The Overly Accommodating Male

In my recent post, entitled “6 Ways Men Can Become Emasculation-Proof,” one of my suggestions to men was to not be overly accommodating toward their wives and girlfriends.

That may sound odd or even mean, but I’m not saying men shouldn’t be kind or shouldn’t pull their weight on the home front.

What I am saying is that because men have a natural desire to please the woman they love, it is common for men to unwittingly allow themselves to become too conciliatory and to ultimately “lose” themselves in the process.

The same might be said about women—being too nice or too conciliatory; but we never apply this principle to men—the assumption being, well, what exactly? That it’s okay if men lose their identities?

Here’s a great example of what I mean from a man named Jack who told me his story after reading my post:

That was me.

When I got married, I gave my wife all the power and freedom I could because, in my mind, I thought this would ensure her happiness. I thought she would love me and shower me with grateful affection. I imagined she would respond with little thoughtful gestures of taking care of me.

Nothing could’ve been further from the truth.

We now live in a sexless marriage. She seems opposed to doing anything for me i.e. my laundry, my lunch or even having dinner ready. Our house is a disaster because I simply can’t clean up after a wife and two daughters every day after coming home from a full-time job. (Speaking of which, I was working a second part-time job to follow the Ramsey plan for almost three years only to fail and give up bc my wife wouldn’t commit to any budget we “agreed” upon.)

When I left my parents’ home, I was organized and disciplined. I was rock climbing, mountain biking, scuba diving and studying hard. I was a manly man with a solid plan. Today I don’t even recognize that guy. I feel like I don’t know anything.

Similar scenarios are common today since America is drowning in “empowered” women who’ve been groomed to put themselves first at all times. When men fall for a woman like this—and I would caution any man whose girlfriend considers herself “empowered” to run for the hills—it often isn’t until years later that her true stripes emerge. This is especially true once children come along.

To avoid ending up in Jack’s boat, begin by looking at what you learned growing up. Here’s what Jack wrote:

I grew up with a dominant mother. She used our fear of setting her off against us to secure absolute control. She “groomed” me into a little gentleman, paining myself to be attentive and as vigilant as possible. Some things were old-fashioned, like getting my sister’s door; but I was doing dishes, vacuuming, dusting, etc. while also having all the yard work and car care responsibilities. She dictated how I fixed my hair and how I trimmed my nails. She even tried to teach me how to shave once when it dawned on her that she’d better let dad handle that.

Men who grow with dominant mothers (and whose fathers, if they’re around, are weak in response) are particularly prone to becoming overly accommodating and thus not getting their needs met. They think if they please women, they will be showered with love and appreciation. But it rarely works that way.

No healthy woman wants to control her man. She may try to do so for various reasons of her own; but the more accommodating you are, the more your needs will get lost in the process.

If you’ve been with the same woman a long time and you think this might apply to you, ask yourself if before you met her were you on a clear path like Jack that got suddenly derailed. There’s your answer.

The second thing men can do after assessing why they act as they do with women is to follow the advice in my original post, “6 Ways Men Can Become Emasculation-Proof.” Even if you’ve already established an unhealthy dynamic with your wife or girlfriend, you can reverse it at any time. As another man wrote in response to my article,

“When push comes to shove, most women would rather deal with their angst from having submitted to a stronger man who they think is worthy of her as a prize than deal with living with a man who is beneath her but with her having more power in that relationship.”

That’s a hard pill to swallow. But it’s true.

So be the man you were before you married her. Don’t routinely change your own plans or curb your own needs and desires to accommodate hers. It should go both ways.

If it doesn’t, you have a problem.

Suzanne Venker

Suzanne Venker is an author, columnist and radio host known as The Feminist Fixer. She helps free women from feminism so they can find lasting love with men. Suzanne's newest book, WOMEN WHO WIN at Love: How to Build a Relationship That Lasts, will be published October 2019.

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  1. Clark says

    This is why so many white conservative men are flocking to places like the Philippines or Latin America for their women. Feminism is a death cult and Satanic.

    • Mary Ann says

      And the Middle East, and Japan, and China, and… so many other countries that don’t have the high levels of BS in them media.

  2. Francis W. Porretto says

    The ironies here are staggering. The demanding, “entitled” woman who believes it’s her right to control her man and everything about their shared household is now represented to us as the archetype, at least in the media. We are treated as if this is a “new normal” to which we must accommodate.

    So men are steadily turning away from women. It’s safer that way. Less chance of becoming a slave to some “entitled” harridan. Less chance of fathering children we’ll never get to see…or children who’ll be murdered before birth. And less chance of being pauperized through the family courts or imprisoned on trumped-up charges of “domestic assault” or “sexual harassment.”

    Women, of course, are the big losers from this exchange of courtesies. Some are coming to realize it. But the ones with platforms from which to harangue the rest are relentless. Here’s a current example. Note the barely concealed assertion that she and hers are “owed.” But the response she’ll get from men is not the one she appears to expect.

    • Teresa says

      What you describe is part and parcel of Cultural Marxism. If you don’t agree, simply substitute blacks for women and you’ll see what I mean. Using past discrimination and maltreatment as a cudgel to beat any male or white person down when they try to stand up for themselves is what the Left excels at.

    • Marki says

      Excellent article. Responses start with RR

      And every so often, we stop to look for the men in the room. We scroll through our Twitter feeds, our group text threads, our email chains. We look for the ones who chimed in, took a stand, organized their workplaces or their communities. RR oh, gee, sorry, we wouldn’t want to be “mansplaining”. Sorry about that.

      Too often, we’re left craning our necks. We have male allies in Congress and in our workplaces and at home who’ve made important contributions to the fight for gender equity, to be sure. But we have many, many more men on the sidelines. RR couldn’t have anything to do with the fact that true gender equity would require women to lose a lot of privileges.

      According to 2018 survey of American men, 47% respondents had never had a discussion about #MeToo. In a different but even more recent survey, only 34% of men reported having a conversation with a male friend or colleague about gender equality over the previous six months.
      RR You men gender dominance? Which women have? Sit in on a contested divorce case. Count the women on the street, in winter. You are totally clueless.

      And although nearly as many men as women support upholding Roe v. Wade, protests following insane anti-choice legislation in the southeast were led, organized, and made up almost entirely of women and, in particular, women of color. RR murdering the unborn seems to be your goal. OK. ANd it is murder, and very painful to the fetus.

      Diversity consultant Jennifer Brown talks about allyship as a continuum—people journey from apathy to awareness to activity to advocacy. I’ve heard from countless men who linger in apathy or awareness because they’re afraid, discouraged, confused. They want to learn but feel like they should already understand. They want to support us but they also want to make sure they stay in their lane. They are afraid to admit they’re scared or confused because they know their feelings aren’t what matters. RR Yes, they are afraid, of totally irrational women, who can make false claims any time they like, and “innocent until proven guilty” has withered away. Maybe because men find it safer to not deal with women. You did get the fact that their feelings don’t matter.

      But that transition from apathy to advocacy requires something that’s already second nature to men, particularly cisgender white men, because it’s been instilled at a young age: bravery. RR Cisgender? FY. Try “man”. FU with your fascist names.

      As a society we encourage, expect, and reward bravery and failure with our boys in a way that we don’t with our girls. We raise them to tinker, to break things apart, to take risks. By the time our boys grow up, that bravery mindset has them applying for premature promotions, asking for outsized raises, launching startups with abandon. That bravery propels them to the C-suite, to public office, to power (earned or not). RR No, we don’t raise them to do that- not any more- they do it on their own. Maybe the fact that they sink or swim on their own, with no help from outside, influences them.

      But now, with so much on the line, we need men to use that bravery in service of women. They shouldn’t fight our battles for us, but be part of a battle that is ours collectively. RR So you can destroy us even more? Uh, no thanks.

      In practice, that means a few things. It means the obvious, but difficult, act of addressing sexist comments. FF Like yours? Let’s start with yours. This article is extremely sexist. To whom do I complain?

      It means making sure male colleagues aren’t claiming women’s ideas as their own. FF And when women claim men’s ideas as their own… then what? But that’s ok, isn’t it.

      • cheeflo says

        I just read this in Fortune — the opinion of the CEO of Girls Who Code (whatever that is). It is so absurd, I was laughing out loud at it. And I’m a woman.

        I though masculine bravery was toxic. I try to keep up, but I just can’t anymore.

    • Joe says

      I don’t see the danger being that (a) the woman wants the man to be more accomodating and then (b) the man turns away.

      My big problem with all this sort of discussion is this crazy-making insanity:
      (a) the woman wants the man to be more accommodating
      (b) the man does his best to adapt because he wants her to be happy (but has an understandable right to feel that it’s a two way street and his happiness counts too): win/win.
      (c) instead of win/win, the man is instead treated like dirt. Then he comes online and is lectured in articles like this what the reason is: what she really wants is the opposite of what she says she wants. But of course then he sees the latest news about how men who aren’t endlessly accommodating are toxic beasts who need to have their lives destroyed to teach them a lesson.

    • Fred says

      Good point.

      To me what that means is every time one person accommodates so the other can be 100% happy about something, then they are owed a similar accommodation so they can be 100% happy about something equivalent that they want. So there is BALANCE.

      Otherwise you either get:
      – each party only 50% happy at the best of times
      or, worse,
      – a situation which favors one party significantly over the other on an ongoing basis, e.g. feminism based female favoritism or this “alpha male” story such as the above. I don’t look at either way being anything but a recipe for misery. You have to have BALANCE.

  3. MathMom says

    I believe it should be a warning to all young men, that if they ask a girl out, then find she has Cosmo magazine on her coffee table, they should run screaming and not look back.

    • Tom says

      You speak wisdom. Cosmo is far worse for women than Playboy ever was for men. Read the presence of Cosmo magazine as “attention. Warp core rupture imminent. Evacuate ship immediately.” No feminist publication poisons women’s minds more than Cosmo. And I heard men being told this in the 1970’s.

      • Don says

        “Your love in a relationship is voluntarily When you let her abuse that love, your not freely loving her anymore Your now obligated to love her It’s then time to take your free love away” Patrice O’Neal

        Awesome video! You explained all her tactics with logic ? Here’s the red pill truth: she wants to go to clubs to keep her plantation alive. In other words to keep more men in the “friend zone” in case you guys break up or if you guys fight. This is why women get over break ups fast and replace you easy.. because they just grab one of these “friends” off the plantation to replace you. By her saying “boys” she’s using the same shaming language they use as “real men do this”.. in other words, she’s the one manipulating!! Not men. She wants her cake and eat it too. She wants to cuck the men she’s with and at the same time keep her hypergamy at the club straight open. She wants commitment but acts like a side chick.

        Men knowing their standards. Also willing to let her go if need be. I like it.

        Maybe I’m just old fashioned or maybe I’m just from a different generation. Being in a committed relationship I never put myself in inappropriate situations that would disrespect my partner and I just cannot understand why women are “with” someone but they still want to go to the clubs?

        If you’re not willing to walk away at a moment’s notice, she will take advantage and you will have no say in what she does. As simple as that.

        Communication is key in all relationships. Along with the golden rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

        I found you through Coach Greg Adams channel. I like his style since he’s like the father figure( I never had one). I love your unapologetic approach. Your the red pill Dave Ramsey. Thanks for all your insight ! Congratulations on 500 !!

        Your description of women reminds me of an iPhone. Apple only ‘innovates’ (read: copy features from everyone else) when they realize they’re losing sales and nobody wants their stuff.

        Father time is undefeated, he will chew this BROAD up and spit her out. NO KIDS NO WIFE HAPPY LIFE a BANK ACCOUNT and 2 cars.

        Tattoos= damaged goods! You don’t put bumper stickers on a Mercedes ! Deep issues that will come out sooner or later.

        Hi, Folks. Quote: “21 yr old female YouTuber says Men with standards are “controlling, insecure, toxic boys” Unquote. IF she has ANY standards at all and tries to hold you accountable to those standards, does she likewise characterize herself as a ‘controlling, insecure, toxic girl’ ??????????????????????? A kew-ree-yuss mind would like to know – – – – – – – but sure as hell doesn’t really care. Just my 0.02. You all have a wonderful day. Best wishes.

        Young women who categorize themselves as “Free Spirits,” is code for future cat lady.

        its like listening to child read off their demands. Fine do what you want. Just dont expect me to want you. Simple

        Friends, particularly single friends, that want you to go out doing things you did when you were single trying to hook up with a man want you to be single and in some cases once achieved, will try to get your man. I have seen it in action and now at 55 looking back I was as oblivious as anyone that never puts real thought into what a relationship is as opposed to just having a relationship

        She’s doomed. Low value woman right there. Branding herself with them tattoos like a cow. Might wake up 20 years from now….when its too late of course.

        greed [ɡrēd]NOUN intense and selfish desire for something, especially wealth, power, or food. “mercenaries who had allowed greed to overtake their principles” · “greed has taken over football” · “the colonists’ greed for African land” synonyms: avarice · greediness · acquisitiveness · covetousness · rapacity · graspingness · cupidity · avidity · possessiveness · materialism · mercenariness · predatoriness · money-grubbing · money-grabbing · grabbiness · Mammonism · pleonexia · gluttony · hunger · ravenousness · voraciousness · voracity · insatiability · gourmandizing · gourmandism · intemperance · overeating · overconsumption · self-indulgence · swinishness · piggishness · hoggishness · gutsiness · edacity · esurience · desire · urge · need · appetite · craving · longing · yearning · hankering · hungering · thirst · pining · eagerness · enthusiasm · impatience · yen · itch antonyms: generosity · temperance · asceticism · indifference
        scarcity [ˈskersədē]NOUN scarcities (plural noun) the state of being scarce or in short supply; shortage. “a time of scarcity” · “the growing scarcity of resources” synonyms: shortage · dearth · lack · want · undersupply · insufficiency · paucity · scarceness · scantness · meagerness · sparseness · scantiness · poverty · deficiency · inadequacy · limitedness · unavailability · absence · exiguity · exiguousness · rarity · rareness · infrequency · uncommonness · unusualness antonyms: abundance · excess · surplus · commonness

        A bad boy or a toy boy are some of the standards chosen by women. Aren’t they?

