves is noble but women experiencing any emotional distress is terrible.

    This sexist attitude and maternal brainwashing has seen men literally dying to protect women who quite often take the sacrifices men make completely for granted. This is real sexism and it is taught at a very early age and reinforced in our society through society, the media, education and legal system.

  16. Henry says

    Despite what you have been told, in the western world today almost all legal and lethal sexual discrimination is against men. A lot against husbands, too.

    Men lose custody in 84% of divorces.

    80% of all suicides are men.

    77% of homicide victims are men.

    89% of men will be the victim of at least one violent crime.

    Men are over twice as victimised by strangers as women.

    Men are 165% more likely to be convicted than women.

    Men get 63% longer sentences than women for the same crime.

    Court bias against men is at least 6 times bigger than racial bias.

    Males are discriminated against in school and University.

    Boys face vastly more corporal punishment than girls.

    60-80% of the homeless are men.

    Women’s Cancers receive 15 times more funding than men’s

    At least 10% of fathers are victims of paternity fraud.

    One third of all fathers in the USA have lost custody of children, most are expected to pay for this.

    40-70% of domestic violence is against men however less than 1% of domestic violence shelter spaces are for men.

    Male fatality rates are vastly higher than women’s

    Worldwide there are 107 men born for every 100 women, by age 65 there are 78 men for every 100 women, in countries like the USA & UK, its even worse, with 75/76 men for every 100 women. Despite the fact that health care spending for men is nearly twice as effective. In the few countries that have a majority male population and a preference for male children like China, Sons are legally obliged to care for parents when they are older, where as daughters are not. Many other countries like India have this as a social obligation.

    Despite all the pressures and risks facing men today support services for men are almost non existent compared to services for women. There are departments for women’s issues in the White House and the UN, but none for men. The UN promotes genital mutilation of male children but condems female genital mutilation. This is Real Sexism.

    THE REAL MONEY GAP.

    Men earn 61.5% of all income but only account for 25% of domestic spending. Men only spend 40% of what they earn after tax. In contrast women make up 38.5% of all income but control 75% of domestic spending, women on average spend 90% MORE MONEY THAN THEY EARN. Men are exploited as cash machines and even with spending on children accounted for women still spend more money on themselves than the combined spending for men and children. This can even be observed in the floor space allocated to women’s products in most shopping centres.

    TAX & HEALTHCARE DISCRIMINATION

    Men pay over 70% of income tax but the vast majority of public spending is on services for women. There is more money spent on breast cancer than lung cancer and prostate cancer combined, despite the fact that lung cancer alone has 3-4 times more fatalities than breast cancer. A man’s chance of getting cancer is 44% and 23% of men will die from cancer, 38% of women get cancer and 19% die. Yet there is vastly more money spent on cancer for women, this is lethal discrimination. Women pay 60% less tax despite spending 300% more in domestic spending than men. Women also consume two third of public spending, there are 3 times the amount of gender specific health services for women than men despite the fact that for equal increases in health spending a man’s life expectancy rate increases nearly twice as much as a woman’s.

    DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

    There are hundreds of surveys which shows women are as violent if not more violent than men in domestic violence cases. Men get arrested in 85% of all arrests but its estimated that Women are the perpetrators in most Domestic Violence cases. Most reciprocal violence is started by women and 70% of non reciprocal violence is perpetrated by women. Women however only get arrested in 15% of all DV arrests. This example of 572 different studies covering 371,600 people demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners. http://www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm

    More men than women were victims of intimate partner physical violence and over 40% of severe physical violence was directed at men. http://www.batteredmen.com/NISVS.htm

    Despite this though,99.3% of DV shelter spaces are for women and even men who report violence against them by women are arrested far more often than the woman who is attacking them.

    Gynocentric Sexism

    Gynocentricism is the scientifically proven fact that almost every man, woman and child has been raised and instilled with a woman’s point of view. Men are taught to give women special treatment from birth and women are taught to expect preferential treatment from from men.

    Gynocentricism is by definition sexist however it has become the default social model for most of the planet. Men are trained to suppress emotions and always be considerate of a woman’s feelings, men are trained to sacrifice, work and die to provide for women’s happiness.

    Men and women are trained to always take the woman’s side over a man. Women are taught to support each other and view men’s pain and suffering as less important. Men are taught that fighting, dying and sacrificing themselves is noble but women experiencing any emotional distress is terrible.

    This sexist attitude and maternal brainwashing has seen men literally dying to protect women who quite often take the sacrifices men make completely for granted. This is real sexism and it is taught at a very early age and reinforced in our society through society, the media, education and legal system.

    Government Sponsored Sexism

    1) Real sexism is almost no shelters for male victims of domestic violence.

    2) Real sexism is men getting harsher punishments for the same crime.

    3) Real sexism is countries with compulsorily military service for men.

    4) Real sexism, courts that takes children from fathers based on gender.

    5) Men cannot even vote or get citizenship without enrolling for the draft.

    6) Real sexism is numerous government departments dealing with women’s issues but none dealing with men’s issues.

    7) Male infant circumcision/genital mutilation is legal and performed widely and even completely socially accepted but female genital mutilation is not.

    8) A young boy raped by a woman can be forced to pay child support to his rapist if she gets pregnant, that’s real sexism.

    9) Many countries do not even recognize female on male rape. It can maximally only amount to “sexual assault” that’s real sexism.

    10) Real sexism is having no special laws like VAWA to protect men, even though men are the majority of victims of violent crime.

    11) There are drives to fill quotas for women for the high paid roles but not in the dangerous jobs dominated by men, thats real sexism.

    12) In the army, police, fire service or any other position women have to meet much lower physical standards than men.

    13) Real sexism is services for men only given a fraction of the funds that services for women are given at a government and a social level.

    14) For the same crime, irrespective of the gender of the offender, the perpetrator gets more punishment if the victim is female rather than male.

    15) Most divorce laws are skewed against men, men can lose half his properly, money and children to a woman who decides to leave him.

    He is expected to pay for this betrayal, especially if he has already provided for and supported her, this is real sexism.

    Social sexism against men

    16) Real sexism is being mocked when raped because you’re a man.

    17) Men are expected to not show emotion and remain stoic at all times.

    18) Victim blaming is acceptable ONLY when men are the victims and women the perpetrator. This is real sexism.

    19) Real sexism is having your gender stereotyped by society as being violent, abusers, etc.

    20) Men’s lives are given less value in any emergency situation.

    21) Male children are often given harsher punishments by teachers for the same level of mischief as girls.

    22) Young boys are given less care and attention by parents than girls and beaten over twice as often as girls by parents.

    23) Violence against men by women is much more socially acceptable.

    24) Affirmative action for women only in jobs, education, grants, etc.

