Ep. 35: What Sex Looks Like Once the Kids Come Along

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So I posted a meme recently that said, “Remember the sex you had before the babies came?” and received over 100 comments that run the gamut. Here are just a few:

“My general observation is that sex after babies is less. A lot less. For women it becomes more of a ‘have to do’ than an ‘I get to do.'”

“I have a 7 1/2 year old daughter who is amazing at being birth control. Lol. Won’t sleep without her mother.”

“The same after babies if you know how to manage your kids. Make ’em go to bed early and you can have 2 hours of fun every night.”

“Teenagers and all our bedrooms are too close together. We are looking for another house!”

“Yes, but the the one after they go away for college is SO MUCH BETTER!” 😉🤭🤣

And my personal fav…”Yes! 9 times in one night. It was glorious. 3 kids later and we joke about having sex 2012 style. Still do it frequently but wow is it different. When you have to hurry up because a baby is crying, etc. I get why so many women lose interest after kids.”

Join Andre and me to discuss sex after the kids come along and what parents can do to keep their sex life strong in each stage of parenthood.


– Sex changes while raising children
– Different Stages of Married Sex: complete freedom before babies; bodily changes from pregnancy; sleep deprivation in infancy; elementary school aged kids who go to bed earlier, which leaves a window; teenage years; empty nest years
– Distractions, especially kids in the house, make it hard for women to fully engage in sex
– Remember that all of these stages are not permanent
– Make sure to take care of your marriage, while raising kids because once the kids leave the house, what have left is a relationship with your spouse

Suzanne Venker

Suzanne is an author, columnist and relationship coach committed to helping women let go of cultural beliefs that undermine their happiness in life and in love.
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