        THAT’s verbal skills??? She’s actually “communicating?” Fatherlessness is oozing out of her pores. No 21 yo female knows what the F*** life is about. That was true 50 yrs ago as much as it is today. I’ve raised four of them (and 6 sons), and despite our earnest efforts, 2 of them went off the rails. Three of my nieces are in the same fix–so sure of their ideologies all the men in their lives are running the other way. One would repeatedly come to me for counsel, and then go off and do exactly the things I warned her would cause failure. The last conversation I had with her she had the audacity to ask me what her chances of getting remarried were. Nearly 300lbs and 38 at the time. I was tired of her by then, and just blurted out: NONE. Guess she finally realized I was telling her the truth, as I haven’t heard from her since. Actually, women do not mature emotionally beyond the level they have attained upon entering puberty, and it never gets better the rest of their lives. All one has to do to verify this is put them in a crisis situation where they are mentally challenged to cope with basic survival. They revert to their last state of emotional coping skills. I’ve watched numerous women revert to the whiny, immature state they were as a child, independent of how old they are (even senior women) the moment they cannot control a situation they don’t want to be in. They even try to argue with the weather. One must remember the words of Suzanne Hindmarsh–“. Men make the mistake of thinking women have individual minds; like they do. When they talk to women, they really believe that what is coming out of women’s mouths; has first come through a mind. The truth is, the closest we can come to describing the female mind, is to say that it is a swirling tangled thing, without depth or formal structure, which all of them share, and from which emanates worthless ramblings, equal to that which comes from the proverbial village idiot.” “Behind a woman’s bad decision how often there is another woman.”–Christopher deGroot “…confrontation is always seen as oppression of the woman.” p2 How Women Manipulate Men “Woman, essentially a purist, is naturally bigoted and relentless in her effort to make others as good as she thinks they ought to be….As I have said before, woman’s narrow view of human affairs is not the only argument against her as a politician superior to man. There are others. Her life-long economic parasitism has utterly blurred her conception of the meaning of equality. –Emma Goldman “We’re walking vaginas, and that’s all we’re really good for.”—female caller on Tom Leykis Show

        Free Spirit = Thot riding the CC

        This video comparison is PERFECT! She’s basically giving a “How-To” on how to avoid women just like HER!

        She : I dont have to tell you who I am with… Me: you can pick up your clothes from the front yard anytime…

        Hope She Realizes She’s Shattered Any Hope of Getting With A Man of Value, That’s Red Pilled. Also This Makes A Lot of Sense, As To Why These Females Want A Man To Drop All His Hoes For One of Her, That’s The Exact Same Thing.

        My standards and boundaries are non-negotiable, if I don’t find a woman to match those, I am ready to spend the rest of my days peacefully singl

      • Waleed says

        Crazy Oldsters Scaring Men Off, you mean? How long did Helen Gurley Brown live, anyway? The advice they give is a real riot, guys. Next time you’re in the doctor’s office, and you see a Cosmo, read it. You will hurt from laughing, the advice is ludicrously bad for women.

  4. Crimsey says

    My classics professor 40 years ago pointed to Cleopatra and her two Romans as the perfect example of this. Antony followed her around like a puppy, essentially unmanned himself, where Caesar was in charge. Women don’t respect, and ultimately mistreat, weak men.

  5. Patrick Martin says

    This is a great observation, but the advice is really the same regardless of gender. Most people don’t want to be in a relationship with a person who won’t stand up for themselves, who don’t have self-respect. If a husband becomes completely subservient to his wife, unwilling to say “hey, I don’t like that, let’s work out a better solution” (whether that’s the paint color, the allocation of chores, or where to go to dinner tonight), he’s subsuming his own identity to hers. Likewise if a wife becomes completely subservient to her husband, unwilling to say “hey, I don’t like that, let’s work out a better solution” (whether that’s how much free time they spend together or separately with other friends, allocation of chores, or where to go to dinner tonight), she’s subsuming her own identity to his.

    What functional person, man or woman, gay or straight, wants to be in such a close relationship with someone who won’t speak up for their own interests?

    In my experience, some people are so deathly afraid of ANY conflict at all, that they wind up creating untold amounts of conflict because they never speak up on their own behalf.

    • Fred says

      It’s not equivalent.

      If a woman needs to become more confident or stand up for herself, etc. the vast majority of the time the man will help her with support and encouragement. It’s instinctual to do this. He likes to do it too. And so together they are both doing things to grow and make things better for both.

      Contrast with what is the lot of men as this article explains:
      “Be perfect…… or be treated like dirt.. It’s not pleasing to me to care. Just feel lucky I didn’t decide to really make you more miserable with all the weapons I have at my disposal these days”.

      Not the same thing at all.

    • Artist says

      What you said about some people being afraid of any conflict at all is so true. I can definitely relate, since I am mostly pretty bad at it. But as I grow older I see more and more the value of conflict in a relationship.

      • Joel says

        Order
        Counterorder
        Disorder- Napoleon

        Thesis
        Antithesis
        Synthesis- Kant(?)

        So long as divergent viewpoints come together in a systemic improvement, you are correct.

  6. Joe says

    This article seems to suggest there is a way guaranteed to stop mistreatment from happening by being a certain type of man.

    That assertion does not hold water.

    There are plenty of cases of mistreatment of ALL the different types of men (assertive ones, accommodating ones, etc. etc.). It can and does happen to any type. And it’s getting worse with the anti-male firehose of feminist dogma drenching society every day. The dogma says whatever a man does he is wrong.

    • Dave R says

      Yes, but the differences are:

      1) You have the ability to walk away, instead of becoming her whipping post.

      2) Your head is held up high when you walk away, knowing she, not you, was the problem, instead of being her whipping post for a while until she tosses you aside and then sobbing to your friends, wondering where you went wrong, trying to get her to take you back while she laughs at you.

      3) It’ll happen far less often when the woman knows that you demand respect and that she understand that your place is to lead. No matter what women claim, they want a strong man who will lead, who they can follow. It is unnatural for them to lead and just examining the natural physicality and mental attributes of the two sexes tells you who should be leading. To deny that, is to deny nature.

      Note: The 50/50 crap is a lie. It cannot possibly work. That’s why it never does and there’s no such thing. One of the two is always leading and when it’s the woman, this stuff is what happens.

      Take a good man and a good woman. If the good man leads, he will use logic and reason and his wife will respect him. But if the good woman leads, she will lose respect for her husband and become a nagging schrew who constantly seeks to emasculate him.

      If you think 50/50 can work, then go look at houses. Say you each choose a different one and “stand up for yourself” and neither of you will back down. Where do you live? How do you choose? One way or another, someone’s going to get their way. And you’ll always argue over who it should be this time. And there will be no reasoning it out, because the woman is an emotional creature who, no matter how much she’ll deny it, will put her “feelings” first. She’ll want the house she “fell in love with”, regardless of other factors. And let’s be honest, 50/50 to a woman means that when you don’t agree, the man should give in to make her happy, which really means she’s running the show and you have the problem being discussed.

      Now, knowing that all of these things about men and women are true, including what happens to a woman who has the power in the relationship, it is, no offense, ridiculous to think it can ever work with a woman in charge, or that 50/50 can work. It can’t. And this is where I see Suzanne falling short. She acknowledges all of these things, yet her prescription is “50/50 with neither side giving in”, because “stand up for yourselves and what you want”. But life doesn’t allow for both people to always have what they want (see house example) and if the woman makes the final decisions (discuss and try to agree first, of course), then trouble!

      Not that a marriage is a kingdom and a wife a subject, but try to have a kingdom with two kings.
      How do you think that “equality” will work out? What will happen?

      The husband is the head of the family. That’s how God created it and as you well know, it simply does not work any other way. And you can see that whether you believe God created it, or that it evolved.

      • Joe says

        There are some smart, grounded women around. That’s unquestionably true. It is also unquestionably true that many women are not grounded, and make some bizarre decisions. If the “good man leads, he will use logic and reason”, or at least ideas that make sense- usually. Not always, but usually, and his wife will respect him. If the woman has to lead, as with alcoholic husbands, they’ll do it, but they will resent it, and some of their decisions won’t go well at all. Like, say, not changing the oil, for 12,000 miles, or, say, letting an electric short go, and it starts a fire. A woman who is forced to lead has zero respect for her husband, and as ou say, will become “a nagging shrew who constantly seeks to “get him to man up. Realistically, men tend to make decisions in their area of expertise, and women in theirs, there is a balance of some sort, in most relationships.

        • Dave R says

          I understand where you’re coming from, but your position assumes a fault in the man. That can be true. What is true in many cases, is that she’s a narcissistic, entitled b*tch. The hope is that being a man who refuses to kowtow and supplicate to her will correct that behavior.

          What I seriously, with all due respect, object to, is this standard “some are like that, some aren’t” claim men constantly make. The truth is that 99% of them will seek to manipulate, will get bitchy and have no problem regularly demeaning men, using them as utilities and believe themselves superior to men, whom they expect to kowtow and supplicate to them when they merely give them “the look”.

          Tell me you need more than one hand to count the women whom you gotten to know well in your life (they’re always “sweet” at first) and who are NOT like that and I’ll tell you that you’re lying. 🙂

          Fact: 99% of Western women are infected with the mind virus called “feminism” to some degree and it’s easy to prove every time!

          Then you have the women like Suzanne here, who claim not to be feminists, yet tell men (like with this article) how they should be all about “equality”, which is quite simply impossible.

          And when you dig a little deeper with these so called “anti-feminists”, you’ll find that when the inevitable situation comes where she and her husband can’t agree, she will expect him to “sacrifice for her”, so she can have her desired choice.

          Keep digging and you’ll find even more feminist thinking, I promise you.

          I’m not attacking Suzanne. She’s light years better than almost all of them! But I am saying that she is not being honest (at least with herself) when she says she’s not a feminist. She is. Just to a lesser degree.

          TTYL

  7. Mike says

    Such truth in this article.
    Read Rollo Tomassi’s book The Rational Male; Jack Donovan’s The Way of Men; Dr. Laura Schlesinger’s The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.

    Desire is biological; it cannot be negotiated for. Women in the long term (commitment) are attracted to a provider; in the short term (sex), they’re attracted to assertive, decisive, masculine, muscular, powerful males.

    It’s one thing to be considerate of your wife; servility is the opposite of the short term attraction. Make yourself a doormat, and she’s biologically incapable of attraction to you.

    Wife losing interest in you? HIT THE GYM. Learn combat such as tactical firearms training, boxing, or MMA to boost your confidence. Learn how to fix a car and fix your house. Adult male children have “man” caves; MEN have workshops.

    Put a couple of years into learning blacksmithing to build massive upper body strength, and let your wife walk in on you making an eight pound sledge hammer ring on a ten pound piece of glowing red steel and an anvil; when she sees your massive arms, chest and shoulders, that’ll give her a case of the vapors.

    Come home from the gym with a shiner, and when she asks you about it, just grin and say that you had a really good time at the gym today.

    Forget chasing women; pursue excellence and masculinity and the women will chase YOU. A man must be the center (the starting point) of everything in his universe. A woman should be an enhancement to his life, or she shouldn’t be in it.

    • David says

      All successful PUA’s say never chase women. Let them chase you. In fact, ignore women. Pursue your passions. Let them make the approach, and you can just say “no” to the bad ones, who are at least 80% of those who approach. They want equality- let’s give it to them- let them put their egos on the line, and deal with rejection.

    • Theo says

      Feminists hate the men who follow their words. Feminism is a shit test. Real men won’t play the game, and feminists, and women, know that. The weak, effeminate men who follow the feminist line are considered really bad by feminists. It’s easy to tell; which men are they attracted to?

  8. Brad says

    Women say they want a nice, sensitive, thoughtful, attentive guy, but no sooner have they got such man than they regard him with contempt. It doesn’t pay to be that guy. Be a traditional, no nonsense man, who acts on principle and never compromises his self-respect. That is the only kind of man that women respect.

  9. Jeremy says

    I was the overly accommodating husband you talk about. And my wife dumped me for a guy she said would “keep her in line”. Cool. She now lives in homeless shelters, estranged from her new husband, totally whacked out, won’t take her meds. I’m remarried, and while I’m helpful, I have solid boundaries.

  10. Kimo says

    Women often speak with forked tongue. They have no respect at all for beta simps. What they respect is strong, silent men, who don’t put up with their BS and sh..testing. Men who know what they want, and simply don’t back down on what’s important.

    Get a woman talking about her abusive boyfriend. “Oh, yes, he’s often mistreated me, for the ten years we’ve been together…” What? Huh? TEN YEARS? Yes, they stay with the abusive boyfriend. Just listen to them talk. And they dump the beta simp as soon as they meet him. Women do NOT like nice guys, not at all. How many nice guys in high school got any action? Not one. No, they went out with barely literate football players, and other mean guys. It’s like they are still gorillas, seeking out the biggest, strongest male gorilla. Women despise nice guys. Nice guys don’t usually get to reproduce.

    Guys, if the woman doesn’t respect you, YOU created it. If you can get out, get out. If you can’t easily get out, start standing your ground on small things. Let her threaten. Get advice from a lawyer. When she shittests you, pretend you are the meanest, angriest guy on the football team, and ask how he would handle it. She gives you her purse to hold, while she’s in the bathroom? Don’t accept it. She has moods? Say you need air, and walk out. Better, just say “I’m leaving”, and walk out. SHe doesn’t know how long, or anything. Keep in good shape, so she knows you have options, and can easily replace her. Start being unpredictable. Play their game, and play it to win.

  11. Nathan says

    Interesting Psychology Today article. Worth reading.

    Feminists Think Sexist Men Are Sexier Than “Woke” Men
    Why do women find sexist men appealing?

    Women like bad boys. At least, that’s the story. And there’s lots of writing and anecdotal experience to back it up. Men frequently complain about being “friend-zoned,” the idea being that men who are respectful toward their female interests get placed in the role of friend, rather than potential boyfriend. The “pickup artist” community has embraced this concept, teaching men how to behave in assertive, dominant ways that, allegedly, are more “successful” with women. Many of these concepts and dynamics themselves have been called sexist and misogynistic, reflecting underlying beliefs that women “owe” men sex. The “incel” community, a group of online males who complain bitterly, violently, and angrily about being “involuntary celibates,” attack women for choosing “Alpha males” rather than softer, kinder men … like themselves?