    25) Men enrolled in are often given tougher, more dangerous tasks to perform than women in the same post (in a job) This is real sexism.

    27) Males who complain about being objectified are shamed as being “mentally fragile” or their sexuality is questioned. This is real sexism.

    28) Men do not have the privilege of showing affection to each other in public as women without people questioning their sexuality.

    29) Men are expected to ask women out, pay for dates, decide on the venue – if she rejects him he is often labelled creepy or needy.

    30) If a man slaps a woman, he is an abuser and a monster, If a woman slaps a man, “he must have done something to annoy her”

    31) When a man breaks up with a woman, he is called a “jerk”. When a woman dumps a man, “he must have failed her somehow”

    32) Men are excluded from many positions such as babysitters, etc.

    33) Young men having to pay higher car insurance is acceptable but the idea of women having to pay more for health insurance is not.

    34) Despite the fact that the real victims of sexual discrimination are men the term sexual discrimination usually excludes men and the vast majority of surveys and news stories about sexual discrimination dont include men.

    35) Our culture and media makes the assumption of men as guilty, violent offenders where as women are given special treatment at every turn.

    36) In modern movies and TV violence against men is glorified but violence against women is regarded as especially horrific.

    37) Many news reports will read the number of people killed and then highlight women and children as more tragic than male death.

    EG: “37 people were killed in a bus crash including 17 women”

    38) Men are expected to carry heavy things for women, give up their seats for women, shovel snow, mow gardens and do any other job involving manual labour, that women do not wish to perform.

    39) Real sexism is a society where men are taught that a man’s role is to work, provide, pay and die in order to ensure a woman’s happiness.

    40) Real sexism is the fact that men working longer hours in harder more dangerous jobs to earn more money to pay for women’s choices is being turned into a weapon against men.

  17. Fred says

    Anti-feminism is real feminism in disguise. Feminism is starting to become disadvantageous for women.They got the alpha(ate the cake), now they want men (beta cucks) to pay for it all (have your cake). It’s not working so well, any more.

    Feminism/liberalism is on the track of starting to benefit men more then women (death of marriage, women not getting as much of men’s money, fewer women being supported by men, men being allowed to enjoy life over having to support others, legalization of prostitution, etc). If you think about it, if prostitution were legalized, both men and women would have to be aware of the market value of sex. Men pay a very high price for it, wherever they get it, and some of them are tired of paying that price. Doing without isn’t that difficult. Feminism indirectly freed many men from traditional gender roles, and from having to give their money to women, by mistake. You are suppose to be married and enslaved by this point, or divorced and paying to support a woman. Feminists challenged their traditional gender roles, and then men started challenging theirs. Husbands have a lot of stress, of which much is unnecessary. In 1920, women outlived men by a year or so. Now it’s seven years. Men are looking at stuff like that. A hardworking single man can retire well in his 50’s, and men can do that, nowadays. Feminism created MGTOW. And MGTOWs who have tasted freedom don’t forget it. They are like people in colonial Africa, who suddenly realize they don’t have to serve massa any more. They can get off the plantation. Feminists, and the mass media, want to keep them happy darkies on the plantation of extreme female priviledge, and the system is cracking. The extreme disrespect for fathers and husbands means there are fewer candidates, for this abuse. Look at the men in their 30’s, and 40’s, who break up with women, because they “just aren’t ready to settle down [for the chain gang thing]” The fishbicycles are in revolt. Friday got the gun, Mrs. Robinson. Women have their slutwalks, men have their walks of invisibility, which at least feels safe. I wonder if women have figured out yet that men who spend their time in video games, and other juvenile pursuits, may just not want to deal with the high price of women? Peter Pan had a pretty good thing going.

  18. Odemakwa says

    The Prophecy of the Seven Fires of the Anishinaabe
    Then seven prophets appeared to the people.
    The First Prophet told the people that in the time of the
    First Fire they would leave their homes by the sea and follow the sign of the megis. They were to
    journey west into strange lands in search of a island in the shape of a turtle. This island will be linked
    to the purification of the earth. Such an island was to be found at the beginning and at the end of
    their journey. Along the way they would find a river connecting two large sweet water seas. This
    river would be narrow and deep as though a knife had cut through the land. They would stop seven
    times to create villages but they would know that their journey was complete when they found food
    growing on the water. If they did not leave, there would be much suffering and they would be
    destroyed. And they would be pursued and attacked by other nations along the way so they must be
    strong and ready to defend themselves.
    The Second Prophet told them they could recognize the Second Fire because while they were
    camped by a sweet water sea they would lose their direction and that the dreams of a little boy would
    point the way back to the true path, the stepping stones to their future.
    The Third Prophet said that in the Third Fire the Anishinabe would find the path to the lands
    prepared for them and they would continue their journey west to the place where food grows upon
    the water.
    The Fourth Prophet was two who came as one. The first told them to expect a race of people who
    had light skin. The future of the Anishinabeg would be known by the face the light-skinned people
    would wear. If they come in brotherhood there would be a time of wonderful change. New
    knowledge would be joined with the old knowledge and the two peoples would join to make a
    mighty nation. Two other nations would join to make four and they would become the mightiest
    nation of all. If they brought only their knowledge and their good-will they would be like brothers.
    The second being of the Fourth Prophet warned the light-skinned race might wear the face of death
    that would almost look the same as the face of brotherhood. “If they come carrying a weapon and
    if they seem to be suffering, beware. Behind this face is greed. You shall recognize the face of death
    if the rivers are poisoned and the fish are unfit to eat.”
    The Fifth Prophet said that in the time of the Fifth Fire there will be a struggle between the way of
    the mind of the light-skinned people and the natural path of spirit of the many nations of natural
    people.
    “As this fire loses its heat there will come among the people those who promise great joy and
    salvation. If the people accept this promise and abandon the old ways, the struggle will continue for
    many generations. This promise is false and it will nearly destroy those who accept it.”
    The Sixth Prophet told them that in the time of Sixth Fire it would be clear that the promise accepted
    during the Fifth Fire was false.
    ******”Those who were deceived by this promise will take their children away from the teachings of the elders.***** The elders will lose their purpose in life and many will become sick and die. *****Many people will be out of balance****** and the cup of life will become the cup of grief.”
    The Seventh Prophet was younger than the others who had come and there was a glowing light from
    his eyes. He said that there would come a time when the waters had been so poisoned that the
    animals and plants that lived there would fall sick and begin to die. Much of the forests and prairies
    would be gone so the air would begin to lose the power of life. The way of the mind brought to the
    red, black, and yellow nation by the white nation would bring danger to the whole earth. In this time
    there will be a ***new people who will emerge from the clouds of illusion. They will retrace their steps
    to find the treasures that had been left by the trail. The stories that had been lost will be returned to
    them. They will remember the Original Instructions and find strength in the way of the circle. Their
    search will take them to the elders and the new people will ask for guidance.*** But many of the elders
    will have walked the Path of the Souls to the Star Web. Many elders will have forgotten their
    wisdom and they will not be able to help. Some of the elders will point in the wrong direction and
    others will remain silent because of their fear. Some of the elders will be silent because no one has
    asked them for their wisdom.
    ****If the New People will find trust in the way of all things, in the circle, they will no longer need the
    selfish voice of the ego and they can begin to trust their inner voice. Wisdom will be once again be
    found in dreams of the night and of the day.**** The sacred fire will once again be lit. The Light-skinned People will be given a choice between two paths. If they choose the right path the Seventh Fire will light the Eighth Fire and final fire of brotherhood and sisterhood. If they choose the wrong path,
    remaining on the path of the mind, then the destruction they brought with them will come back to
    destroy them. The people of the earth will experience much suffering and death.
    The Prophecies are Fulfilled…but for the 7th