    Women who admit to liking bad boys—or being attracted to men who are assertive or dominant—are sometimes criticized as having “internalized” misogynistic attitudes, or simply as being naïve and foolish, or failing to recognize or admit that sexism is damaging. During the 2016 presidential campaign, female fans of then-candidate Trump proudly invited their candidate to grab them, following the release of tapes of Trump discussing grabbing women without consent. These women were proclaimed traitors to other women, or decried as deluded. Others have suggested that women may choose bad boy types in order to acquire their protection from other, more aggressive and hostile men, a theory referred to as the “protection racket.” Some simply suggest that sexism is insidious, and that these dynamics infiltrate our choices without us noticing.

    These are complex, highly politicized dynamics that foster conflicts and finger pointing between the genders. Unfortunately, research suggests that women do in fact find sexist men attractive. Gul and Kupfer recently published research where they conducted multiple experiments, testing women’s attraction to different types of men, and teasing out women’s motivations.

    Past research has suggested that evolutionary biology explains these dynamics, pointing to findings that women reportedly prefer men with more masculine features and more indicators of “fitness.” However, many of those sensational findings are in question, with failed replications leading to doubt that these effects can be reliably predicted or measured.

    Gul and Kupfer take a related tack, but head in a slightly different direction. They suggest that female interest in sexist men, specifically men who display “benevolent sexism,” may be seen by women as being more an interest in men investing resources in a woman.

    Benevolent sexism describes a form of sexism which is overtly less hostile and misogynistic, and reflects beliefs that I was taught, as a man from the U.S. South. Benevolent sexism includes beliefs that:

    Women should be “put on a pedestal.”
    Women should be cherished and protected by men.
    Men should be willing to sacrifice to provide for women.
    Women are more virtuous than men.
    Women are more refined and pure, compared to men.
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    Despite aspects of benevolent sexism appearing chivalrous and romantic, previous research has found that women who endorse these beliefs often demonstrate approval of restrictions on women’s freedoms, independence, and autonomy, and may impact women’s support for gender egalitarianism.

    Gul and Kupfer used several different related experiments to test why women find men with these types of beliefs to be more sexy and appealing. They found that women who saw these types of men as more attractive also saw the men as being more willing to protect and care for them, and to commit to a relationship. Interestingly though, these women weren’t love-struck fools, but had their eyes open: Despite being attracted to these men, and seeing them as good mates and partners, the women saw these males as being undermining and patronizing and more likely to place restrictions on the women.

    Gul and Kupfer conducted several separate experiments, showing that their results did replicate in different samples and using different methods (an important strategy) and that the effect was apparent both in potential mates and in work colleagues. Even in men who were not being scoped out as potential intimate partners, women were more likely to see sexist men as more attractive. Women who were both more and less feminist displayed similar levels of attraction to sexist men, so this effect isn’t the result of women not being “woke” enough.

    One of the experiments tested whether women’s ratings of sexist men varied depending on cues about there being more hostile men around from whom the woman might need protection. But here again, women’s attraction towards sexist men wasn’t influenced by her potential need for safety from more hostile men.

    Gul and Kupfer’s research offers a new way to approach these complex dynamics of attraction, integrating the role of evolutionary influences with culturally-influenced social role expectations. It also challenges some of the misleading beliefs that blame both women and men for the persistence of sexism in our society. It’s important to note that sexism and misogyny are not identical concepts.

    “Dating male feminists turned out to be one of the least empowering decisions I’ve ever made.” —Kate Iselin

    Women who find sexist men attractive are not being traitors to other women, nor are they naïve females who don’t understand their choices. Instead, they are women making rational decisions, and accepting tradeoffs. They recognize that it may be more beneficial to have a partner who is committed to them and willing to sacrifice for them and their family than it is to have a “woke” feminist man who wants them to be independent.

    I look forward to future research which might explore men’s own perceptions of their attitudes toward women. Do men who hold benevolent sexist beliefs recognize that they may increase their attractiveness, while also potentially being seen as patronizing? But for now, perhaps this research can help us stop attacking sexist men as being misogynistic tools of the patriarchy, and recognize that these social dynamics exist due to the choices of both men and women, for reasons other than power, hatred, or control.

  12. Adam says

    A Clinical Psychologist says ‘Women Hate Harmless Men’

    Many modern men have been propagandized to believe that modern women want nice, sensitive, empathetic guys who make them feel safe. And then they are perplexed and frustrated when they eventually find themselves dumped, divorced, or relegated to the friend-zone for perpetuity. They don’t understand that the media is most lies.

    According to Jordan Peterson—clinical psychologist, professor of psychology at the University of Toronto, and popular speaker—such results are not surprising. When he spoke to a gathering of people earlier this year, his thoughts on what women really want in a man supported a stereotype that still has popular cachet: that women are attracted to assholes.

    Okay, so there’s a bit of hyperbole in the stereotype. I don’t really believe that “asshole” is the most accurate designation for the kind of man that a woman wants. But the hyperbole gets at a truth that Peterson more eloquently teases out in his thoughts, some of which I have transcribed below. (Jordan is capable of thinking.)

    “It’s been really interesting for me to watch the response… of young Caucasian males to hip-hop. You know, there’s an aggressiveness about hip-hop that’s really attractive to young Caucasian males. And there’s something absurd about the spectacle of the young Caucasian males taking on the persona of inner-city black gang members. But I’m sympathetic to it because there’s an aggressiveness to that art form that’s a necessary corrective to the insistence that the highest moral virtue for a modern man is harmlessness—which is absurd.

    Women don’t even like harmless men; they hate them. They like to claw them apart. What women want are dangerous men who are civilized; and they want to help civilize them. That’s Beauty and the Beast.

    How many of you know what a Harlequin Romance is?… So those are archetypal stories. That’s the taming of the wild man, essentially, by the desirable and virginal woman. And if you think women don’t want that then you bloody better well come up with an explanation for Fifty Shades of Grey, which is the most rapid-selling novel in human history, and emerged at exactly the same time as all of this noise about the absence of gender roles is being produced en masse.”

    Peterson further bolstered his case by revealing a blush-worthy statistic: what Google engineers discovered as “the five most desirable male entities” used in female pornography. They were:

    1) Vampire
    2) Werewolf
    3) Billionaire
    4) Surgeon
    5) Pirate

    As you’ll notice, weak guys that act like doormats to women didn’t crack the top five.

    What is said about women is often totally out of whack with what women actually think, say, and do, have you noticed?

  13. Ken says

    Interesting advertisment I found, on the web.

    Here is a new piece of dating advice for you: A woman can like everything about you, but if you do these things (or even ONE of these things), it can DESTROY your chances of success. Remember — ATTRACTION Isn’t A Choice.
    ATTRACTION Isn’t A Choice
    ATTRACTION Isn’t A Choice
    There are a few particular things that REALLY annoy single, attractive women.
    One of the reasons that these things annoy women is because they’re DEAL KILLERS.

    A woman can like everything about you, but if you do these things (or even ONE of these things), it can DESTROY your chances of success.

    Here’s your best dating advice of the day:

    Don’t Give Up Your Status In Exchange For Her Attention And Approval
    If I had to describe the one single thing that both annoys women and DESTROYS a guy’s chances, it would be this. It has taken me a long time to see this particular pattern, but it’s EVERYWHERE.
    Men, in effect, say “Hi, I want your approval and attention. I’m willing to let YOU be the one who’s in control… and let YOU call the shots… and do anything to please YOU… if you’ll give me your attention and approval”. But the problem is that women DON’T WANT you to give up your status and “manliness”. IMPORTANT DATING TIP: Women aren’t ATTRACTED to men who act weak and tentative.
    Women secretly HATE IT when a guy does something to demonstrate that he’ll give away his power in return for approval.

    THEY HATE IT!

    I could literally write an entire dating advice book on this one single concept.
    Take a few minutes to think this one over, and maybe write down the ways that you make this mistake with women. More importantly, think about how you’re going to STOP DOING IT IMMEDIATELY.
    Women secretly HATE IT when a guy does something to demonstrate that he’ll give away his power in return for approval.

    Being Needy, Clingy, And Insecure
    When one person “clings” to another person “psychologically”, the person who is being “clinged to” RESENTS and REJECTS the needy, clingy emotional parasite… This is WUSS behavior at its worst.
    If a guy is on the phone with a girl he just met, and she says “Hey, I have to go”, he might say “Aw, well… um …OK. Um, will you call me when you get home? ” And an even worse example is a guy who is so emotionally insecure that he actually ASKS a woman to tell him that he’s nice, fun, interesting, etc.
    “Do you think I’m interesting? ”
    “Do you think we could ever have a relationship? ”
    “Am I your type? ”

    Women HATE this stuff. It makes them shiver with the heebie-jeebies. It makes them want to RUN AWAY.

    Not Understanding Attraction
    This is a BIGGIE.

    Women can FEEL IT when they’re with a guy who “gets it”. Women know very quickly if they’re talking to a guy who understands himself and women… and who enjoys creating and building sexual tension.
    Women know if a guy speaks the SECRET LANGUAGE of “Sexual Communication”.
    If he doesn’t, then she stops all communication on that level.
    If he does, then it continues.
    ATTRACTION Isn’t A Choice.

    Attraction is an emotional and physical RESPONSE… and you can’t “convince” a woman to feel it with logic, gifts, and NICENESS.

    ATTRACTION Isn’t A Choice
    ATTRACTION Isn’t A Choice
    Attraction is the result of a woman meeting a man who understands how attraction works… and who knows what to do in each specific situation to progress to the next level.
    The PROBLEM with ATTRACTION, and with success with women in general is that the things you need to DO to be successful are NOT OBVIOUS.

    They’re “counter intuitive”, in many cases.

    In other words, they’re the OPPOSITE of what you’d THINK would make sense.

    You have to do things like CREATE SEXUAL TENSION… stop doing something that she likes… give her time to miss you… etc.

    Note: some product is being sold, by this, of course. Isn’t this interesting, though.

  14. Don says

    This is a Donovan Sharpe video.
    21 year old female YouTuber continues to show the world why American women are the worst they’ve ever been. She characterizes Men who require accountability as “toxic and insecure.”

    Donovan starts by saying that it is impossible to control women, and undesirable.
    A 5 percenter, a high value man, can be controlling, because he’s at the top of the scale.
    Women love men who are in control- but not who control them. Men do need to be territorial – but not controlling. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkI1QS0rdnk
    If a woman wants to go to a club, great. He says he terminates, when she does. And then he reviews a most fascinating video. That’s neither here nor there. The comments were interesting, though.

    Having standards is better than having Double Standards.

    Females all have double and tripple standards, hyprocrisy is hardwired in.

    I’d rather be alone with my high standards, than be in a relationship accepting less!

    It’s the other way with what cultural Marxism is teaching women, they will blame the patriarchy a euphemism for men

    The very essence of standards is control. The point of standards is to ensure higher quality of any product or service entered into society. So a man not having standards will no doubt end up with a woman likely to disrespect him in front of other men, tell him it’s his kid and then tell the truth once the kid is 25 and finished college on the mans dime. Men and women should have what ever standards they please. Just remember not every one will fit.

    If a woman calls you controlling, say goodbye without hesitation. Nothing good will come of the relationship after that point, she’s constructing a narrative

    I call it the victim mind set. If she is a victim, you will be her victimizer, even if you don’t know about it.

    Narcissists are always building a case,especially when their mouths are open!

    It also means they hold grudges, which is a huge red flag. I hate women who always use those words, “possessive,” “controlling,” etc… It just means they are that too, like attracts like, they’re either insecure, projecting, crazy or anything in between.

    Men, listen up. If a woman disrespects you in ANY way (especially in public), unless it’s during a fight where emotions are high, get rid of her. If you are married, start planning your exit strategy. Disrespect is the harbinger of female infidelity. If she disrespects you, you can be damn sure that if she hasn’t cheated on you, she most definitely will eventually. And once respect is gone, it ain’t coming back. So be done with her.

    Shaun Hensley, yup…and for that matter, if a woman constructs ANY narrative other than reality, it’s time to leave. My ex wife was physically abusive to me, leaving me with bruises on multiple occasions. Turns out the whole time she was telling her family I was abusive. This is the narrative she told the judge in divorce court too.

    but what if your sister dated a controlling man? Not every woman is like this chick. Some women can be in fact, victims. Been there done that.

    get outta here with that bull. if you’re with an abusive person, that’s YOUR choice — whether male or female “been there, done that” = dumb fuck behavior

    Being afraid of divorce rape and not seeing your kid’s is most definitely controlling millions of men.

    it’s like all the single moms on the dating apps with a 3 page bio filled with resentment because they put up with and fell for so much shit

    Women need to be controlled, otherwise they destroy everything they touch.

    If your sister dated a controlling man …and she knew it and stayed that says just as much about her as it does about him. Most seem quite content to hang on for years while complaining ..”My boyfriend is such an asshole “. If I had a penny for every time WEV’E ALL endured that tired worn out line.

    Agreed. Terminate the relationship, as there is no way you can win or break even. Give her what she wants and what you need, show her the door.

    The narrative you made, Shaun. If a woman is calling you controlling, you have done the best thing and realise, that’s her ending it with you and you’re agreeing with the goodbye. Well done on not stalking her.

    Why the hell get into a relationship where you have to worry if your girl is cheating on you with 50 Chad’s? I wouldn’t want to live my life like that. Friends with benefits with no strings attached is the only way to go with today’s western women

    HOW DARE a man with morals tell a thot to not be a thot?

    She’s only 21. Being passed around is exactly what she LOVES most in life.

    Women with tats are 100% trash. I knew venom was going to be barfed from this one’s mouth before you even played the video.

    “I don’t chase them. I replace them. And If I’m caressing them then I’m undressing them.” –

    Rules for thee, but not for me.

    So young and so meh, the wall will rip her to shred. Yet, the idiot think she have the time to have attitude. Foolishness.

    If she comes out with those accusations to try and control you, replace her.

    There is always some female trying to advise women who are doing the right thing to join her in her REBELLION against morality, respecting men, good decisions and join her in her own self-hatred. And there she is. Ha! Ha!

    What’s hilarious is that she’s 21. She’s probably the hottest she’ll ever be in her life. Sad.

    I love when fat faced 6’s act like they have way too much SMV

    Shes just pissed bc she knows she doesnt meet those standards. Keep ypur standards gents…LETS STARVE THESE SELF ENTITLED THOTS !!!!

    After these daily red pills, spotting a THOT has become so much easier.

    You are really good at breaking down the manipulative moves women make

    Has anyone else noticed that even these younger women refer to past relationships in bulk.

    She is trying to CONTROL and MANIPULATE men in to not having standards and self respect.

    Free Spirit = S L U T until I get a white knight.

    Good vid. The primary feminist war cry is the word “Choice.” The word works both ways. If they want the choice to skank around, we have the choice to guard our resources and leave.

    In short a girl like this radiates TOXIC FEMININITY . Unlike “toxic masculinity”, TOXIC

    Men with standards won’t end up being the father of her child.

    20 is the new 30 she already hit the wall lol

    Wait how is she giving advice and only 21.She been ran through.

    Women have a problem with men having standards because it minimizes their control over men. Besides, aren’t women’s standards stacked higher than the Empire State Building? The irony.

    I can’t wait to see her follow up video 10 years later. The Wall is rubbing it’s hands together like Birdman.

    I robbed a bank, they asked me why? i said i am a free-spirited person…

    how about women who require accountabilly are toxic and insecure

    She just proved that she thinks men are pets and they are dumb.

    “I feel, I feel, I feel”. All of women’s arguments start with those two words. F*ck your feeling, princess. Hit me with logic and reason or keep those DSLs shut

    These thots are looking older faster, the CC & booze guarantees they lose in the end.

    I’m not controlling! I don’t give a rats a$$ what women do! Just leave me the F alone!?

    So it’s sin for an individual to have standards? Interesting… SMH.

  15. Don says

    She is the type of girl that wants to be 100% dominated by an alpha,,,she hates beta men so much she will do anything to have a man that makes her submit to him she is covering that deep desire by pretending to be a hardcore feminist,,,the biggest feminists i saw had alpha boyfriends and they acted like a pet around their man,basically she wants a thug

    She is simply looking for a blue pill / cuckold to embrace her beliefs and lifestyle. There are way to many rascals that will do it.

    I can save money if I stay single and keep my resources to myself. I’m laughing at the dumb jezebels LoL hahahahaha

    Lots of make up and those tattoos are a clear sign to run.

    How can anyone take advice from this creature when her face is a different color than her neck

    People who use the word toxic in a figurative sense are brainless m or ons.

    …a pie face, loads of fakeup, & with roman numerals tatooed on her shoulders. No Thanks

    Men should always have standards. It’ll save you on the long run.

    Most women are “I can do a certain behavior but if you do that same behavior we’ve got a problem..” Ain’t gonna fly …

    It’s all crazy to me. It’s ok for women to have standards, but if a man has standards he’s controlling. I would have these feelings in previous relationships, but was led to believe I was wrong for thinking the way I did. smh

    I have been accused twice of being controlling but I don’t care because I can move on in an instant. Both of those females regret it now because I have seen right through them and they can’t change that. I refuse to back track. They were cheating gaslighting me they were stupid to the point of telling off on themselves. A female who accuses you of being controlling is hiding something. That’s a big red flag!!!!!!!!! The Jezebel succubus culture is getting worse because the Jezebel spirit is very rampant. Look up the YouTube video about the Jezebel spirit and soul ties.

    That hoss has a beauty and makeup channel?,what for? tranny’s?.

    This is girl doesnt realize she is toxic. I wouldnt want her as a friend. As a guy I wouldn’t want her as a girlfriend

    When this thing inevitably slams at warp speed into the wall, shell be begging for some guy to care enough to possess and control her

    Apparently, women forget how possessive and controlling they can be when their boyfriends go to the bars and clubs, with their buddies.

    I dont need to be psychic to see the future of this thot. At 42, why am still alone and childless/single mother.

    In 10 years this THOT will be bemoaning the fact that she is truly alone in life, and that it is everyone’s fault but hers. Mirror mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest THOT of all?

    Most modern day women are disgusting and this girl is a prime example.

    Someone call George Orwell. Tell him of his pigs ran off and is putting tons of makeup on while talking nonsense

    In my mid twenties I was briefly interested in a girl (we were never an item) who I later discovered hooked up with an ex boyfriend in the bushes in a public park after a wedding ceremony we both attended. The park had a lot of people in it. It’s not paranoid to keep both eyes on your woman and enforce clear boundaries. It’s super easy for them to hookup.

    You’re controlling = you won’t give me the opportunity to sleep around. When they say you’re insecure you say ” im so secure I know I can replace you” When they say you’re controlling you just say ” you’re right, you should go find a simp. I prefer women smart enough to respect boundaries I set for their protection”

    Free spirit = child mentality, smash and dash. Fixing/maturing her ain’t your job.

    When you hear these claims from women about being controlling and insecure, it is a huge red flag! Its almost certain she is screwing someone else!

    SMH…And they wonder why so many guys are saying, to hell with this ish! Free spirited just means, to hell with standards, they want to do what they want, when they want regardless of what their boyfriend has to say! I agree…she’s a lost cause and she will likely have a BFF cat in her future!

    No 21 year old should be giving out relationship advice. If you want good advice, go to somebody two decades older.

    Oh yay, another somatic narcissist-thot lacking any insight or self awareness giving others advice?.

    Tom Lykis is correct I don’t want to be with a woman that goes to the clubs and has girls nights out. I don’t want to control you if you do these things I can’t be with you. MGTOW

    It make no sense for her to be in a relationship.

    Hahahaha. “Red flags to look out for?” Yeah, the biggest red flag is in her mirror.

    20:15 I never tell women what to do. I tell them what I’m going to do. I tell them I don’t date women who go to girls night out. It’s then their decision to end the relationship.

    women: i want my man to be 6’0 foot, making 600k a year, has to have a Harvard degree, is 21-24 years old, must have a 6 pack, and have to look better then Chris evens
    men: well she has to be fit

    I think they also call relationships where it is easy to cheat as “friendships”.

    During my 47 years on this planet, and the culmination of 5 long term relationships during that time. all of them either said I was “mentally abusive”, “verbally abusive”, and/or “controlling”. The basic buzzwords women enjoy flinging around, so my reply is always the same “yet, you stay, and FYI. You have the option of leaving at any time you wish. No one is keeping you here under your will.”. That’s when they look at you with a blank stare, unsure what to say next.

    Thank you for explaining so well in detail how women think and their counter measures. Everyone needs to here this. Haven’t watched one episode when you were wrong in explain how these hints operate. You are saving people, well the ones who truly understand what you’re saying. Emphasis on truly understand

    MGTOW is the only weapon we have in this toxic putrid dating pool.

    She had a kid at 19 nuff said!

    Even when I was younger I’ve dealt with women that had this mindset. Let’s just say now that father time comes to collect his bill. Dated a girl like her in the video and now at the ripe age of 29 she looks 38 or 39. I’m 34 and still get carded for liquor. When we were dating as well her “friends” like this chick in the video as well would have “interventions” about me. Lol. This was in my “blue pill” days.

    When your redpill aware shaming tactics don’t work and that’s what this women is trying to do shame men for wanting accountability

    Dude… who tf is this genius. Man, red pill content makes me grow in wisdom like a weed.

    Lol, I was just talking to a chick who said the same thing. She wanted a traditional man, but she also didn’t want someone telling her what to do. Sorry ladies! You can’t have it both ways.

    What’s good for the goose is never Good for the gander they can have All these unrealistic standards with men and expect the world from him but when he wants his woman Accordingly to his standards he’s controlling he’s toxic he’s masculine but he’s not a decent man always been a double edged sword…mentality

    A good woman wouldn’t do anything that would prompt her partner to feel insecure.

    I have worked around and closely with many women over my business career. A consistent comment that many women made was that they did not like working with or for other women and most preferred working for a man. Many women I have known have also stated that women are crazy. These comments were made without me asking or soliciting the comment. With that being said, I offer a quote from one of my favorite movies. In the movie, “As good as it gets”, Jack Nicholson, who plays a writer in the movie, is just leaving the publisher. The young female receptionist asks Nicholson a question. Receptionist: “How do you write women so well?” Nicholson: “I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability.”

    Her total lack of respect for men just Screams Daddy Issues. Probably 1.) raised by a single mom &/or 2.) has a dad who never set any boundaries

    Fun fact dudes: She’s a single mother struggling with depression… “Well imagine my shock.

    I.see tats I walk. Maybe mayyyybbeee one small oh look how cool.i am inconspicuous one…ok. Maybe.. But I see loud and proud tats on any woman…run…flee…flee for your lives

    Women want the power of a man, The privilege of a woman, and the responsibility of neither

    Here are some Red Flags I see: 1) Single mom 2) Wears more make-up than Homie D. Clown 3) So stupid that she tattooed her birthdate on her shoulder, making it impossible to lie about her age when she’s still hanging out in bars in her 50’s and 60’s. LOL

    These women don’t respect men it’s very passive aggressive. Never deal with a woman raised without a father around. This is so important

    This girl breeded with a guy she claims is on meth, wasted at homecoming, beat her up before prom, and harassed her after they broke up… Do we even want that guys’ DNA in the next generation? Do we want her DNA?

    I used to hold this girl accountable. She still ended up cheating, whilst calling the relationship “toxic” as she monkey branched

    I have one important standard…. a woman must not be an animal abuser. I guess im toxic.

    If a women says she is a free spirit or a gypsy of any sort … Run ..

    I 100% agree. If your girlfriend’s friend talks crap about you constantly, she’s most likely jealous and wants you for herself.

    HAHAHAH womanese for: he doesn’t let me get away with bad behavior! Lol dude I died laughing at that one, keep up the good work!!!

    So many women dont realize how much their friends keep them single.

    If he’s controlling, he’s harming her ability to monkey-branch. That’s what it translates into. When you hear “boyfriends that don’t let you do anything” what you’re really hearing is “boyfriends who ask that you don’t do things they perceive as having a negative impact on the relationship”. Don’t let you? Lol no. Bitch you have the option to just do it anyway. He can’t stop you from doing anything. Just know that when you do it, there will be consequences. So make your choice: Commit to the relationship and agree on the things you each don’t want the other to do, or walk away. That’s what a relationship is. That’s what a commitment is. Like this fat face bitch would “let” her boyfriend just do anything he ever wanted…

    I cant smash the like button enough!!!!

    I’ve seen women with higher standards than any guy I know. And THEY are toxic and insecure.

    Undead chronic did a video about a woman who blamed her friend group for the end of her marriage. Said following their bad advice she treated her husband like a feminazi and was surprised when he had enough and left. Women give each other bad advice on purpose to ruin the other’s relationships. They do it to take the other girl down a peg or to get that man. But the comments were acting like women dont do these things to each other. We see it all the time but reality isnt their reality.

  16. Don says

    more comments that address your subject
    Guess I was right… My ex wife didn’t really like me lol. If I told her she couldn’t do certain things, she would get mad and scream at me. If I said no to her for any reason… Immediate argument. Good thing she’s my ex lol

    Baby fat round face, chip on her shoulder, tats, self absorbed, way too much makeup, reserved seat on the carousel, contempt for men… a perfect feminist future single mom. Wait until this one hits the wall. Yikes. LOL

    Free sprit, = ho! …. lol this one is going to hit the wall at 200mph…..LMAO

    Greetings, Mr. Sharpe: Women who complain about being controlling and possessive don’t really want responsibility nor commitment based on respect…if a lady wants as much from a guy as far as commitment then it goes both ways!!! Whether young and old, “they” all want it all but DO NOT know any real sense of accountability and scruples towards the difference between getting want they want versus the consequences of what they want! This is why many guys call this type of thinking women have today as being “myopic” in a childlike way…never fully considering with foresight that a relationship requires making compromises…Of course a free and independent should never do that! Dream on ladies! If “X” guy is deemed as controlling for not wanting to have his lady go out alone or with her gal pals to enter into an unsafe space like a nightclub, where sick and degenerate may be hanging out, and in a predatory way stalking each other…then, maybe…just maybe these ladies maybe aren’t ready for a “committed” relationship where people are protective of each other! These ladies may really have the darling idea of a having a man who is committed but in actually really don’t want it…because the reality is that they have an immature sense of what being committed means and only want the benefits and not the work! As far as these ladies…who are free-spirits?…they have no idea what that means…even that takes it toll and has a price that must be paid! P.S. Freedom is not free! S.D.G

    I play a game called” who can emotionally disconnect the fastest” with intentions to win!

    Good stuff. Can you do something on Gaslighting?

    man have a hierarchy, woman have a pecking order. a peckingorder has no leader just a constant fight for the rank of first place or the next temporairy higher place in this peckingorder. thats why they act the way they do. gossip, undermining relationships among their own girlfriends etc etc. and they don’t dress up for you as a man. they are in a pecking order, those expencive clothing and tampon holders(handbag) are to determain their place in the pecking order. they dress up for other woman and take it off for men.

    She’s way too young to be handing out this type of advise. The wall defeats them all girl. Your tune will change in about 10 to 15 years but by then it’ll be too late.

    Men with standards are gone pecan. Enjoy your cats ?!

    Whenever I feel down or stressed, I come to see videos like this to remind myself Im not married to a woman like this. And I feel a lot better. It’s free therapy.

    Disney culture in part causes the stunted maturity.

    Sooooooo….they want men with no standards at all? Interesting….
    Women: He’s gotta be 666 unicorn and if he’s not, be out!
    Man: she’s gotta cook, clean, maintain a home, be respectful.
    Woman:That’s being abusive, controlling, judgemental and I’m not happy anymore, be out! Next….? Hello? I just said NEXT!! WHO’S IN LINE??
    *Crickets Woman age 35: where all the good men AT??

    I find it ironic that this 21 year old free spirit thinks she has enough wisdom to give advise about life and relationships when she’s barely lived it.

    Guys we do better when we know better. Thanks Donovan??

    Check the tell tale signs gang… visible tattoos, hot red lips, shames women who submit to their men, etc. Chick sounds/acts like she grew up in fatherless home

    I’ve always been impervious to shaming from broads. Her speech in this regard was about as meaningful to me as cricket chirps.

    All these feminists are so ugly. Without thirsty simps women like this wouldn’t have enough experience to dictate relationship advice. This is one rock solid forty niner.