    Along the Great Salt Water in the East, life was full and rich for the People, the Anishinabeg. After
    the Seven Prophets came to them, there were many large gatherings to discuss their predictions.
    Many people did not want to move away from their homes with their families and begin a long
    migration through strange lands. Some unselfishly supported those who believed in the power of the
    prophecies and were ready to follow because they thought it was in some way part of the Creator’s
    Plan. One group supported the plans to follow the Megis into the unknown lands of the setting sun,
    but they pledged to stay and care for the eastern fire of the people. They were called the Wa-bun-ukeeg’, the People of the Dawn. Five hundred years later they would be among the first to be caught
    in the death and suffering the Light-skinned people would bring. By the time of the Fourth Fire, their
    homes, families, and villages would be torn apart. They would be scattered, lose their roots, their
    power. Today these people are called the Abenaki. The U.S. government does not recognize their
    existence as a tribe. These are also my people. My great-great grandmother was born in Vermont in
    about 1841, married a white man and they moved to Wisconsin and then to Minnesota. They did not
    realize that they followed her relatives who had made the journey hundreds of years before. Many
    Ojibwe people live in Wisconsin and Minnesota today.

  19. Odemakwa says

    The people followed the Great River to the Setting Sun, the St. Lawrence River, looking for the
    island shaped like a turtle. Near present-day Montreal they found such an island and the Megis shell
    rose up out of the water to greet them. There they brought the Sacred Fire and did many ceremonies
    to cleanse themselves to be ready to receive their next instructions. After some time they continued
    to follow the Great River into a sweet water sea until they came to a roaring waterfall that spoke like
    thunder. They called it Ani-mi-kee’wabu, place of the thundering water. Once again the Sacred
    Megis shell rose up out of the water and greeted them, and the Sacred Fire was brought here. Today
    the Light-skinned people call this place Niagara Falls.
    Again the people moved on along another large sweet water sea until they came to a narrow river
    that was cut deep into the earth. It was the river the First Prophet had described. Many people were
    drowned trying to cross this river. When the people set up a village there, the Sacred Megis rose up
    out of the water to greet them. That river is today called the Detroit River.
    At this time there came to be three groups among the Anishinabeg. Each group had a special task.
    One group, called the O-dah-wahg’, were responsible for providing the people with their food and
    supplies. They were the hunters and traders. A second group, called the O-day’wah-to-mee, were the
    keepers of the Sacred Fire as the people moved along. The third group was the faith keepers of the
    nation, called the Ojib-way.
    Today, the O-dah-wahg’ are called the Ottawa, the O-day’wah-to-mee are called the Potawatomi, and
    the O-jib-way are called the Ojibwe or incorrectly, Chippewa. These were the nations of the Three
    Fires, powerful and united by a common purpose—following the Sacred Megis to an unknown
    destination. The nations of the Three Fires were asked to join war expeditions against the Lightskinned
    invaders in the East, but they remained focused on their mission and their destiny, whatever
    that was to be. ***They followed the sissagwad, the soft whisper of spirit, not knowing where it would
    lead them.***
    At the time of the Second Fire the people were encamped along the east shore of the third sweet
    water sea. There they searched for a way to cross the sea to continue their journey in search of the
    food that grows on water. Here they stayed for a long time establishing villages and planting gardens.
    In attending to basic survival needs, people began to neglect the sacred ways and soon forgot about
    their journey. Only a few of the elders still remembered the purpose of their migration. Then a little
    boy had a dream about a path of stones that would lead across the waters. They returned to the River
    that Cuts Like a Knife and retraced their steps. There they found a chain of islands that lead across
    the sweet water sea.
    Moving the people by canoe they continued their western journey in search of the food that grows
    on water. On the largest island in the chain the Sacred Megis appeared to the people, rising out of
    the water.
    This island became the center of the Anishinabeg nation, the Sacred Fire was brought here, the
    sacred water drum of the Midewiwin Society was heard again. Then the water drum was moved to
    the eastern shore of another sweet water sea and the Sacred Megis appeared again. Here the people
    had their first contact with the Light-skinned people, French explorers, voyageurs, and traders, called
    the Ah-dah-way’ wih-nih-neeg. These people brought many gifts, metal knives, axes, kettles, and
    pots, woven cloth and coats, colored glass beads. These people came in brotherhood, and seemed
    to be friendly and respectful of the ways of the people. These people were treated as brothers, many
    of them married women of the Anishinabeg, and they were adopted into the nation. It was the
    beginning of the Fourth Fire. In the East, other Light-skinned people would come wearing the face
    of death. These people destroyed many villages of the People of the Dawn who had remained along
    the Great Salt Water. They destroyed the garden paradise the Anishinabeg had tended for thousands
    of years. These people seemed not to know how to be in balance and yet they believed that their way
    was the best and only way to live.
    Groups of the Anishinabeg traveled along the north and south shores of the fourth sweet water sea
    and reaching a bay at the western end they found mah-no-men, wild rice, “the food that grows on
    water.” The destination had been reached. Spirit Island in the bay was the sixth stopping place. Not
    very far away along the southern shore of the great sweet water sea they found an island shaped like
    a turtle, the final sign that their journey was complete. They placed tobacco on the shore as an
    offering to the Great Spirit who had led them to this holy place. They called the island Mohning’wun-
    ih-kawn-ing. This became the capital of a powerful Anishinabeg nation and the Great
    Sweet Water Sea was called Gii-dzhii Ojibwe-gah-meeng, the Great Sea of the Ojibwe (called Gitchi
    gumi in Longfellow’s poem, Hiawatha). The Sacred Megis rose up out of the waters and told them
    that they had reached their destination and that now they must continue to follow the path of the
    spirit so they could light the path in the time of the Seventh Fire. Here they brought the Sacred Fire
    and the sacred water drum sounded for many years. The prophecies of the First, Second, and Third
    Prophets had been realized, and the prophecy of the Fourth Prophet continued to unfold.
    Light-skinned men in long black robes, Muk-a-day-ih-kahn-ah-yayg, came clutching a black book
    to their chest and carrying something that seemed to honor the four directions. These men were
    impressed with the generosity, honor, and respect shown by the Anishinabeg. Still, they wanted the
    Anishinabeg to change their ways and accept the teachings of a man from far away. They warned that
    not following this book they would not be able to walk the Path of Souls to the Star Web to join their
    relatives. This was very frightening to many of the people and they left their traditional ways to
    follow the Black Coats and their black book. A wedge was driven between the people of the
    Midewiwin Society and the people following the new teaching. The conflict between the people of
    the black book and the people of the Sacred Megis split the community into factions that broke the
    circle of the nation. People scattered to the smaller lakes of Wisconsin and Minnesota.
    Thus began the time of the Fifth Fire. The wave of light-skinned people forced all native people into
    poverty on tiny reservations supported by erratic deliveries of promised supplies and equipment.
    These were usually rotten, poor quality, or insufficient to care for the needs of the people. To educate
    the children in the new ways the light-skinned people took children away from their parents, put
    them in boarding schools far away from their homes and families, cut their hair, took away their
    medicine bundles, forbade the use of their native language. So ***the hoop of the nation was broken,
    taking the young people away from the medicines, the stories, the teachings, the spirit ways, the
    strength that had brought a spirit-filled people on a journey for more than six hundred years. The
    children were taught to walk the way of the light-skinned people who thought that theirs was the
    superior way, the way of “progress.”***
    This was the time of the Sixth Fire. ***Children were turned against their parents and their
    grandparents. The teachings of the elders could not be heard and the elders grew sick***. They had lost their place in the circle. The circle was broken. The weapons used by the light-skinned were untrue
    stories, racism, guns and bayonets, cannon and disease. Today the weapons are courts, attorneys,
    ***textbooks, mass media and schools that teach propaganda as history, movies and television that portray the way of Native People in a shallow way**, and sometimes guns and bayonets.
    Fulfilling the Seventh Fire Prophecy
    Now is the time of the Seventh Fire. By the light of the Seventh Fire come the Ogichidaag’, those
    who would use their power and strength with wisdom and gentleness to bring harmony and balance.
    They will soar with wabishkie ginu’, the White Eagle, bringing the wisdom of Spirit with the first
    light of day. They will learn of their power and strength like the gidzhii makwa’ the Great Bear who
    holds ice and snow in the North so the Earth would not be covered with water. And they will open
    their mind and heart like makinaak’ the turtle who offered his back upon which to build a new earth.
    Source: http://www.7fires.org