    Like Chris Rock said, and I’m paraphrasing here, but when men see a hot woman that one of their buddies is currently seriously involved with, they’re like “I want a woman just like her.” But on the flip side, when women see an attractive man that one of their gf’s is seriously involved with, they’re like, “I want him, and I’ll do whatever it takes to get with him.” #RedPill

    Thank you Donovan for the constant red pill knowledge wish I knew these things long ago could of saved alot of pain and hurt

    The problem is that men have illdefined and/or low standards.

    Tattoos. It’s all the warning sign you need.

    “Controlling” That gives me a laugh. My wife ran off with her adultery partner and was gone for a year. She told the divorce judge I controlled her into charging $80,000 on her credit cards by having no contact at all. If that doesn’t make you laugh, you’re female.

    Pre Wall: ??‍♀️ “Girls just wanna have fun…”
    Post Wall: ??‍♀️ “Where the hell did all of these cats come from?” ? Meow… Hoe…

    Been to Ibiza? Akkk, clubs! Can’t be slutier. They get lost in body count in one weekend.

    A relationship is toxic when you ARE faithful and the other person IS NOT. And accuses you of infidelity when really it was them. Thankyou

    nobody wants a wife that goes to nightclubs, drinks etc this has nothing to do with insecurities we want a wife with good mother qualities a wife whos god fearing well atleast me

    [CHēt]VERB cheats (third person present) · cheated (past tense) · cheated (past participle) · cheating (present participle) act dishonestly or unfairly in order to gain an advantage, especially in a game or examination. “she always cheats at cards” deceive or trick. “he had cheated her out of everything she had” synonyms: swindle · defraud · deceive · trick · dupe · hoodwink · double-cross · gull · shortchange · exploit · take advantage of · victimize · do · diddle · rip off · con · bamboozle · rob · fleece · shaft · sting · have · bilk · rook · gyp · finagle · flimflam · put one over on · pull a fast one on · take for a ride · lead up the garden path · sell down the river · pull the wool over someone’s eyes · sucker · snooker · goldbrick · gouge · stiff · give someone a bum steer · pull a swifty on · rush · cozen · chicane · sell · illude · mulct · deprive of · deny · prevent from gaining · preclude from gaining · rob of · do out of control [kənˈtrōl]NOUN controls (plural noun) the power to influence or direct people’s behavior or the course of events. “the whole operation is under the control of a production manager” · “the situation was slipping out of her control” synonyms: jurisdiction · sway · power · authority · command · dominance · domination · government · mastery · leadership · rule · reign · sovereignty · supremacy · ascendancy · predominance · hegemony · charge · management · direction · guidance · supervision · superintendence · oversight · influence · prepotence · prepotency · prepollency the ability to manage a machine, vehicle, or other moving object. “he lost control of his car” · “improve your ball control” the restriction of an activity, tendency, or phenomenon. “pest control” synonyms: restraint · constraint · limitation · restriction · check · curb · brake · rein · regulation the power to restrain something, especially one’s own emotions or actions. “give children time to get control of their emotions” synonyms: self-control · self-restraint · restraint · self-command · self-mastery · self-discipline · self-possession · composure · calmness · coolness · cool · countenance (controls) commitment [kəˈmitmənt]NOUN commitments (plural noun) the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc.. “the company’s commitment to quality” synonyms: dedication · devotion · allegiance · loyalty · faithfulness · fidelity · bond · adherence · attentiveness a pledge or undertaking. “I cannot make such a commitment at the moment” synonyms: vow · promise · pledge · oath · covenant · contract · pact · deal · undertaking · decision · resolution · resolve · guarantee · assurance · affirmation (commitments) an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action. “business commitments” · “young people delay major commitments including marriage and children” synonyms: responsibility · obligation · duty · tie · charge · liability · burden · pressure · undertaking · task · engagement · arrangement

    faithful [ˈfāTHfəl]ADJECTIVE remaining loyal and steadfast. “he exhorted them to remain faithful to the principles of Reaganism” · “employees who had notched up decades of faithful service” synonyms: loyal · constant · true · devoted · true-blue · truehearted · unswerving · unwavering · staunch · steadfast · dedicated · committed · trusted · trusty · trustworthy · dependable · reliable · obedient · dutiful antonyms: unfaithful (of a spouse or partner) never having a sexual relationship with anyone else. “her husband was faithful to her” (of an object) reliable. “my faithful compass” true to the facts or the original. “the rugs they make today remain faithful to their ancestors’ methods” synonyms: accurate · precise · exact · errorless · error-free · unerring · without error · faultless · true · close · strict · realistic · authentic · convincing · on the button · on the mark · on the beam · on the nail · spot on · bang on · on the money · verisimilar antonyms: inaccurate

    fairness [ˈfernəs]NOUN impartial and just treatment or behavior without favoritism or discrimination. “part of my role is to ensure fairness to all parties” · “I was impressed with her fairness and firm hand as manager” the quality of having light-colored hair or a pale complexion. “descriptions emphasize the fairness of her skin” archaic beauty. “the maiden allows her fairness to lead her to trouble”

    insecure [ˌinsəˈkyo͝or]ADJECTIVE not firmly fixed; liable to give way or break. “an insecure footbridge” synonyms: unstable · unsecured · loose · rickety · rocky · wobbly · shaky · unsteady · precarious · unsubstantial · weak · flimsy · frail · fragile · spindly · decrepit · unsound · unsafe · jerry-built · teetery · wonky · dicky · dodgy antonyms: secure · stable able to be broken into or illicitly accessed. “an insecure computer system” synonyms: unguarded · unprotected · ill-protected · vulnerable · defenseless · undefended · unshielded · exposed · assailable · open to attack · in danger · unlocked · unbolted · unfastened · unsecured · pregnable antonyms: secure (of a job or position) from which removal or expulsion is always possible. “badly paid and insecure jobs” · “a financially insecure period” synonyms: tense · awkward · strained · constrained · forced · fraught · precarious · unstable antonyms: stable

    toxicADJECTIVE poisonous. “the dumping of toxic waste” · [more] synonyms: poisonous · venomous · virulent · noxious · dangerous · destructive · [more] More about toxic narcissistic [ˌnärsəˈsistik]ADJECTIVE having an excessive or erotic interest in oneself and one’s physical appearance. “a narcissistic actress” synonyms: conceited · self-loving · in love with oneself · self-admiring · self-regarding · wrapped up in oneself · self-absorbed · self-obsessed · self-centered · egotistic · egotistical · egoistic · egocentric · egomaniac · proud · haughty · arrogant · boastful · swaggering · imperious · overweening · cocky · affected · vainglorious · peacockish · have an excessively high opinion of oneself · think too highly of oneself · think a lot of oneself · think one is the cat’s whiskers/pajamas · think one is God’s gift (to women) antonyms: modest relating to narcissism. “narcissistic personality disorder”

  17. Don says

    sociopath [ˈsōsēōˌpaTH]NOUN sociopaths (plural noun) a person with a personality disorder manifesting itself in extreme antisocial attitudes and behavior and a lack of conscience. synonyms: madman/madwoman · mad person · deranged person · maniac · lunatic · psychotic · loony · fruitcake · nutcase · nut · nutjob · cuckoo · psycho · schizo · head case · headbanger · sicko · crank · crackpot · nutter · radge · screwball · crazy · kook · meshuggener · nutso · wing nut

    psychopath [ˈsīkəˌpaTH]NOUN psychopaths (plural noun) a person suffering from chronic mental disorder with abnormal or violent social behavior. synonyms: madman/madwoman · mad person · deranged person · maniac · lunatic · psychotic · sociopath · loony · fruitcake · nutcase · nut · nutjob · cuckoo · psycho · schizo · head case · headbanger · sicko · crank · crackpot · nutter · radge · screwball · crazy · kook · meshuggener · nutso · wing nut informal an unstable and aggressive person. “schoolyard psychopaths will gather around a fight to encourage the combatants”
    externality [ˌekstərˈnalədē]NOUN externalities (plural noun) economics a side effect or consequence of an industrial or commercial activity that affects other parties without this being reflected in the cost of the goods or services involved, such as the pollination of surrounding crops by bees kept for honey. synonyms: consequence · result · upshot · outcome · outturn · effect · repercussion · reverberations · sequel · product · byproduct · spin-off · conclusion · end · end result · accompaniment · concomitant · correlate · knock-on effect antonyms: cause · origin philosophy the fact of existing outside the perceiving subject.

    lust [ləst]NOUN lusts (plural noun) very strong sexual desire. “he knew that his lust for her had returned” synonyms: sexual desire · sexual appetite · sexual longing · sexual passion · lustfulness · ardor · desire · passion · libido · sex drive · sexuality · biological urge · lechery · lecherousness · lasciviousness · lewdness · carnality · licentiousness · salaciousness · prurience · horniness · raunchiness · the hots · randiness · salacity · concupiscence · nympholepsy a passionate desire for something. “a lust for power” synonyms: greed · greediness · desire · craving · covetousness · eagerness · keenness · avidness · avidity · cupidity · longing · yearning · hunger · thirst · appetite · hankering antonyms: aversion theology (lusts) a sensual appetite regarded as sinful. “lusts of the flesh” VERB lusts (third person present) · lusted (past tense) · lusted (past participle) · lusting (present participle) have a very strong sexual desire for someone. “he really lusted after me in those days” synonyms: desire · be consumed with desire for · find sexually attractive · find sexy · crave · covet · want · wish for · long for · yearn for · hunger for · thirst for · ache for · burn for · pant for · have the hots for · lech after/over · fancy · have a thing about/for · drool over · have the horn for

    When it’s easy to cheat she calls it boring lol ? you don’t win ether way

    As a woman I LOVE watching your videos. So much facts in there I’m learning like crazy! THIS is what I expected MGTOW to be like. Not the women hating, women bashing, frothing at the mouth betas rants that i keep seeing. Women of low value dobt want to hear these truths so they’ll attack you but keep pushing forward. You are helping to alpha-up our men and i sincerely appreciate it. My little sister is the personification of these ratchet entitled women and I’m glad to see men putting on the alpha armor to combat harpies like her. Great job!

    For me standards and expectations go hand in hand. How many times have you been looked over because of unrealistic expectations on the part of the other person? Too many times for my own good.

    Stay away from party girls. bad news, Usually just users.

    Dude where were you when I was in my 20s? All this wisdom you’re putting down would have helped me out tremendously during that time!

    It’s them who want all the control. So glad MGTOW exists for the simple fact it triggers these female losers. We finally have a place online for Men and they CAN’T STAND it!

    Donavan, Here is another delusional female who is thirsty for attention has written an article regarding how her body changed after eating fast food. This is a testament to the lack of love for cooking these women display. I date Latin women and they all start cooking at early ages and will never tell a man to eat this crap in lieu of a home cook meal. Here is the link. https://www.msn.com/en-us/health/voices/i-gave-up-fast-food-for-30-days-here-s-what-happened-to-my-body/ar-AAE5ZWD?ocid=spartandhp

    What the hell is that thing?!?!! ? Call me picky.. but I want to go out with a woman… not the phantom of the opera!

    Shes got fine taste in tattoos, like a lot of these women running around. What a piece of work. The wall is going to be an enlightning experience for her.

    Wahmen the authors and publishers of their own oppression post 1960+

    Dating and marriage must just be a females way of getting more shit from certain guys. That’s their whole thing. Which guys can I get more shit from? Has nothing to do with love or family .

  18. Don says

    “Your love in a relationship is voluntarily When you let her abuse that love, your not freely loving her anymore Your now obligated to love her It’s then time to take your free love away” Patrice O’Neal

    Awesome video! You explained all her tactics with logic ? Here’s the red pill truth: she wants to go to clubs to keep her plantation alive. In other words to keep more men in the “friend zone” in case you guys break up or if you guys fight. This is why women get over break ups fast and replace you easy.. because they just grab one of these “friends” off the plantation to replace you. By her saying “boys” she’s using the same shaming language they use as “real men do this”.. in other words, she’s the one manipulating!! Not men. She wants her cake and eat it too. She wants to cuck the men she’s with and at the same time keep her hypergamy at the club straight open. She wants commitment but acts like a side chick.

    Men knowing their standards. Also willing to let her go if need be. I like it.

    Maybe I’m just old fashioned or maybe I’m just from a different generation. Being in a committed relationship I never put myself in inappropriate situations that would disrespect my partner and I just cannot understand why women are “with” someone but they still want to go to the clubs?

    If you’re not willing to walk away at a moment’s notice, she will take advantage and you will have no say in what she does. As simple as that.

    Communication is key in all relationships. Along with the golden rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

    I found you through Coach Greg Adams channel. I like his style since he’s like the father figure( I never had one). I love your unapologetic approach. Your the red pill Dave Ramsey. Thanks for all your insight ! Congratulations on 500 !!

    Your description of women reminds me of an iPhone. Apple only ‘innovates’ (read: copy features from everyone else) when they realize they’re losing sales and nobody wants their stuff.

    Father time is undefeated, he will chew this BROAD up and spit her out. NO KIDS NO WIFE HAPPY LIFE a BANK ACCOUNT and 2 cars.

    Tattoos= damaged goods! You don’t put bumper stickers on a Mercedes ! Deep issues that will come out sooner or later.

    Hi, Folks. Quote: “21 yr old female YouTuber says Men with standards are “controlling, insecure, toxic boys” Unquote. IF she has ANY standards at all and tries to hold you accountable to those standards, does she likewise characterize herself as a ‘controlling, insecure, toxic girl’ ??????????????????????? A kew-ree-yuss mind would like to know – – – – – – – but sure as hell doesn’t really care. Just my 0.02. You all have a wonderful day. Best wishes.