  20. Jarrel says

    As you read the following, think about this: black families, in 1950, were more intact than white families. Family disintegration isn’t just happening. It is being encouraged. As you read about Native Americans, recognize that we are all one, and their problems are only slightly worse than those of other communities. American Indians are the most impoverished racial group in the country. Not surprisingly, if you compare Indian communities to other impoverished areas in the United States, you’ll see similarities in terms of single motherhood, teen pregnancy, drug use, and violence. Elizabeth Morris, who leads the Christian Alliance for Indian Child Welfare, told me that she believes the core of the problem is “family disintegration,” caused largely, she says, by subsidies. I interviewed Morris as part of the research for my new book, The New Trail of Tears. She described how she became involved in the lives of Indian children because her late husband Roland was a member of the Minnesota Chippewa Nation. In her time living near that reservation, she has attended the funeral of a 2-year-old beaten to death. She has fought off a drunken man trying to sexually assault a 10-year-old. She has raised four Indian foster children with fetal alcohol syndrome and two more born with crack in their bloodstream.
    Her husband was married once before, and he acknowledged that he wasn’t always there for his former wife and their children. But Morris says: It didn’t matter if he took off for three months on a binge. They had subsidized housing, and they had food stamps, fuel assistance, and tribal health care. He wasn’t needed. If he thought his family wouldn’t have had food, he would have behaved differently. A man does need to feel needed. But the government took care of all that. The government’s role in shifting responsibility away from fathers has devastated communities across the country, and not just Native American ones. Still, fatherlessness or unemployment alone can’t explain the high levels of child abuse and sexual abuse in Indian communities. The rate of child abuse among Native Americans is twice as high as the national average. Most tribal leaders, health professionals, and observers of Indian communities blame boarding schools for the high rates of physical and sexual abuse on reservations. It’s hard to determine exactly how many children went to boarding school willingly—many families thought it was the best way to get an education —and how many were forcibly removed from their homes, but there’s no doubt that there was widespread physical, sexual, and emotional abuse at these institutions. Indian children were ripped from their families and communities, they were forbidden from speaking their native language, and many were preyed upon by teachers and administrators. When they returned to their families, they often had difficulty functioning. Many adults still can’t talk about their experiences. And it has significantly affected their ability to raise their own families.

    All of which has created a severe shortage of stable Indian families. The Indian Child Welfare Act, which was originally intended to keep social workers from removing Indian kids from their families simply because of poverty, has now given tribes a say in foster care, adoption cases, and even divorce custody proceedings. But ICWA raises all sorts of constitutional issues.

    And it has also created some impossible situations for those who are trying to find stable homes for Indian children. When Mark Fiddler, a member of the Turtle Mountain band of Chippewa Indians, graduated from the University of Minnesota Law School in 1988 and went to work as a public defender, the motivation behind ICWA really appealed to him. “I supported the idea of trying to keep Indian kids in Indian homes whenever possible,” he says. But today, he realizes that there is a real shortage of Indian homes into which it would be reasonable to place these children. If you talk to residents of reservations, says Fiddler, “you realize this has been going on for generations.” On the “macro-level,” he notes, “you have this narrative about disproportionate placement rates”—that is, the idea that Indian children are being removed from their homes at a higher rate than children of other races. But then, explains Fiddler, “there is the micro-level of reality with parents.” And that reality, he says, is a “cycle of dysfunctional parenting that is passed from generation to generation.”

    There are those who think that minorities are somehow separate. They aren’t. We are all part of a larger whole. Health, and ill health, spread.

  21. Maria says

    The following is somewhat depressing. As we look at Native American families, let us realize they are mine canaries- they are further down the path we are treading ourselves. They are not separate from us. They are only a little further down the same road we are walking on, or should I say, running on.

    The tamarisk tree down the dirt road from Tyler’s house is the one where the teenage girl who lived across the road hanged herself. Don’t climb it, don’t touch it, admonished Owens’s grandmother when Tyler, now 18, was younger. There are other taboo markers around the Gila River Indian reservation — eight young people committed suicide here over the course of a single year. “We’re not really open to conversation about suicide,” he said. “It’s kind of like a private matter, a sensitive topic. If a suicide happens, you’re there for the family. Then after that, it’s kind of just, like, left alone.”

    But the silence that has shrouded suicide in Indian country is being pierced by growing alarm at the sheer number of young Native Americans taking their own lives — more than three times the national average, and up to 10 times on some reservations. A toxic collection of pathologies — poverty, unemployment, domestic violence, sexual assault, alcoholism and drug addiction — has seeped into the lives of young people among the nation’s 566 tribes. Reversing their crushing hopelessness, Indian experts say, is one of the biggest challenges for these communities.

    “The circumstances are absolutely dire for Indian children,” said Theresa M. Pouley, the chief judge of the Tulalip Tribal Court in Washington state and a member of the Indian Law and Order Commission.
    Pouley fluently recites statistics in a weary refrain: “One-quarter of Indian children live in poverty, versus 13 percent in the United States. They graduate high school at a rate 17 percent lower than the national average. Their substance-abuse rates are higher. They’re twice as likely as any other race to die before the age of 24. They have a 2.3 percent higher rate of exposure to trauma. They have two times the rate of abuse and neglect. Their experience with post-traumatic stress disorder rivals the rates of returning veterans from Afghanistan.”

    In one of the broadest studies of its kind, the Justice Department recently created a national task force to examine the violence and its impact on American Indian and Alaska Native children, part of an effort to reduce the number of Native American youth in the criminal justice system. The level of suicide has startled some task force officials, who consider the epidemic another outcome of what they see as pervasive despair. The task force held a hearing on the reservation of the Salt River Pima-Maricopa Indian Community in Scottsdale. During their visit, Associate Attorney General Tony West, the third-highest-ranking Justice Department official, and task force members drove to Sacaton, about 30 miles south of Phoenix, and met with TylerOwens and 14 other teenagers.

    “How many of you know a young person who has taken their life?” the task force’s co-chairman asked. All 15 raised their hands. “That floored me,” West said.
    A ‘trail of broken promises’

    There is an image that Byron Dorgan, co-chairman of the task force and a former senator from North Dakota, can’t get out of his head. On the Spirit Lake Nation in North Dakota years ago, a 14-year-old girl named Avis Little Wind hanged herself after lying in bed in a fetal position for 90 days. Her death followed the suicides of her father and sister. “She lay in bed for all that time, and nobody, not even her school, missed her,” said Dorgan, a Democrat who chaired the Senate Committee on Indian Affairs. “Eventually she got out of bed and killed herself. Avis Little Wind died of suicide because mental-health treatment wasn’t available on that reservation.”

    Indian youth suicide cannot be looked at in a historical vacuum, Dorgan said. The agony on reservations is directly tied to a “trail of broken promises to American Indians,” he said, noting treaties dating back to the 19th century that guaranteed but largely didn’t deliver health care, education and housing. When he retired after 30 years in Congress, Dorgan founded the Center for Native American Youth at the Aspen Institute to focus on problems facing young Indians, especially the high suicide rates. “The children bear the brunt of the misery,” Dorgan said, adding that tribal leaders are working hard to overcome the challenges. “But there is no sense of urgency by our country to do anything about it.” At the first hearing of the Justice Department task force, in Bismarck, N.D., in December, Sarah Kastelic, deputy director of the National Indian Child Welfare Association, used a phrase that comes up repeatedly in deliberations among experts: “historical trauma.”

    Youth suicide was once virtually unheard of in Indian tribes. A system of child protection, sustained by tribal child-rearing practices and beliefs, flourished among Native Americans, and everyone in a community was responsible for the safeguarding of young people, Kastelic said. “Child maltreatment was rarely a problem,” said Kastelic, a member of the native village of Ouzinkie in Alaska, “because of these traditional beliefs and a natural safety net.” But these child-rearing practices were often lost as the federal government sought to assimilate native people and placed children — often against their parents’ wishes — in “boarding schools” that were designed to immerse Indian children in Euro-American culture.

    In many cases, the schools, mostly located off reservations, were centers of widespread sexual, emotional and physical abuse. The transplantation of native children continued into the 1970s; there were 60,000 children in such schools in 1973 as the system was being wound down. They are the parents and grandparents of today’s teenagers. Michelle Rivard-Parks, a University of North Dakota law professor who has spent 10 years working in Indian country as a prosecutor and tribal lawyer, said that the “aftermath of attempts to assimilate American and Alaska Natives remains ever present . . . and is visible in higher-than-average rates of suicide.” “We know that the road to involvement in the juvenile justice system is often paved by experiences of victimization and trauma,” West said. “We have a lot of work to do. There are too many young people in Indian country who don’t see a future for themselves, who have lost all hope.”

    The testimony West is hearing is sometimes bitter, and witnesses often come forward with great reluctance. “It’s tough coming forward when you’re a victim

    Stories of violence and abuse

    Owens recalls how she used to climb the tamarisk tree with her cousin to look for the nests of mourning doves and pigeons — until the suicide of the 16-year-old girl. The next year, the girl’s distraught father hanged himself in the same tree. “He was devastated and he was drinking, and he hung himself too,” Owens said.

    She and a good friend, Richard Stone, recently talked about their broken families and their own histories with violence. When Owens was younger, her uncle physically abused her until her mother got a restraining order. Stone, 17, was beaten by his alcoholic mother. “My mother hit me with anything she could find,” Stone said. “A TV antenna, a belt, the wooden end of a shovel.”

    Social workers finally removed him and his brothers and sister from their home, and he was placed in a group home and then a foster home. Both Owens and Stone dream about leaving “the rez.” Owens hopes to get an internship in Washington and have a career as a politician; Stone wants to someday be a counselor or a psychiatrist. Owens sometimes rides her bike out into the alfalfa and cotton fields near Sacaton, the tiny town named after the coarse grasses that once grew on the Sonoran Desert land belonging to the Akimel O’Odham and Pee Posh tribes. She and her friends sing a peaceful, healing song she learned from the elders about a bluebird who flies west at night, blessing the sun and bringing on the moon and stars.

    One recent evening, as the sun dipped below the Sierra Estrella mountains, the two made their way to Owens’s backyard. They climbed onto her trampoline and began jumping in the moonlight, giggling like teenagers anywhere in America. But later this month on the reservation, they will take on an adult task. Owens, Stone and a group of other teenagers here will begin a two-day course on suicide prevention. A hospital intervention trainer will engage them in role-playing and teach them how to spot the danger signs. “In Indian country, youths need to have somebody there for them,” Owens said. “I wish I had been that somebody for the girl in the tamarisk tree.”