    Young women who categorize themselves as “Free Spirits,” is code for future cat lady.

    its like listening to child read off their demands. Fine do what you want. Just dont expect me to want you. Simple

    Friends, particularly single friends, that want you to go out doing things you did when you were single trying to hook up with a man want you to be single and in some cases once achieved, will try to get your man. I have seen it in action and now at 55 looking back I was as oblivious as anyone that never puts real thought into what a relationship is as opposed to just having a relationship

    She’s doomed. Low value woman right there. Branding herself with them tattoos like a cow. Might wake up 20 years from now….when its too late of course.

    greed [ɡrēd]NOUN intense and selfish desire for something, especially wealth, power, or food. “mercenaries who had allowed greed to overtake their principles” · “greed has taken over football” · “the colonists’ greed for African land” synonyms: avarice · greediness · acquisitiveness · covetousness · rapacity · graspingness · cupidity · avidity · possessiveness · materialism · mercenariness · predatoriness · money-grubbing · money-grabbing · grabbiness · Mammonism · pleonexia · gluttony · hunger · ravenousness · voraciousness · voracity · insatiability · gourmandizing · gourmandism · intemperance · overeating · overconsumption · self-indulgence · swinishness · piggishness · hoggishness · gutsiness · edacity · esurience · desire · urge · need · appetite · craving · longing · yearning · hankering · hungering · thirst · pining · eagerness · enthusiasm · impatience · yen · itch antonyms: generosity · temperance · asceticism · indifference
    scarcity [ˈskersədē]NOUN scarcities (plural noun) the state of being scarce or in short supply; shortage. “a time of scarcity” · “the growing scarcity of resources” synonyms: shortage · dearth · lack · want · undersupply · insufficiency · paucity · scarceness · scantness · meagerness · sparseness · scantiness · poverty · deficiency · inadequacy · limitedness · unavailability · absence · exiguity · exiguousness · rarity · rareness · infrequency · uncommonness · unusualness antonyms: abundance · excess · surplus · commonness

    A bad boy or a toy boy are some of the standards chosen by women. Aren’t they?

    THAT’s verbal skills??? She’s actually “communicating?” Fatherlessness is oozing out of her pores. No 21 yo female knows what the F*** life is about. That was true 50 yrs ago as much as it is today. I’ve raised four of them (and 6 sons), and despite our earnest efforts, 2 of them went off the rails. Three of my nieces are in the same fix–so sure of their ideologies all the men in their lives are running the other way. One would repeatedly come to me for counsel, and then go off and do exactly the things I warned her would cause failure. The last conversation I had with her she had the audacity to ask me what her chances of getting remarried were. Nearly 300lbs and 38 at the time. I was tired of her by then, and just blurted out: NONE. Guess she finally realized I was telling her the truth, as I haven’t heard from her since. Actually, women do not mature emotionally beyond the level they have attained upon entering puberty, and it never gets better the rest of their lives. All one has to do to verify this is put them in a crisis situation where they are mentally challenged to cope with basic survival. They revert to their last state of emotional coping skills. I’ve watched numerous women revert to the whiny, immature state they were as a child, independent of how old they are (even senior women) the moment they cannot control a situation they don’t want to be in. They even try to argue with the weather. One must remember the words of Suzanne Hindmarsh–“. Men make the mistake of thinking women have individual minds; like they do. When they talk to women, they really believe that what is coming out of women’s mouths; has first come through a mind. The truth is, the closest we can come to describing the female mind, is to say that it is a swirling tangled thing, without depth or formal structure, which all of them share, and from which emanates worthless ramblings, equal to that which comes from the proverbial village idiot.” “Behind a woman’s bad decision how often there is another woman.”–Christopher deGroot “…confrontation is always seen as oppression of the woman.” p2 How Women Manipulate Men “Woman, essentially a purist, is naturally bigoted and relentless in her effort to make others as good as she thinks they ought to be….As I have said before, woman’s narrow view of human affairs is not the only argument against her as a politician superior to man. There are others. Her life-long economic parasitism has utterly blurred her conception of the meaning of equality. –Emma Goldman “We’re walking vaginas, and that’s all we’re really good for.”—female caller on Tom Leykis Show

    Free Spirit = Thot riding the CC

    This video comparison is PERFECT! She’s basically giving a “How-To” on how to avoid women just like HER!

    She : I dont have to tell you who I am with… Me: you can pick up your clothes from the front yard anytime…

    Hope She Realizes She’s Shattered Any Hope of Getting With A Man of Value, That’s Red Pilled. Also This Makes A Lot of Sense, As To Why These Females Want A Man To Drop All His Hoes For One of Her, That’s The Exact Same Thing.

    My standards and boundaries are non-negotiable, if I don’t find a woman to match those, I am ready to spend the rest of my days peacefully singl

  19. Jay says

    Overly accommodating males get an education, quickly, in the fact that women utterly despise them, holding them in great contempt. When the education comes… some guys know to go off by themselves, preferably in nature. They simply go non-verbal, in mushin.

    The realization comes like a lightning bolt, that they will get nowhere with women, by being overly accommodating. For some, it is a divorce. For some, it is just a breakup, for some, it is just a fallow period. But most men do figure this out, by their 30’s. Women hit the wall in their 30’s. Overly accommodating men also hit a wall, the wall of realization that they were lied to.

    They take it in different ways. Some get bitter. Some welcome the awareness. Some get sort of philosophical. Listen to feminists talk; they have total and complete contempt for such guys, and they are after the alpha males. Some feminists marry foreigners, who are alphas, and discover that, for example, African men are polygamous, and not the tender, suffering souls their brainwashing told them they were. One can see these women particularly in university towns. They realize that third world men see them as somewhat insane, ok for sex, perhaps, even short term relationships, in between the rounds of play with other women. If these feminists have children with these guys, well they probably get the kids- though they wouldn’t overseas. And these women are perhaps the most bitter of all feminists, because they realized they were lied to- just as our soyboy who has the polarity revelation may be bitter.

    I’ve seen soyboys enter the military, where they can actually lead the pack, to make up for lost time. They learn quickly how to pick up women. They get totally into their male polarity, and all of a sudden lead a somewhat charmed life, as long as they use birth control. I remember a sergeant i knew, in the army. He had to divorce his first wife, she was playing around extensively behind his back. His second wife did the same thing. So, he got rid of her, too. He got his tubes cut, so to speak, with a vasectomy, and had a great time. He could pick up anything he wanted in the clubs. Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus, and he ensures that clubs around military posts somehow always have more women looking, than men, and that some of them even look good, without beer goggles. He brought home some that looked darn good to me. He told me he never even had to say “I love you”, they were all hornier than he was, it was no work at all. He told me he was ugly, about a 5 for attractiveness, and it didn’t matter, he still got a fish every time he threw the line in. And he did this in an area with the highest male to female ratio of almost anywhere in the country. One guy at work was divorced, by his wife, who later told him it was the worst mistake she’d ever made. He was a good Catholic, too. He wasn’t about to remarry. Oh no. He had more girlfriends than I have fingers on both hands. He was a nice guy, great smile, always getting women to laugh, and smoothly alpha. Why on earth would he go back to the shrew he’d married?

    He was as overly accommodating as you say- when young. He must be in his late 70’s now. He had a look on his face, kind of like a bull in a field with 100 cows in it, something like that. Heck, they would often pay for dinner, just to have a guy. And if they gave him any trouble, he cut them off immediately.

    I find young men, say 18 or so, very discouraged because they can’t get a girlfriend. I explain that women prefer older guys, in his demographic slice, and the key is to concentrate on finishing school, and working hard, because the tide turns when he is 30 or so. I explain that once he has that aura of success, with a whiff of bad boy, that he will have his pick of women in their early 20’s. Prior to that, well, there are plenty of cougars, to play with. Young men can be so stupid. I was, then. But they do acquire awareness and wisdom. When I see a gorgeous women, say 45, with kids, who has just dumped a husband, and looks to get the cheerleader treatment she got in high school, I just smile. It is not that way. Not even for the gorgeous. I was at a class reunion, and I saw a woman who in high school had her pick of football players. She was an 11, yeah, really. At the reunion, she was still hot, in her late 30’s, not so typical. And she had a kid. And she was looking for a partner, clearly. And she had realized that she was in a different place in life, and she was no longer the princess. I could see all this on her face. Her potential partners all knew about what happens to men stupid enough to marry a woman with children, and that it almost never works out well. She hadn’t hit the wall. She appeared to be on a good, alkalinizing diet, and was probably able to delay hitting the wall, by at least 10 years. But she couldn’t really go after guys in her class. Her only real hope was men at least 15 years older, who were very tolerant. It hurt to look at her, in college, she was lovely beyond belief, I do not exaggerate, when I say an 11. I would have sold my soul to have her. But she never really valued intelligence. I wish her well, wherever she is. She had zero respect for anything but bull alphas, in high school. Sucks to be her- now.

  20. Fox walking says

    Perhaps you are reading this, and realizing you are the Overly… OAM. And the realization hit you like WHAM! Yes, Women Have A Methodology. Women Hate Accommodating Men. It’s just different. You realize you have been given the clue, to start the Hero’s journey, as in the book of that name. You leave behind your old self, and start seeking. Maybe you find the red pill sites. Maybe you find a spiritual path. Maybe you realize that it is time to drop the lies you were told. Your true self starts its birth process, in you. You look around, and realize there is much more to life- on the invisible path that starts opening up to you. What is that Canadian psychologist- Jordan Peterson- you realize that he speaks simple, yet profound, truths. You seek out solitude, to learn from it. Maybe you run across Tom Brown, Jr’s, or Neville Goddard, or Tamarack Song, or Joseph Murphy, books, and/or youtube stuff. Even Evelyn Monahan’s book on Metaphysical Healing is interesting. Maybe you find Coach Greg or Donovan Sharpe or Terrence Popp’s websites. And you start inhaling all that awareness. And you realize that you are being reborn- as a man, a real man. You may even go fallow with women completely, avoiding them, for a time. You have to find yourself inside. And you do that, more and more. You realize that you enjoy work, and excelling. You realize that your sense of self has grown beyond your skin. You may even do a little volunteer work, here and there, because it’s fun. You realize that you have grown beyond being a little boy, dependent, and have become a man, independent. You realize that feminists are poisonous, and to be avoided. Oh, they’ll argue the point- so you simply don’t say anything to them. You quit wasting your energy on conflict, and worry, and stupid consumer games. You leave the liquor behind, and quit the pot, because you just don’t want them any more. You get high on pure awareness, and don’t need physical substitutes. You may clean out your apartment. You may even go on a journey, in the wilderness- perhaps the Appalachian Trail. Older women want to give you advice, because they can feel your spiritual flames burning, not really in a sexual way, more in a life force way, and they appreciate that energy. Older men see a kindred soul in you, and give you useful pointers. You gradually grow out of your high school resentments, and realize you are in the Spring of your adult life. You probably evade women, for a time. Or maybe you run across a nice one, who is ok to be with for a while, and then she departs, and that’s fine. And you realize that the spiritual side of life is the only satisfying part of life. Your true self is born in you, and you become a man in the old way, a real man, not the little boys we see in politics, in their 60’s. And life is good. You realize you have much more power and control than you thought you did. And you have choices. You begin to plan out the rest of your life, and taking action on that plan. And life is good. And you see the women who rejected you, in high school, and college, and women like them, making bad decisions, hitting the SMV wall at top speed, experiencing the Wile E. Coyote moment of realizing they no longer have any road under them… and you say, “Gee, sucks to be you, doesn’t it” and simply move on, because it is not your problem, and you cannot help people who refuse your help. You realize you are becoming a master of your craft. You help people whenever you can. and life just gets better and better. Sure, bad stuff happens. You check yourself- you’re still alive- and you move on to continue the mission. And you listen to the song in your heart, the song in the Sun, the song of the wind in the branches, and you realize it is all the same song, and it is truly breathtakingly beautiful. And as you center yourself, women start seeking you, many. And you see your younger self in them, so you aren’t really cruel, you just politely turn away those you have no interest in. You may even find one that has enough heart to risk marriage and children with. Or not. But it doesn’t matter, because you are at the center of yourself, and your life. And it’s all good. You are at peace.

  21. William says

    To be, or not to be, that is the question:
    Whether ’tis nobler in the mind to suffer
    the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
    Or to take arms against a sea of troubles, and in doing so, end them.

  22. David says

    An OAM is a man with -weak, or no, boundaries. He’ll get stepped on wherever he goes.
    If you, as an OAM, aren’t stuck in a relationship- kids, whatever, get out. It won’t get better. Just leave.
    If you are stuck, then there is a game you can play. Just start getting sick, here and there, low energy, nothing the doctors can figure out. Recognize that the medicines doctors offer usually don’t work, of course. But if you just have these odd physical problems, that keep you from being OA, well, that is hard to fight with. As you get weaker, she will probably not be the brave nurse who stands by you until death, she will simply dump you, for a better prospect. Welcome to the USA. And that’s what you want. You want it to be her decision, not yours. Once she’s gone, find a new living arrangement. Dump whatever stuff isn’t useful to you any more. Change your cell phone number. Don’t go to your old haunts- they pull you back. Spend some time in nature, listening to the breeze, and to water in brooks. Don’t see women, for a while. Improve your work performance, volunteer for new work, this will benefit you far more than your employer. Get into work 15 minutes early, and leave 15 minutes later than others. Spend some time in meditation, which is basically turning off your yammering mind, and getting into silence. Silence is a powerful teacher. Maybe get some martial arts instruction. That helps. My parents got me into karate, when I was in the 8th and 9th grade. It was incredibly useful. I wasn’t great, but I learned to stand my ground. People quit picking on me. The only reaction they saw in me was a quiet stare. That messed them up more than any physical threat. I was stuck in a small town, through high school. I knew I wanted no ties to keep me there, so I didn’t date any girls, in high school. They came on to me, which was a useful lesson. You cannot have good relationships until you clean yourself out, inside. I dated in college, sure. And I had a strong interest in spiritual awareness. I’m polite, but I have boundaries. That’s the difference. If a woman trespasses boundaries, more than once, she is not respectful, and you need to dump her. She is on her own learning path. Women came on to me, in college, which seemed odd at the time, but I understand why- they like strength in a man, a sort of “I don’t need to worry” peace. Women are always looking to get a guy better than they are, in one way or another- natural, you want to go up, not down. So be that up guy. Learn how to make people laugh. Generally that means doing the unexpected, playing with words. Set boundaries. I won’t deal with people who aren’t polite. Their learning path does not intersect mine long. A woman who has no respect for herself- like a typical feminist- does not enter my world. I do all I can to make sure she doesn’t even know I exist. And deep down, as abusive as they are, they respect boundaries, not least because they haven’t set their own spiritual boundaries, or at least they set them badly. Abusive feminists? I just walk away. Sorry, not interested in whatever you’re selling. Get to your spiritual self, let that express, and maybe we can talk, but refined, sharpened hatred does nothing for me. I’m married, now. I set boundaries. We get along. We have a kid. And she respects me, because I know who I am, I am a man, and I have boundaries.