  22. Lauren says

    Forty percent of all births in the U.S. now occur outside of wedlock, up from 10 percent in 1970, according to an annual report released on Wednesday by the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA), the largest international provider of sexual and reproductive health services. That number is even higher in the European Union, where 60 percent of births occur outside of marriage. The U.S. fertility rate hit a historic 30-year low last year, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
    Harvard sociologist Carle C. Zimmerman’s 1947 classic Family And Civilization examines the role family structure played in Greco-Roman civilization, as well as the medieval period, up until today.

    He shows that in ancient Greece and Rome, a collapse of “familism” — a worldview that placed the family at the core of society’s self-understanding — preceded a more general civilizational collapse. Zimmerman explains how and why this works. Signs of the ongoing and future collapse include declining fertility rates, abandonment of marital norms, widespread divorce, and the normalization of aberrant sexuality. Zimmerman published it in 1947, and saw all these things rising in the West in his day — and indeed, had been rising for centuries. Radical individualism is the universal solvent.

    Parents must now try to rear a family under a social and legal system adjusted to those couples who do not want the paraphernalia of familism — common income, expenses, children, union for perpetuity, or serious familistic obligations. In our modern Western society the forgotten person is the man or woman who honestly and sincerely wants to be a parent. This affects our whole social system; it affects all the practicalities of life, from renting a house to economic advancement under our different forms of bureaucracy. If there are children, renting a house is difficult, changing jobs is difficult, social activities are difficult. In the words of Bacon, to have children is to give “hostages to fortune,” and one is no longer a free bargaining agent. When the United States has exhausted the surplus population of the French-Canadians and the Mexicans — almost the only fertile peoples of the Western world now available to us — we too will begin the grand finale of the crisis. This was written in 1947. In the 1960s, Quebec went through the “Quiet Revolution,” which took it from having the highest birthrate in Canada to the lowest. Today, the birthrate in Quebec is once again the highest in Canada … but still well below the replacement rate. Mexico’s fertility rate began to collapse around 1970s. Today it is slightly above the US rate, and just at replacement rate. But it is expected to decline further. There is little left now within the family or the moral code to hold this family together. Mankind has consumed not only the crop, but the seed for the next planting as well. Whatever may be our Pollyanna inclination, this fact cannot be avoided. Under any assumptions, the implications will be far reaching for the future not only of the family but of our civilization as well. The question is no longer a moral one; it is social. It is no longer familistic; it is cultural. The very continuation of our culture seems to be inextricably associated with this nihilism in family behavior. In 2016, a US Census Bureau report showed that only 45 percent of Americans 18 to 34 believed that getting married and having children were an essential part of being an adult. Once a civilization comes to believe that the fundamental thing necessary to its survival — producing the next generations — is unnecessary, that civilization will vanish.

    Nobody marries and has kids because it makes rational sense. If you don’t do it out of religious conviction, you do it because your culture has taught you that marriage and family are primary goods — that is, goods that don’t need to be justified, because they are good in and of themselves. Not everybody is called to marry and/or have children, of course, but in a healthy society, it is taken as the normal thing to do, without anybody having to think about it. We are no longer that kind of society. One heard a professor at a conservative Evangelical college say that he doubts that most of his students will be capable of forming and sustaining families of their own. Why? Because most of them have never seen what a normal family is. Mary Eberstadt wrote the loss of family ideals lead to the loss of faith.

    It’s not just that there are fewer children overall and more children in daycare, but the upbringing of children is increasingly overseen if not directly implemented by the marketplace and the state. Universal Pre-K is a recent example of this. My neighborhood has places offering pre-pre-K and there are tons of classes for babies and toddlers. Parents today rely on classes and professionals rather than themselves to entertain and train kids, even for extremely young children. They increasingly provide just partial financing and transportation to their kids’ organized activities.

    The household is thus reduced in function even further, and with an egalitarian gender system increasingly it is hard to distinguish a marriage from roommates or friends with benefits, etc. Unsurprisingly, we see the rise of post-familialism. It’s estimated that a quarter of Millennials will never marry. Many others will never have children. The low birth rate trend is far more advanced in Europe and high income Asia than in the US – some researchers estimate up to a third of women in some East Asian countries will never have kids – but most advanced countries have a birth rate far below replacement. They are entirely dependent on immigration for demographic growth. In effect, the developed world offshored not just production but also reproduction.

    We’ve shifted primarily from the production of goods to the provision of services, thus going post-industrial. This helped facilitate the entry of women into the workforce by rebalancing occupations away from male dominated physically rigorous blue-collar occupations. And no longer do we have large vertically integrated companies doing everything soup to nuts. Instead we have globally networked production. Teams of people, factories, software systems, etc. collaborate across firm and national boundaries on a global basis to produce goods and services. This is increasingly facilitated by software, which is creating a nascent shift in the authority structure from bureaucratic to what I call “impersonal.” The algorithm is an example of this. Uber drivers don’t have a boss as we understand it. They are directed by algorithms. As AI increasingly mediates our interactions, expect much more of this.

    Not every change in our society is due to the need to keep up growth rates. But clearly we see radical changes in our household structures, sex roles, the economy, debt levels, immigration rates, female labor force participation, child bearing and rearing, etc. These are all pretty much indisputable points. This is the backdrop against which the neoliberalization of sex and relationships took place.

    In industrial and post-industrial society, marriage and family is incredibly structurally weakened. Today the household is basically about companionship and consumption – and we’re going to consume whether we are married or not. This puts enormous pressure on the companionate bond between husband and wife to sustain the marriage. Their emotional bond becomes the core of the family. But all human relationships have rough patches over the long term. This means every marriage will face repeated moment of crisis during those times. No wonder there are so many divorces. Being emotionally out of harmony with your spouse poisons the only real thing the marriage was providing in the first place. By contrast, in the pre-industrial era there was no food, no clothing, no one to take care of you when you were sick, no one to care for you when you were old, etc. if you were not part of a household. Today, your life outcomes are still much better if you are married, but people are far less dependent on the household to sustain their lives than in previous times.

  23. Nick says

    What we have in our culture now is extreme imbalance. Native Americans talk about reasons for this.
    Seven fires prophecy is an Anishinaabe (Ojibwa) prophecy that marks phases, or epochs, in the life of the people on Turtle Island, a Native American name for the North American continent. The seven fires of the prophecy represent key spiritual teachings for North America, and suggest that the different colors and traditions of the human beings can come together on a basis of respect. It predates the arrival of the Europeans, and contains information for the future lives of the Anishinaabe which are still in the process of being fulfilled.