    Recognize that women despise, I mean totally despise, an OAM. They may tolerate whatever service he offers. Don’t believe me. Go to a group on campus, and see the soyboys who think being OA is going to get them the girl. It doesn’t work. They want the bad boys. So spend some time alone, let your true self emerge. Take some martial arts training. master your schooling, or job. Learn to make small talk, because doing so gives you feedback. And respect yourself first. When i was in college, a guy with much world experience, in a grad program, went out with this one woman, who said she was looking for the MRS degree. He said he wasn’t looking for a wife, not yet, and respected that. Clear expectations are nice. If you have to lie, to get some, how much can you respect yourself? And there is a massive difference between marketing and lying. You want to get to where you walk so confidently, you smile at a good looking woman on the street, from your soul, and she wants to talk to you. Screen, of course. Green hair, tattoos, bizarre clothing, feminist paraphernalia- is an intelligence indicator that she has a lot of hate to work through her system, yet. Respect that, ghost her before you meet her, and move on. Life has its ups and downs. The downs teach much. Be happy for your OA phase, as you review it, in your past, because it taught you much. And set your boundaries. And then set clear, tangible goals, and work towards accomplishing them. Help people when you can, it’s good for your soul. And if people start to walk on you- just leave. They’ll get the message, and you have done them a favor- by providing feedback. And one lesson- women do not change their inner universe, not usually. If they have hate inside, it will stay there. If they have gross disrespect for men inside, they will probably always. Very few women have the guts to do, say, a 4 day Visionquest, to invite their true self to manifest. They are too busy with the externals- cosmetics, clothes, partying, and so on. I did my first Tom Brown, Jr. seminar some years back. None of the women in the course wore makeup. All wore practical clothes, and shoes. There were a few proto-feminists, who were shedding that, for their true selves, it was beautiful to see. They weren’t shrinking violets, they made their own shelters, by themselves. They paid attention. Their got their bow drill to make fire. They learned about traps, and the 3/4 rod, and flint, and animal behavior, and edible wild plants. OK, they did set up a way to take a sort of sponge bath arrangement, in the woods, but they were otherwise good to go. It was good to see women who didn’t have the extreme stupidity our culture fills them with. These women were smart enough to be disconnecting from the grid. That’s a useful lesson. Seek out your true self, and you find a different kind of people. Disconnect from the Matrix, the grid, from Josef Goebbels’ descendants in the mass media, and find your own truth. And the truth will make you free. Were those women beautiful? Yeah, with the light of their true selves. They all had smiles connected to their hearts, which is rare, in American women. They were mostly healthy, eating well. Such women exist. People only reflect what is going on inside. And if you want to really cure that OA weakness- start doing any kind of service that helps people. Volunteer in a homeless shelter, even if it’s only bringing small soaps. Find someone doing something to help the community- the larger self- and help them however you can. This will give you a self-esteem, a feeling of being able to create, in power, like you cannot imagine. Cut yourself off from women, for a while. You need to improve your emotional wiring, inside, before you play with high voltage. Be thankful all those women dumped on you as they did- they were part of the education you attracted to yourself. And when you graduate from their school- at the date you pick- you move on, to a whole new group of teachers. As you love and respect yourself more, the people around you love and respect you more- because they are all actors, reading from the script you wrote. That’s a heady discovery. And somewhere, on the path, as you wander, you will find a woman who has heart, who is mature, who hasn’t been passing it out to every bad boy she could find, respects herself but is not a feminazi, who is interested and able to commit to a long term relationship. She will probably use minimal to no cosmetics. She will dress in practical clothing. She’ll be physically fit. And you will want to move slowly, to enjoy every step of the way, with this goddess in flesh, for such she is, she expresses the feminine pole of divinity. Get her talking, first. You need to find out what unresolved trauma she might have, first. Don’t sleep with her right away. No. Make her wait. She’ll understand. Sex, with a really good partner, in a committed relationship, compared to random hookups, is like comparing the best Champagne, to sour Boone’s Farm Strawberry Hill. It is the difference between a magnificent chocolate cake, in a high end European restaurant, to stuff that’s been sitting on the shelf for months, in a shelf at the gas station. It is like comparing a fresh rose, to the cheapest plastic flower. They have the same shape, but the spirit is radically different. You know not the path, until you have walked it.

  23. David says

    The rigid oak, and the sands, are all driven before the winds.
    The bamboo simply bends.

    Be neither sand, nor oak. Pay attention. Move with the flow. And life is good.

  24. Scott Plavnick says

    A man shouldn’t refuse to be emasculated because he won’t get his needs met. He should refuse to be emasculated because it is wrong and she certainly won’t respect him. It’s not good for HER to be selfish and self-absorbed. It certainly won’t be good for any kids in the family!

  25. Sandra says

    If a totalitarian government had done everything to men, that feminism has, they would have thought themselves greatly oppressed, worse even than Bostonians felt under British rule.

  26. Ewen says

    Jim- I think I found the main myth of these people, in the papers.

    Once upon a time, there was this bad bad thing called the Patriarchy. It oppressed women every day. It brainwashed men into opressors. It used the law, and authority, and religion, to turn women into slaves. Then these great heroines came along, to save women from this horrible lifetime of slavery. They were the first feminists. They brought the holy message to women: rise up! throw off your chains! Get rid of men! And many women responded. Some refused to get married, and when the baby blues came… they knew it was because of propaganda from the patriarchy. Some women tattooed their bodies, to make sure the nasty patriarchs stayed away. And it worked. Some women made Triggleypuff look like a matchstick, and knew that this was all a plot by the patriarchy. Some women decided that the best way to fight the patriarchy was human sacrifices- of men. They used divorce courts, and jobsites, and every forum possible, to do this, to make the Patriarchy go away. Some women did want partners, because what better way to fight the Patriarchy than to stomp on men, and make their lives miserable. And they demanded princes, because of course, they deserved no less. Marriage and family began decaying. Crime rose. People lost connection to others, and became sad, which of course, was all a plot by the Patriarchy. And the solution was of course more laws, more propaganda, from the feminists. Everything started falling apart. I feel like Tacitus, as I write this, seeing the downward turn of my society, and knowing that I can’t do much for it. We have no more food, in stores, no trucks, no factories, we have to make everything ourselves. Some of us are eating rats. We are trying to replant forests, so we can use their wood, to make housing of some kind. We have learned how to trap animals, and that sometimes works. Our children ask us every day, how our grandparents could have been so stupid, as to destroy the foundation of their civilization, with hate, lies, distraction, and a total disregard for what makes societies work. We do not have an answer for them. It was like the whole world went crazy.

    -Jim- I think this society broke down, completely. The population of this village seems to have died out, as in a famine, along with the rest of this area. We’ve seen the skeletons of very tall buildings. There’s not much of this society left, other than some wonderful roads, and some stone buildings, and massive piles of trash. We think they just entered some kind of mass insanity, and began destroying themselves, over a few decades.

    -Well, Mr. Spock, put it all in the tricorder. This will be a job for the archeologists. We don’t have much more time here, we’ll need to pack up, and get going. We find sad stories all the time, there’s nothing more we can do.

  27. Constance says

    Implementing feminist ideas, is like being in a lifeboat, on the high seas, and hammering holes in the boat, because it was built by the Patriarchy.

    Can you show me any countries that are better off- when you consider every factor- as a result of feminism? I can’t.

  28. Lorenzo says

    Some MRA’s feel that women overrate themselves, in a solipsist world. They conflate their SMV with their personal value. This is bizarre. The most important single thing a man can do, to be sane, is to see things as they are.
    Here are a few comments, from a Rollo Tomasi video, on this. We are all judged by our appearance. Women rate men on a scale, but men aren’t supposed to return the eval. People are judged.

    The obesity pandemic plays into this, there is so much obesity that a women automatically gets a 3 point bump from simply being at a normal weight.

    What I find disturbing on any online dating site is women using all these snapchat cartoon filters. Why the blank would a dude be interested in some broad putting cartoon ears and mouse noses and whiskers on themselves?

    If she hits the wall and pursues you, she thinks she’s settling. Not only is it bad from the start, in a few years she’ll leave you because she couldn’t put up with lowering her standards. And she will still take half your stuff.

    Makeup can have the same effect in real life…. it’s like photoshopping your face in the real world with how much it can modify their natural looks…. and again gives them an Inflated sense of self worth.

    As a professional, I see the feminist fight against point systems and grades as keeping expertise out of work environments, to ‘even the playing field’. It’s being done in the US at our own demise.

    Amazing to hear this one lads – particularly close to home re. the manners issue. I’ve dumped otherwise great girls just because their manners are painfully non-existent. It REALLY bothers me, maybe because I was born in 1981 and raised with manners as a social priority. I’ve even had talks with said girls about manners and amazingly they agree people should use their manners.. yet next day after me buying them breakfast there’s not a peep of gratitude. It seems petty but it’s the principle of it. Thanks again for discussing something that I thought only bothered me!

    I have been so sick of women using filters for years now. Women for the most part are so fake yet demand men to be honest. Women these days can’t hardly stand the truth.

    Over hooping, too much measurement of relationship… listening to her friends more than her grandmother… all ways to ruin love-

    Yeah but female Solipsism + Social Media creates Narcissistic-women

    I love a woman who can pull a good duck face…said no man ever!

    why do we humans value change over substance…….. it doesnt matter if the change will cause life to go to hell or not. CHANGE for changes sake has DECIMATED our country, new generations have no connection to why things were done the way they were.

    If a woman has a filter on for a picture on a dating app it’s an immediate swipe left for me

    you cannot vet ANYONE FOR behavior 10yrs down the road………. the 21 yr old you married has 3 kids , is 32, cash out or stay ??

    heh: My ex gf had these insane shots, I couldn’t bring it to myself to explain to her she looked NOTHING like that in real life

    I persoanlly had manners drilled in me, say thank you, be respectful, treat people how you wanted to be treated and you earn your way in life and earn a good man. You are not entitled to anything. Im a you give out good energy, you get good things back and pay it forward.

    I think social media has had a negative impact on society as a whole escalating toxic behaviors, losing real human connections, depression, etc. I dont use FB, Snapchat or dating sites. I do have an IG for business though. I think dating apps/sites/SM have given people the grass is greener mentality missing out on good people.

  29. Lorenzo says

    EVERYONE has baggage at any age, there are those that learn/heal from it and those that don’t projecting playing victim running on the insanity wheel.

    Some of this pre-dates social media, and may be attributable to feminism. I saw some of it when I was married to a pleasantly plump gal who had been fed BS by her feminist divorced Mom all of her life.

    Don’t American women judge 85% of men as totally unworthy of their time, energy & attention in general? Then these women over hear men evaluating who they find attractive and at what intensity and then they see themselves thru their own mental filter of 85% men are unworthy… but now they feel the karma of that upon themselves?

    Yes, attention is the coin of the realm in girl world, and yes, the highest form of attention for them is from men. BUT ONLY IN THE CONTEXT OF ITS IMPACT ON HER STANDING IN THE FEMALE HIERARCHY. The man’s (YOUR) attention is only valuable insofar as it RAISES HER STATUS IN THE FEMALE COLLECTIVE. AND THIS is why they hate the 10-scale so much; her less-than-10 rating is an OBJECTIVE and ABSOLUTE number that directly states her below-highest position in her female hive. That hive status is what matters. The man’s attention is just the measuring tape for other females to see. This is why she hates it when other women see a low-value man giving her sexual attention. That’s him, the measuring tape, telling all of her hive that his low value is so appropriately matched with hers that he thought he could get her.

    The SMV scale is NOT dehumanizing to women; it is DISEMPOWERING to women and therefore since it stands in the way of their Hypergamy it is offensive to them.

    One of the problems in this day and age we leave in .. Is all women feel they have settled when they marry .. All of them feel they could of done better on choosing a man.. Fact..

    to expedite this inevitable female collapse of western civilization………. smarter and brighter MEN will exit the derision of society……….MEN made this society, MEN will build the next one. Sadly females are gonna lose ALL PRIVILEGES……… they cannot police hypergamy….. MEN will enforce this.

    Seriously, I know well well below average women with 1000’s of matches on one app. The amount of attention and likes a woman gets in one day is more than most guys will get in one lifetime now.

    Most women on social media are very below average in looks. They look stupid trying hard to with the filters and poses. I don’t even give them attention….I’ll leave that for the beta men who are thirsty.

    In studies, 80% women rate themselves as above average. And rate only 20% of men as average or above…

    By correlation then, only insane people are never insane. Because, only an insane person is always confident in all situations, If you are told to perform heart surgery, and have no training, and are confident in doing heart surgery, then you are insane but I guess that you would never be jealous.
    Definition of solipsism. On a philosophic level, it is the recognition that only the internal consciousness can be absolutely certain to exist, whereas the external world could conceivably be a simulation, a dream, or fabrication of some kind. Solipsism is where most women live.

    You state that women are inately solipsistic and that as children we amplify it in women and train it out of men. ( 48:00 – 51:00 ) If men were not inately solipsistic identical to women, then why do we need to train “making yourself your mental point of origin” out of them? If it wasn’t in men in the first place there be nothing to train out. Additionally, you claim that female solipsism was necessary for women as they needed to prioritize their survival. In many previous episodes you and your peers continually tell men that if she’s not making you her mental point of origin then she doesn’t see you as alpha.

    Another thing with these women and social media is don’t they get that all these silly filters to whiten their eyes, dye their hair, take out their wrinkles, etc. it all looks stupid and doesn’t really make them look better, it makes them look phony.

    Attention is the coin of the realm- for women. So pass it out sparingly. They want status for their female hive, and male attention can help there. Unless it’s a feminist hive.

  30. Nate says

    You May Be Out Of Your 20’s If…

    You aren’t accomodating, you are respectfully cooperative…

    Your potted plants stay alive.

    You consider intimacy in a twin-sized bed absurd.

    Your refrigerator contains more food than beer.

    You get up at 6:00 AM instead of going to bed then.

    You hear your favorite song on the elevator at work.

    You carry an umbrella.

    You watch the Weather Channel.