    Originally, the prophecy and the Ojibwa migration story were closely linked. However, the last half the prophecy appears to apply to all peoples in contact with the Anishinaabeg. Consequently, with the growth of the Pan-Indian Movement in the 1960s and the 1970s, concepts of the Seven fires prophecy merged with other similar prophetical teaching found among Indigenous peoples of North America forming a unified environmental, political, and socio-economic voice towards Canada and the United States. The Seven fires prophecy was originally taught among the practitioners of Midewiwin medicine societies.

    William Commanda, an Algonquin elder and former chief of the Kitigàn-zìbì Anishinàbeg First Nation, was the wampum belt keeper for the seven fires prophecy.[2] He died on August 3, 2011.[3]

    Seven fires
    Originally, the prophecies were given by eight prophets in seven different time periods. According to oral tradition, the Mi’kmaq Nation heard the first Prophet. The remaining seven prophets appeared before and were recorded by the Anishinaabeg. A prophecy of each of these seven periods were then called a “fire”. The teachings of the Seven fires prophecy also state that when the world has been befouled and the >>>waters turned bitter by disrespect<<materialismspirituality<. If they chose spirituality, they will survive, but if they chose materialism, it will be the end of it. So far, most Americans choose extreme materialism, especially feminists, who have no idea what spirituality is.

    “ In the time of the First Fire, the Anishinabe nation will rise up and follow the sacred shell of the Midewiwin Lodge. The Midewiwin Lodge will serve as a rallying point for the people and its traditional ways will be the source of much strength. The Sacred Megis will lead the way to the chosen ground of the Anishinabe. You are to look for a turtle shaped island that is linked to the purification of the earth. You will find such an island at the beginning and end of your journey. There will be seven stopping places along the way. You will know the chosen ground has been reached when you come to a land where food grows on water (interpreted as wild rice, which grows in water). If you do not move you will be destroyed. ”
    In heeding this prophecy, the Anishinaabe peoples, after receiving guarantees of the safety of their "Fathers" (the Abenaki peoples) and their "allied brothers" (Mi'kmaq aka Micmac) of having the Anishinaabeg move inland, away from the Atlantic coast, mass migration of the Anishinaabeg took place, proceeding to the "First Stopping Place" known as Mooniyaang, known today as Montreal, Quebec. There, the Nation found a "turtle-shaped island" marked by miigis (cowrie) shells.

    The Nation grew to a large number and spread up both Ottawa River and the St. Lawrence River. The second of the "turtle-shaped island" marked by miigis shells was at Niagara Falls.

    Second
    “ You will know the Second Fire because at this time the nation will be camped by a large body of water. In this time the direction of the Sacred Shell will be lost. The Midewiwin will diminish in strength. A boy will be born to point the way back to the traditional ways. He will show the direction to the stepping stones to the future of the Anishinabe people.”
    The oral traditions of the members of Council of Three Fires say that the realization of the Second fire came about the "Third Stopping Place" located somewhere near what now is Detroit, Michigan. The Anishinaabeg had divided between those who went up Ottawa River and those that went up the St. Lawrence River. After leaving the area about Niagara Falls, this group proceeded to the "Round Lake" (Lake St. Clair) and found the third "turtle-shaped island" marked by miigis shells. They continued westward until arriving along the southern shores of Lake Michigan but by this time, the evidence of the miigis shells were lost, and the southern Anishinaabeg became "lost" both physically in their journey as well as spiritually in their journey. The southern group of Anishinaabeg disintegrated into what today are the Ojibwa, Odawa and the Potawatomi. The northern group along the Ottawa River divided into Algonquin, Nipissing and the Mississaugas, but they maintained cohesion that was not maintained by the southern group.

    Eventually, a Potawatomi boy had a dream and pointed the southern group back towards and past the "Round Lake". The southern group rejoined not as a single Anishinaabe peoplehood but rather as a unified alliance called Council of Three Fires. Travelling east and north, and then west, the Council crossed a series of small islands known as "the stepping stones" until they arrived onto Manitoulin island, described as the "Fourth Stopping Place" of the "turtle-shaped island" marked by miigis shell. There on the island, the Council met up with the Mississaugas, who then spiritually fully re-aligned the formerly lost southern group with the northern group who were never lost. The Odawa facilitated the "healing" and the island became synonymous as the "Odawa's Island" in the Anishinaabe language.

    Third
    “ In the Third Fire the Anishinabe will find the path to their chosen ground, a land in the west to which they must move their families. This will be the land where food grows upon the waters. ”
    From the cultural center on Manitoulin Island, the Ojibwe moved to the area about Sault Ste. Marie, where there was the next "turtle-shaped island" marked by miigis shell. Baawating or "The Rapids" of the Saint Marys River became the "Fifth Stopping Place" of the Ojibwe. From this spot, the Ojibwe and the rapids became synonymous with each other, with the Ojibwe known by the Dakota peoples as Iyo-ḣaḣatoŋwaŋ ("cascading-waterfalls people") and later by the French as Saulteurs ("cascaders") and Saulteaux ("cascades"). From here, the Ojibwe moved west, dividing into two groups, each travelling along the shores of Lake Superior, searching for the "land where food grows upon the waters" (later identified as wild rice).

  24. Nick says

    Fourth
    The Fourth fire prophecy was delivered by a pair of prophets. The first prophets said,
    “ You will know the future of our people by the face the light skinned race wears. If they come wearing the face of brotherhood then there will come a time of wonderful change for generations to come. They will bring new knowledge and articles that can be joined with the knowledge of this country. In this way, two nations will join to make a mighty nation. This new nation will be joined by two more so that four will form the mightiest nation of all. You will know the face of the brotherhood if the light skinned race comes carrying no weapons, if they come bearing only their knowledge and a hand shake. ”
    The other prophet said,
    “ Beware if the light skinned race comes wearing the face of death. You must be careful because the face of brotherhood and the face of death look very much alike. If they come carrying a weapon … beware. If they come in suffering … They could fool you. Their hearts may be filled with greed for the riches of this land. If they are indeed your brothers, let them prove it. Do not accept them in total trust. You shall know that the face they wear is one of death if the rivers run with poison and fish become unfit to eat. You shall know them by these many things. ”
    While at the “Fifth Stopping Place”, the light-skinned people in big wooden boats, known as the French arrived. Consequently, the French were called Wemitigoozhii (“wooden-boat people”). Though the French Crown was interested in colonialism, as far as the Anishinaabeg were concerned, the French appeared only interested in commerce and trade through mercantilism. Together with the French, the Anishinaabeg formed trade alliances, which not only extended French colonial powers into the heart of North America, but strengthened the political and military might of the Anishinaabeg.

    After the French came the Zhaaganaash (“Off-shore ones”) of Great Britain. But out of the Zhaaganaash came the Gichi-mookomaan (“Big-knives”)—the Virginians (i.e. Americans).

    Fifth
    “ In the time of the Fifth Fire there will come a time of great struggle that will grip the lives of all native people. At the waning of this Fire there will come among the people one who holds a promise of great joy and salvation. If the people accept this promise of a new way and abandon the old teachings, then the struggle of the Fifth Fire will be with the people for many generations. The promise that comes will prove to be a false promise. All those who accept this promise will cause the near destruction of the people. ”
    Sixth

    “ In the time of the Sixth Fire it will be evident that the promise of the Fifth Fire came in a false way. Those deceived by this promise will >>take their children away from the teachings of the Elders<< (as is happening now). Grandsons and granddaughters will turn against the Elders. In this way the Elders will lose their reason for living … they will lose their purpose in life. At this time a new sickness will come among the people. The balance of many people will be disturbed. The cup of life will almost become the cup of grief. (which is one reason there is so much suicide) ”
    Seventh
    The Seventh Prophet that came to the people long ago was said to be different from the other prophets. This prophet was described as "young and had a strange light in his eyes" and said:

    “ In the time of the Seventh Fire New People will emerge. They will retrace their steps to find what was left by the trail. Their steps will take them to the Elders who they will ask to guide them on their journey. But many of the Elders will have fallen asleep. They will awaken to this new time with nothing to offer. Some of the Elders will be silent because no one will ask anything of them. (At least Dr. Laura had something useful to say.) The New People will have to be careful in how they approach the Elders. The task of the New People will not be easy.
    If the New People will remain strong in their quest the Water Drum of the Midewiwin Lodge will again sound its voice. There will be a rebirth of the Anishinabe Nation and a rekindling of old flames. The Sacred Fire will again be lit.

    It is this time that the light skinned race will be given a choice between two roads. One road will be green and lush, and very inviting. The other road will be black and charred, and walking it will cut their feet. In the prophecy, the people decide to take neither road, but instead to turn back, to remember and reclaim the wisdom of those who came before them. (How interesting. How did Native Americans live, just 300 years ago?) If they choose the right road, then the Seventh Fire will light the Eighth and final Fire, an eternal fire of peace, love brotherhood and sisterhood. If the light skinned race makes the wrong choice of the roads, then the destruction which they brought with them in coming to this country will come back at them and cause much suffering and death to all the Earth's people. (We are at this place now)
    (Perhaps the greatest single gift each of us can give, to help the earth heal, is kindness, and respect. Anybody can do this. Consider the book 29 kindnesses, by Cami Walker, on the healing power of generosity. Instead of railing about what you can't do, how about doing what you can do? Now?)

    Clarification: Turtle Island generally refers to the early creation of the land masses over the water embodiment on mother earth. The story is told of Beaver collecting mud to create the land foundation upon the back of Great Turtle. [6] The inference of North America does not regard the "possible" migration of Native's across the Bering Strait.

    6th Fire Predicate – Populace mass sleep state, sunken spirit. Post Factors of Attention Span loss relational to Technology Overuse. Singular focus career goals and inward withdrawing symptoms yield loss of attention to outer world. Poor Referencing [large chunk of internet publications], Large content of unsorted Bibliography's on internet sites. Poor Dictionary References via internet and other mediums. Teachers seeking removal of cursive handwriting from school system. (Ref: News/Radio 2018"), Losses yielding of critical thought. Base premise changes of quantum reality ineffectual yield in updating of earlier sciences. Many of the many in the US have no knowledge of how to walk softly and share this earth. Locale: USA Perspective check: "He who is one step ahead is a genius; he who is two steps ahead is a crack pot" borrowed quote [10]

    . Accept challenge, be a contributor. Look at the bright side, always have faith even if the cup were to fill. Become the cup. Correct path, dualism resolution, ailment clears,

    Our culture is now extremely out of balance. Anything we can do, however small- now is the time to do it. We need to help the earth recover, and its systems. This starts by healing our own thoughts, feelings, and systems.

  25. Harold says

    Women can do it all. Great! So let them do all the housework, work, childraising, paying all the bills. Let them do both the work that men used to do, and also the women’s work. We will see more of this.

    Remember that song, of 1919, “How ya gonna keep ’em, down on the farm, after they’ve seen Paree [Paris]”?

    Men have tasted life off the plantation. It’s pretty good. Deadbeat dads? No, try dads driven away, by false accusations. Try dads put in impossible situations. Try dads who gave up trying to communicate with children where mom poisoned the kids’ minds against dad.

    Life for a divorced guy isn’t so bad. He’s not around to get stuck with mowing the lawn, or getting snow off the roof, or clearing the sewage lines, any more. Now the woman either does it, or calls a specialist. He doesn’t have to worry about the kids any more- mom has custody. Oh, half his income is gone. But that’s probably a good deal less than she spent when they were married. He probably lives in a 1 BR apartment, or room. But it’s the perfect batchelor pad. Because now he knows how to be a bad boy! He can’t get married again- if he does, the child support goes up based on the new wife’s income, and cannot be lowered. It’s time for that vasectomy, and more ladies waiting than he could sleep with in five lifetimes! He does have to filter out the nasty feminists, but that’s not difficult at all. He discovers that there are ten or more women looking for a guy, for every guy like him, and some are truly hot. He’s in hog heaven! He’s got more women available to him than he ever dreamed possible in high school,, and most are lookin’ mighty good! He has no child care to worry about; his ex poisoned the kids’ minds against him, so visitation even, is out. And the women in his age range are desperate enough that he can keep 4-5 booty calls on line. He doesn’t ever have to lack for sex, again. His weekends are one long party. Yes, he misses his kids, and he knows that he’ll be able to talk to his kids when they are older. He’d like to be a part of their lives, but hey, his ex was the one who committed adultery, not him. Most married men don’t play around. Promises mean something to them. Wedding vows for most women are “just words”, but not to most men. He may decide to focus, on one really nice woman, but hey, having a new woman every night- which thanks to the magic of Tinder, is possible- is a fun thing, too. Oh, his ex called, some problem with a backed up toilet, sewage all over the floor… gee, too bad so sad, former spouse- you got a court order forbidding me from ever coming to the house, based on your lies, and on lawyer’s advice, I cannot come there! You’ll have to pay a plumber to do it! Plus, I have a hot date tonight! And listen, I’m really sorry your boyfriend broke up with you, too, but you know, I’m so much better off without you! Lotsa luck finding another, you know, given that you also have to take care of our four children, all by yourself! Oh, and by way, we are not going to get back together, ever- I know now exactly how much I can trust you! (A real story, a guy one town over)

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