    Your friends marry and divorce instead of hook-up and break-up.

    You go from 130 days of vacation per year to 7.

    You no longer consider jeans and a sweater “dressed up.”

    You’re the one calling the police because those kids next door don’t turn down
    their stereo.

    Older relatives are comfortable telling bawdy jokes around you.

    You no longer know what time Taco Bell closes.

    Your car insurance goes down and your car payments go up.

    You feed your dog Science Diet instead of McDonald’s.

    Sleeping on the couch is a no-no.

    You no longer take naps from noon to 6 p.m.

    Dinner and a movie is a whole date instead of the beginning of one.

    MTV News is no longer your primary source of information.

    You no longer consider a $6.00 bottle of wine the “good stuff.”

    You actually eat breakfast foods at breakfast time.

    Grocery lists contain more than macaroni, Diet Pepsi, and Ho-Ho’s.

    “I just can’t drink the way I used to” replaces “I’m never going to drink that much again.”

  31. Waleed says

    Overaccommodation- a Sufi tale, told of Mula Nasrudin.

    An old man, a boy & a donkey were going to town.
    The boy rode on the donkey & the old man walked.

    As they went along they passed some people who remarked “What a shame the
    old man is walking and the boy is riding.”

    The man and boy thought maybe the critics were right, so they changed
    positions.

    Later they passed some people who remarked “What a shame…. he makes that
    little boy walk.” So they then decided they’d both walk!

    Soon they passed some more people who remarked “They’re really stupid to
    walk when they have a decent donkey to ride.”

    So, they both rode the donkey. Now they passed some people who shamed them
    by saying “How awful to put such a load on a poor donkey.”

    The boy and man figured they were probably right, so they decide to carry
    the donkey.

    As they crossed the bridge, they lost their grip on the animal and he fell
    into the river and drowned.

    The moral of the story?
    If you try to please everyone, you might as well… Kiss you’re a** goodbye!

    Nasrudin stories are invariably funny. You can google them.

  32. Vadim says

    Things I’d like to say to feminists:

    I can see your point, but you’re still full of crap.

    I don’t know what your problem is, but I’ll bet it’s hard to pronounce.

    How about never? Is never good for you?

    It’s nice of you to set aside this special time to humiliate yourself
    in public.

    I’ll try being nicer if you’ll try being smarter.

    I’m out of my mind, but feel free to leave a message.

    I don’t date women directly. I’m a consultant.

    It sounds like English, but I don’t know what in the hell you’re talking about. Can you translate that into Python?

    Ah, ha. I see the screw-up fairy has visited us again.

    I like you. You remind me of me—when I was young and foolish.

    You validate my inherent mistrust of strangers and feminists.

    I have plenty of abilities, talents, skills, and value. I just don’t give a hoot about you.

    Do people often visualize duct tape over your mouth this early in your conversations?

    I will always cherish the initial misconceptions I had about you being respectful, easy to work with, and competent.

    Thank you. We’re all refreshed by that unique point of view.

    Just because no one understands you doesn’t mean you’re an artist.

    Any connection between your ideology and reality is purely coincidental. There must be some overlap somewhere.

    I’m not rude. You’re just extremely irritating, insignificant, and wasting my life energy listening to you.

    And your victim mentality, crybaby, whiny-child opinion would be…?

    Do I look like a person who wants to be preached to, by a feminist? Please tell me, so I can take a table saw, and cut off the offending parts.

    Sarcasm is just one more service we offer, because we reflect your true nature back at you.

    If I throw a stick, will you leave?

    Errors have been made. Men will be blamed.

    Whatever kind of look you were going for, you missed.

    I’m trying to imagine you with a personality, character, morals, a pleasant attitude, focus on work, and so forth. It isn’t working, though.

    Can I trade you for what’s behind door number two?

    So many freaks; so few circuses and feminist conventions.

    Nice perfume. Must you marinate in it?

    Thanks for brightening my day. I can see the lead salts in your fingernail polish going directly to your liver, and working with the coal tar in your lipstick, and the other poisons you ingest, to help shut down your liver, and it feels good.

    Chaos, panic, and disorder.
    Another entitled feminist at work.

    That was a truly beautiful, pure expression of hate, you just did. Did it come from the heart, or did you have to rehearse it?

    Karma is a nasty bitch with fangs, bloody claws, and a baaaaaaad attitude. Please keep whistling for it, that way.

    I’m delighted you’re having your slutwalk. It’s better than saltpeter, for men.

    Why no, this bicycle has no interest in fish.

  33. Aurelio says

    Women want what they can’t have. They want the 10 out of 10, in every capacity. Many want to play with the bad boys. A male college student has only to look around, to see this. And many women want to play with the bad boys until say about 38 or so, and the baby rabies shows up. Then they want to set all those years of bad habits, bad microbes, bad condition of the liver and kidneys, toxins stored up in fat around the liver, aside, as if they never happened, and find an alpha provider, 10 of 10 on the hot scale, 10 of 10 on the money scale, 10 of 10 on the scale of paying attention to her, 10 of 10 on the bad boy scale because she never wanted to give up the bad boys, 10 of 10 on the car, 10 of 10 on having the house, the summer home, the trips overseas, 10 of 10 on allowing her to go solo or with her posse to Cancun for side action with more bad boys… and… and…

    It’s like many women cannot get out of the bounds of their own flesh. A man who is a 10 in all categories wants to play as much as she does. Look at a Hugh Hefner, Jeffrey Epstein, and many other very successful men, who are 10’s. How many married to settle down? Hefner did marry, well, but he never gave up the side action. David Rockefeller died at 102. He was still sleeping with fertile women, using Viagra. I don’t think he ever got married.

    Many women want to have their cake, and eat it too, and keep the box before getting out the mix, and have the frosting but not put on weight… Women in third world countries do not play around, for the most part. They know they have too much too lose. They know to get married in their prime, have their kids timely, raise them well, and yes, most of them also work, the vast majority of them work.

    Overseas, like Europe, Asia, Africa, they often like to see the guy about 10 years older than the wife. He’s gotten the wild urges out of his system, he is ready to settle down, he has learned some wisdom and matured. But these people are practical, you know, grounded. Americans are f…ing insane, for the most part.

    I know a guy, simple working guy, who had a wife and family. Several kids. He came home one day, and there was a note on the table. The woman abandoned him, and the children, to run off with a guy, a bad boy. Well, the guy was tough. He let the pain out, and got up to continue the mission. He went to the divorce hearing. He took care of his kids, kept working. Who else would have taken over, any way? So he adjusted. Divorce was finalized. He didn’t have that much to take, and she took all she could, of course. Fast forward 2.5 years. The woman shows up at his doorstep. Wants to come back like nothing ever happened. Her bad boy dumped her, what a surprise. He just said “no”. Wouldn’t even let her stay the night in the house- there are legal ramifications to that. He said he couldn’t trust her, and simply wanted nothing else to do with her. Now this guy has a good heart. He was in his late 40’s. He started dating a female college student, who really enjoyed his company. He was funny, mature, a great guy to be around. He did in time tell her that it wasn’t appropriate to marry her- that she could do a lot better than him. Why did he do that? Well, he’s wise. She might well dump him also. And maybe experience of the average run of men might give her better perspective.

    I knew a guy who would go to those bars, that women in their later 30’s and 40’s, even 50’s, go to. Piano bar. They go there in hopes of finding Mr. Right. Yet too often, they are in that demographic slice where the last rites have been said, for Mr. Right. They haven’t developed their characters, they aren’t good moms usually, they have a lot of irritations, they complain a lot, they expect men to put up with some unbelievably high maintenance, they aren’t in good health, they are noticeably aging- not so much from the years, as from the poor diet, the booze, the drugs, the toxic cosmetics, the bad company they keep.
    So, why did that guy go to those bars? He went there to drink one drink only, with a friend, and they looked around, and they saw all the women that insulted them deeply, in high school. They saw the women that gave them phone numbers, in college, that turned out to be the rape crisis number. They saw all the women that ignored, dissed, dumped on, insulted, harassed, and otherwise rejected them. And the two guys smiled. They finished one drink. They would politely reject any interest. And women in that demographic aren’t playing highly camouflaged attraction games. They will come over and rub their hands on a man’s genitals. They know that men do not understand their subtle signals. And then they would walk out, feeling great. If women don’t “need a man”, why do they crowd such establishments, looking?

    The first time a woman hit on me, I was shocked, I thought I was hallucinating. My alpha had flowered, and I didn’t realize it. I was a nerd in high school. After the first 2-3 insults, I just quit trying- and I actually appreciate those insults, it meant I hit the books addictively, did well in college, and got good jobs.

    In the old days, grandmothers and mothers would tell their daughters what reasonable standards are. It isn’t happening these days. Women set the bar too high. Then, they start getting desperate, and the bar starts coming down. And they hate it, because they know they deserve the Prince, but he’s not around. They may settle. And they’ll never let the guy forget it, they bitterly resent the guy they settled for, and often will play around, anyway.

    A 6, with a good heart, who works at things, takes care of business, becomes an 8, in a few years. A 10, who is treated like a princess, starts decaying, in her 40’s. As the interest lags, as the wild life takes its toll, as time moves on, her SMV goes down. But our 6, who has a good heart, does the job, takes care of the kids, most likely works, well, her SMV actually goes up, over time. I pay attention. I’ve seen women like that, and many of them hit the wall very gently, if at all. You see women like this in Latin Europe, Asia, even Latin america. When one sees a woman like this become a widow, more often than not, she is remarried, to a good guy, in time. For men over 30 or so, or should I say for men whose brains are above their belts, the number one attractive quality in a woman, is a good heart. Physical health is a strong number two quality. A woman who doesn’t have a good heart is not worth spending any time with, I don’t care if she’s a Playboy Bunny with no need of retouching.

    Feminism is poisoning women’s hearts. Sinead O’Connor’s video on her Facebook is where most of them are going. Sucks to be her. Too bad, so sad. Older men who discover a woman they are going out with is a feminist, know to cut her off, in stealth. You know, they miss dates, or are late, or are distracted. They know it is too dangerous just to cut off that feminist, so they go beta, go unreliable, go distracted, and let her cut the cords. They have learned stealth, from women, and treat women as the women have treated them.

    Life is not separate elements. What you inflict on others, comes back multiplied. The good stuff you do for others, comes back multiplied. The Near Death experience people, starting w/Dr. Raymond Moody, note that the “Life Review”, which happens just after life functions shut down, involve reliving one’s entire life, from the viewpoint of every person you ever affected. You feel all the pleasure- and the pain- you ever inflicted on anyone- as them- all at once. Raymond Moody’s initial work was on over 2,000 cases. Anita Moorjani had such an experience, and Wayne Dyer asked her to put it in a book, which she did. I can’t imagine a better punishment/reward- works for both Mother Theresa, and Adolf Hitler. Imagine that- all of it coming back to you. Dannion Brinkley said that experiencing the pain he’d inflicted on others- as them- was excruciating, and of course there was no escape, no going unconscious. Is it real? I don’t know. Thousands of stories from across the world… could be. And if true, it would be the perfect justice. Those truly damaged feminists who wreaked their vengeance on men… would get to experience all of their pain. All at once. With no escapes, or excuses. When I fully understood this, instead of a sort of lackadaisical charity, I started getting serious about helping people, everywhere I could, in as many ways as I could. As my energy level goes up, I meet fewer and fewer people I’d want to work vengeance on. Those people have fallen out of my life. The more I bless people, the more I am blessed. It’s a virtuous cycle, as opposed to the vicious cycle of feminism, and all the other sick ‘isms in our society.

  34. Darren says

    This problem is self-correcting. Overly Accomodating men discover they are on the lower floor of the 2 story outhouse, quickly. They learn from this, and change their ways. Some go alpha, and some go MGTOW. Few stay this way for long.

  35. Mon Aziz says

    I am sure going to be hammered here. But what I have read thus far from the great writer Suzanne Venker cannot agree more with the Islamic marriage principles (minus the fake news media)
    The Quran values the marriage and the importance of family and 1/3 of it talks about marriage values.
    Thus far Suzanne writings is nothing but very similar to those.

  36. Lucas says

    I see over-accommodating men, who are stuck in marriages with vampirella, who sucks their energy, money, time, and resources into a vast pit. They can’t leave because of the kids. But they calculate the day the last kid leaves college. And they set up a calendar. They deal with the stress, the same way military people do- with the countdown calendar. Though some of them commit suicide by the installment plan, you know, heart attacks, and so on. But say he gets to that stage, where the last kid is out of college. He’s been prepping for years. One day, he says he’s going off somewhere, maybe in a car. And he does- 1,000 miles or so, paying cash for gas, so he can’t be easily tracked, to a pre-positioned earth lodge, well camouflaged, deep in the woods. He sells the car. And just goes off the grid. He has buried shovels, axes, blankets in heavy plastic containers, and so on. You can find hermits like this as far north as Alaska. or, if he’s physically fit, he can go off to the French Foreign Legion, or even the Spanish Foreign Legion. After 5 years, he has a French or Spanish passport, in any name he likes. Where my sister lives, a guy from Canada somehow got American ID, got his kid away from an abusive wife, and hid out till his kid was grown. I have no idea how he did it. But he did.

    So, Vampirella, as you dump on your Overly Accommodating Male, and kill off whatever love he had for you, and make him count the days… know that you are on borrowed time. he might just drop dead on you. It happens. Oh, you’ll get the insurance, but it won’t go so far. You’ll discover all the stuff he was doing for you, and have to do it yourself. And your bargaining position to replace him will be in the negatives. You don’t have to invest in your marriage. But if you don’t, you may just not see any dividends, either.

    I know a guy, whose wife slept around on him. He divorced her, and she got the house. He demolished it, a week before she was to take ownership. Men who find this stuff out sometimes just go crazy. The meekest mouse of a husband, when he finds out he’s been cuckolded, is capable of strangling Vampirella with his bare hands, or beating her to death with a baseball bat. Women get out of their rational minds, into their emotions, very easily. It takes a lot for a man to do it, and when it happens, they can be crazy, totally crazy. Cops know to be afraid of these guys, because they will charge armed cops, with weapons. The threat of being killed is actually a bonus, for him. They call this suicide by cop, in some areas. Some life insurance companies won’t pay off, for circumstances like this, too.

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